Men do that too though. They just say “that last one was crazy”, and slowly you realize they all are. So the truth is finding the one that is the most sensible that doesn’t have too many “dark” period that you have to lift her out of.
Why are women so terrible at communicating within a relationship?
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Yes, these are things I make clear. There’s no woman in my life I’d ever consider entering a relationship with and there won’t be for the next decade partly due to things like the premise of this thread.
There's many reasons I'm sure, but I subscribe to the idea that it's because they've been allowed to be. By friends, family, past men, whatever.
Meaning, until they have to deal with somebody who isn't with the "Guess why I'm mad" bullshyt and has no problem bushing somebody if they behave as such … they will play the guessing game.
Me personally, I try to communicate as clearly and as thoroughly as possible, and I will tell any person of the opposite sex that I do it because I expect a similar level of communication and I don't ask anybody to do anything I'm not capable of in that regard. If they ain't with it, then they can't be dealing with me.
Meaning, until they have to deal with somebody who isn't with the "Guess why I'm mad" bullshyt and has no problem bushing somebody if they behave as such … they will play the guessing game.
Me personally, I try to communicate as clearly and as thoroughly as possible, and I will tell any person of the opposite sex that I do it because I expect a similar level of communication and I don't ask anybody to do anything I'm not capable of in that regard. If they ain't with it, then they can't be dealing with me.
I can dig it, breh! Seems like you know what you want and don't want, so I hope things work out for ya! *salute*
Henri Christophe
Son Of Afrika
Probably. But can you blame a man for taking that route if his lady decided not to be straight up with him about what was bothering her?
Clear communication in a relationship should be a given on both sides as general, fundamental principle.
NoirDynosaur
Yurrrrrrrrrr
Female communication depends on emotion, body language and microexpressions. If a chick says something, she means the opposite -- they call it double talk.
Yes. Because you acting stupid is gaslighting.
I’ll give you an example. We go out with a group of your friends. Someone invites a girl in the mix that you know I don’t mess with. You’re all up in her face, pay me little attention. On the drive home, I’m dead silent. You ask me what’s wrong. I’m so heated, I say “nothing”.
I say nothing because 1, I know that in expressing myself, I’m going to get the label of being b*tchy, etc. I’m penalized for asserting myself. I also think that if you don’t know, maybe I’m just being “crazy”.
We go to lay, you try to f*ck, I turn to the wall.
This is when most of y’all go
“I shouldn’t have xyz with shorty. It wasn’t like that blasé blasé blah”
The whole time YOU KNEW what the problem was and you just wanted me to confirm what YOU ALREADY KNEW.
Henri Christophe
Son Of Afrika
To keep it 100... We usually just want yall to shut up & stop killin the vibe
Women always startin beef during times of peace
In my head... I be like "not this shyt again"
Behind-the-wheel
Living dead
Man, they can't communicate sanely for shyt.
My wife and I were driving around one time and got into it over a simple misunderstanding of terms.
She starts screamin that I'm not listening to her...the whole time I'm talking sanely and calmly.
But in my mind I was considering unbuckling her seatbelt and stomping on the brakes and pushing her out the passenger side door into the highway.
Can't fuss thru broken teeth.
But I did the right thing and let her yell and fuss and explained to her, calmly still, my point of view until she understood.
We're both stubbon, but I'm a bit violent.
She's lucky I love her.
My wife and I were driving around one time and got into it over a simple misunderstanding of terms.
She starts screamin that I'm not listening to her...the whole time I'm talking sanely and calmly.
But in my mind I was considering unbuckling her seatbelt and stomping on the brakes and pushing her out the passenger side door into the highway.
Can't fuss thru broken teeth.
But I did the right thing and let her yell and fuss and explained to her, calmly still, my point of view until she understood.
We're both stubbon, but I'm a bit violent.
She's lucky I love her.
It ain't just women who do this
I got a male cousin who ran into some money last year who started coming at me crazy out of left field
This same nikka I looked out for when he was broke and protected him growing up when he wouldn't stand up for himself
After like a year of passive aggressiveness he said he felt some way because apparently I wasn't respecting his gangsta and joked with him too much around my homies
Not all females are bytches and not all bytches are female
I got a male cousin who ran into some money last year who started coming at me crazy out of left field
This same nikka I looked out for when he was broke and protected him growing up when he wouldn't stand up for himself
After like a year of passive aggressiveness he said he felt some way because apparently I wasn't respecting his gangsta and joked with him too much around my homies
Not all females are bytches and not all bytches are female
Part of communicating clearly is saying what's wrong even if you think that other person knows. Never assume because well … he might not actually know until you shut down his advances and then he's like, "
The fukk did I do? *internally recounts whole evening, looking for potential fukk-ups on his part*" While there are times I'd much rather be left alone, if given a choice, I'd rather my S/O over-communicate than under-communicate if it means we're on the same wavelength.
Hell, even if he realized after the fact that what he did was foul ... if he asks what's wrong, TELL HIM ANYWAY. Just to confirm his suspicions and remain on the same page. Speaking personally, if I was absolutely sure I knew what was bothering you, why would I ask?
For the record, dude in the hypothetical is clearly out of pocket, and he should have been checked at the first sign of perceived disrespect instead of getting the silent treatment on the way home. Instead, the rightfully upset woman in the hypothetical decided to be passive-aggressive and petty, which doesn't help the issue.
Sometimes we have to be grown instead of being petty.
Solo ✧✦✧
King of the eXoticals. "FIRsT and LAst wARNiNg"
A lot of them are passive aggressive and hide from confrontation. They don't know how to be honest with themselves.
Many don't want to admit that they have a problem or may be the problem because they don't want to look like the bad guy in the relationship if the issues lead to the relationship failing. That's one of the things I hate about the average woman, far too cowardly.
Many don't want to admit that they have a problem or may be the problem because they don't want to look like the bad guy in the relationship if the issues lead to the relationship failing. That's one of the things I hate about the average woman, far too cowardly.
Because we have to walk around on eggshells to protect ur fragile egos.
(Watch what happens next for a prime example of EXACTLY what I'm talking about. Men HATE any criticism from women and find self reflection extremely difficult. They say they want the truth but really they dont.)
(Watch what happens next for a prime example of EXACTLY what I'm talking about. Men HATE any criticism from women and find self reflection extremely difficult. They say they want the truth but really they dont.)