Why Are So Many Young Men Against Committment These Days?

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Usually boo's are labelled honey, bae ect. not height. Sure this ain't just another fucbuddy tryin to set somethin up? 'Baby' is also kinda neutral..
Yeah now that I think about it, it's probably some dude tryin to hit. Either way she got him comfortable to send her "goodnight" texts which is weird because I personally don't put any effort into hitting her up.
 

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Man dont get me started

They dont mind cheating with u

I made a thread on how I wore a wedding band & had a made up story about my wife and I going thru it....they ate it up

Them hoes didnt even care if I was married they just saw competition

They really thought they was cheating with a married man:Denzelcrackinup:
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There's only one definition of commitment, asking a individual's "idea" on words will only give you a subjective answer, in other words an opinion.

This thread is about why people aren't committing anymore, the context regards to stable and healthy relationships. Healthy, based on ideas projected ITT, is a subjective concept to certain people. One can think having multiple partners is normal whereas another individual may find them run through.

Men are called pigs for questioning the amount partners a woman has had. We're called insecure.

Everybody's "allowed" to "roam."

Everyone is complaining about commitment with no receipts to their own.

Even commitment comes after people have gotten their fill. And when the times right, they're back in the streets.
 

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Men are called pigs for questioning the amount partners a woman has had. We're called insecure.

Everybody's "allowed" to "roam."

Everyone is complaining about commitment with no receipts to their own.

Even commitment comes after people have gotten their fill. And when the times right, they're back in the streets.
They tell u to choose better until better is anything but them:Denzelcrackinup:

Then get mad and say ur standards are out of wack/ur insecure

But if u turn around & commit then get played, its ur fault for not vetting.

shyt killlllls me everytime
 

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When you're with a good woman, you don't have to do anything else other than work most of the time. You come home, and your clothes are clean, the food is ready, so you don't have to eat out. She can give you a massage if you're feeling tense, and she can nurse you to health if you're feeling sick.

It also comes down to men not valuing themselves as men. They actually think that they're benefiting by giving a woman consistent free dikk that you can potentially get pregnant from and live off of for the next 18 - 21 years

What for?

I get everything I want from a multitude of women without having to commit.

I got a woman I can travel with
Women that I can go out and have a good time with.
Multiple Women that come over to just chill & fukk.
Women that will cook for me when I come over.
Women that will pay for breakfast/lunch/dinner
Women that will let me stay at their place when I'm visiting their city/state/country
Women that will pass me on to their friends
Women who will buy me things because they were thinking of me.

So let me ask you a question....

Why should I give all that up for one woman when I have my piece of mind of dealing with multiple women when I want to.

All this Red Pill trash has roots in and leads to homosexuality. I said it before and I'm saying it again. Viewing women as some kind of major hassle right out of the gate. What do you guys think the end game of that has to be? Really ask yourself that question.

Being with a down ass woman who worships the ground you walk on and caters to your ass is a thousand times better than fooling with a bunch of snakes in the streets. And most of aren't even doing that much but have all these opinions.

Ice-T said one down bottom bytch is better than 10 random hos
 

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Never really been the case with me. I've had as of this year, two exes that proposed and one who is on the verge but he know I'm not on stable ground right now.


I'm the one on the :whoa:, b/c they had shyt to work out and I got growing to do.

I have a lot to lose getting married and not a lot to gain. If I'm going to be completely honest, marriage in the only way I know it to be is terrifying to me. Just trying to ensure I don't get taken advantage of and will be able to look at one dude for the rest of my life and not want to strangle him.

All the peer pressure and societal shyt never really worked on me as a female to get married. I've seen 44+ year marriages and if I do, it has to be the long haul. Nobody in our immediate family on either mom or dad's side has ever been divorced. No OOW babies. No homosexuality. No rape or domestic violence or abuse.
A lot of the energy dudes be putting out these days is completely foreign to me. I've had dudes try to "insult" me on some
"You a goody two-shoe" "you sheltered"
I don't give two flying fukks. I'm not gonna be the one grandchild to bring some fukked up shyt into our family and have to deal with them talking shyt for the rest of my life.

I would rather get married two days before I croak at 107 to somebody that is right for me, than to spend an entire lifetime with somebody I'm secretly tired of, who I resent, whose dikk I don't want near me, who cheats on me or tries to live off me, or beats my ass but I married just to do what other people wanted me to do.

Men are usually the ones with cold feet but a lot of women are starting to wake up to being more cautious about the institution. We can debate it but women have more to lose than men do when it comes to marriage IMO.:hubie:

What's your family's secret to being so stable and seemingly healthy?:jbhmm:
 

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What's your family's secret to being so stable and seemingly healthy?:jbhmm:
We all psychos.

On the real tho we are very close knit and take a lot to do with each other's business. My parents grew up in the country. Grandmother lived down the field from her father. Her sisters lived right next door with their husbands, cousins built homes on the same street.

Imagine dating somebody from that family. Imagine trying to whip one of the women's asses when her brothers and cousins are right next door. Imagine trying to be a hoe. It's hard to bring foolishness into our inner circle.

My mom dated my dad who they both went to high school with from the next town over. His family was the same. His father has like 70 acres, his sister built homes next door. Where I'm from there is an entire neighborhood with nothing but people in our family three-four streets full.

My mom and dad got married and knew damn near everything about each other and their families. So their generation moved to the city and raised us the way they grew up.

