Why did my female coworker do this?

[Dr. Acula]

Do not fukk coworkers. Don't do it.

 

[xXOGLEGENDXx]

I don't like talking to girls that I work with so I never decided to act upon her choosing signals

So just a few hours ago, I approached her and told her to meet me at the main entrance when she got off work

Hmm something isn't adding up here...

 

[Freedman]

You aint got no game breh you cant just be telling hoes meet you at the work entrance n shyt

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

i think the signals got crossed

let me guess..... she smiles at you

 

[flea]

She leaves at 3 but she told you 4? And then left at 3? Maybe she lied to you and ain’t tryna talk to your goofy ass or did I read this wrong?

 

[MR. SNIFLES]

You aint got no game breh you cant just be telling hoes meet you at the work entrance n shyt

SHE PROBABLY THINK THIS DUDE WANTS TO FIGHT.

 

[douche]

 

[Robbie3000]

Guess she wasn't choosing after all

But he’s tall

 

[Robbie3000]

SHE PROBABLY THINK THIS DUDE WANTS TO FIGHT.

 

[lespaulultra3]

Women will make it easy for you when they really like you. Maybe she was sending choosing signals but like yourself, she doesn't want the co-workers all in her business. Anyway, you fumbled the ball by telling her to meet you by the door after work. That's something that nikkas in middle school do. All you needed to do was strike up a conversation and directly ask for her number or give her yours. You could have also asked to catch lunch together. Those are both softball requests that she can accept but if she isn't feeling you, it's not bad enough where she can report you to HR. You should have been more direct instead of telling her to meet you by the door. How do you think that would have looked when all your co-workers are leaving and watching y'all stand by the door chatting while holding ya'll lunch pails.

At this point, I would just leave it be. Be friendly and speak and don't even bring up the fact that she ghosted you. If she really interested, she'll put yourself in your orbit and you'll have another shot.

BTW, I don't support talking to women you work with unless you working somewhere that you don't care about losing your job such as a call center or a grocery store. shyt always starts good in the beginning and it always ends bad. ALWAYS.

 

[pickles]

Give us examples of these "choosing signals".

 

[Jone2three45]

Stop going out of your way talking to these hoes at work.

 

[jelanitsunami]

She was probably never giving off choosing signals and was just being nice to you

 

[deimoz]

"The interesting thing however though is that when I asked her what time she was leaving, she said 4 but I already knew she was leaving at 3, so that's interesting

So at around 3, she actually already left, so at 4pm, I didn't see her at the main entrance."

this is ALL u need to know about her personality .... gave u the SLIP without a CARE in the world ...

IMO ... let her be , she might be INVOLVED with someone !

not only that , u DONT want to get involved with ANYONE at work !!!!

if thingz go SOUTH , itz gonna be AWKWARD from there on out ...

even if it DOES work out , u would eventually GROW APART from working together !!!

 

[TheAnointedOne]

A little situation just happened right now at work and I wanted to get you guys take on it

There's this female coworker of mines that has been giving me heavy "choosing signals" for a while now

I don't like talking to girls that I work with so I never decided to act upon her choosing signals

But I try to put myself in other people's shoes and I started to feel a bit sorry for her because perhaps she was shy and insecure and was too scared to approach me.

So just a few hours ago, I approached her and told her to meet me at the main entrance when she got off work

The interesting thing however though is that when I asked her what time she was leaving, she said 4 but I already knew she was leaving at 3, so that's interesting

So at around 3, she actually already left, so at 4pm, I didn't see her at the main entrance.

So what do yall think is going on here, is this just a classical case of a girl wanting your validation?

For context, not too sound arrogant, but I'm a tall good looking dude, and there is a tendency for girls to give me choosing signals at work

I also dont really talk to people, and dont really pay attention to girls at work

So I think that in some of these cases, these girls just want my attention because they might

be wondering why I dont pay attention to them like the other guys at work

I would have just carried on like nothing happened. Pretend she's invisible; don't acknowledge her.