They don’t want to teach you how to be a man. Because it’s a turn off and they don’t know how to teach you. As a man you’re expected to just know what’s wrong and how to rectify it, which means shifting her emotions from negative to positive, no matter what the original issue was (or whether or not it gets fixed). As long as you focus on changing her emotions from negative to positive you’re good.
For some reason, this type of logic rubs me the wrong way. This isn't directly towards you, BR, but this is how I see things...
Being a man has nothing to do with a woman having whatever issue(s) with said man. No man can read minds!
Any woman who expect a man to just know what is bothering her and being able to resolve whatever issue is very delusional and unrealistic.
Common sense should tell anyone that if there is an issue with a person, then you bring said issue to that person, not those who are outside the relationship.
Any person who struggles with communicating with their sig other may not be ready to be in a relationship.
If you are an adult, then it is expected of you to act like one and stop playing kiddie games! Since we gonna talk about expectations and all..