We were in a city neighborhood living like Lil House on the Prairie. I had callouses on my hands when I was little from picking vegetables. Damn near used to cut my fingers off cleaning and filleting fish.
My friends would clown my ass b/c I had to make sure dinner was ready and the house was clean b4 I could go play kickball. My mom once smashed my Nintendo to pieces b/c I was playing on it and my bed wasn't made. I may have a slight neurosis about cleanliness now that tends to cause tension with the men in my life but I don't care. I get anxiety about living in filth.

Frankly my parents feel like people in my generation don't have good sense. Dating has been difficult b/c you don't know what it's like to try and run some fukk boi bullshyt past my parents. It's not that they are conservative or prudish or uptight. They are just extreme pragmatists.
My mom works in Wal-Mart and give unsolicited advice to hoodrats with multiple kids every time one walks by her.
"Stop cursing that baby out! He didn't ask to be here! If you can't afford em why you have so many?!":picard:
My mom has told this shyt to these chicks point blank.

My dad goes in on these young dudes daily. Half the shyt I say to ya'll men on here comes from him.
"Da fukk you mean a grow ass man ain't never had a sniff of p*ssy but he in front of a video game all day?! The hell is wrong with him?! And why these men nuttin in obvious hoes?! I knew she was a check chaser a mile away! These nikkas broken. They think the only thing they got to offer is dikk. Don't you bring no sorry ass nikka through my door with a ready made family tryin to live off your paycheck! What you mean they just wanna fukk? So? People in hell want ice water. Nikkas come with their dikk in their hands useless and don't even know how to---"

Between the two of them it goes on and on and on and on. Now multiply that time two sets of family members on both sides.

"Why is my son dating some bum bytch?! She just trying to suck him dry b/c she ain't come from nowhere! She'll fukk your friend and your daddy as soon as you close one eye!"

So growing up like that makes me view shyt a lil different. The shyt I hear some people talking about just wouldn't work in my family. They just not here to care about your feelings. But I appreciate them for their almost innocent imparting of common sense to us b/c they are just simple people who have the courage to tell what's in front of them and in the same spirit I've grown to be just as honest as they are...even tho it's gotten me into some sticky situations.:wow:
 

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You right. I can only confirm that they wanted me to commit to them. They coulda had hoes from Harlem to Houston for all I know.

But it's fukked up. Some girls be trying to hard to get with a nikka. And some girls gotta stay batting nikkas off because they feel they wifey material.

nikkas find out I have no kids and try and give me the damn world. Talking bout marriage and kids off bat like a desperate old woman. It's a big turn off.
Ok Calm down shorty you not all that, for nikkas to be saying that:mjlol:
 

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We all psychos.

On the real tho we are very close knit and take a lot to do with each other's business. My parents grew up in the country. Grandmother lived down the field from her father. Her sisters lived right next door with their husbands, cousins built homes on the same street.

Imagine dating somebody from that family. Imagine trying to whip one of the women's asses when her brothers and cousins are right next door. Imagine trying to be a hoe. It's hard to bring foolishness into our inner circle.

My mom dated my dad who they both went to high school with from the next town over. His family was the same. His father has like 70 acres, his sister built homes next door. Where I'm from there is an entire neighborhood with nothing but people in our family three-four streets full.

My mom and dad got married and knew damn near everything about each other and their families. So their generation moved to the city and raised us the way they grew up.

We were in a city neighborhood living like Lil House on the Prairie. I had callouses on my hands when I was little from picking vegetables. Damn near used to cut my fingers off cleaning and filleting fish.
My friends would clown my ass b/c I had to make sure dinner was ready and the house was clean b4 I could go play kickball. My mom once smashed my Nintendo to pieces b/c I was playing on it and my bed wasn't made. I may have a slight neurosis about cleanliness now that tends to cause tension with the men in my life but I don't care. I get anxiety about living in filth.

Frankly my parents feel like people in my generation don't have good sense. Dating has been difficult b/c you don't know what it's like to try and run some fukk boi bullshyt past my parents. It's not that they are conservative or prudish or uptight. They are just extreme pragmatists.
My mom works in Wal-Mart and give unsolicited advice to hoodrats with multiple kids every time one walks by her.
"Stop cursing that baby out! He didn't ask to be here! If you can't afford em why you have so many?!":picard:
My mom has told this shyt to these chicks point blank.

My dad goes in on these young dudes daily. Half the shyt I say to ya'll men on here comes from him.
"Da fukk you mean a grow ass man ain't never had a sniff of p*ssy but he in front of a video game all day?! The hell is wrong with him?! And why these men nuttin in obvious hoes?! I knew she was a check chaser a mile away! These nikkas broken. They think the only thing they got to offer is dikk. Don't you bring no sorry ass nikka through my door with a ready made family tryin to live off your paycheck! What you mean they just wanna fukk? So? People in hell want ice water. Nikkas come with their dikk in their hands useless and don't even know how to---"

Between the two of them it goes on and on and on and on. Now multiply that time two sets of family members on both sides.

"Why is my son dating some bum bytch?! She just trying to suck him dry b/c she ain't come from nowhere! She'll fukk your friend and your daddy as soon as you close one eye!"

So growing up like that makes me view shyt a lil different. The shyt I hear some people talking about just wouldn't work in my family. They just not here to care about your feelings. But I appreciate them for their almost innocent imparting of common sense to us b/c they are just simple people who have the courage to tell what's in front of them and in the same spirit I've grown to be just as honest as they are...even tho it's gotten me into some sticky situations.:wow:
 
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because these broads have been
indoctrinated by hoe culture.
if they want to be hoes it's only
right that i treat them as such.
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