Why did my female coworker do this?

[HTXBreh]

You definitely misread her intentions, and probably got yourself fired

 

[TheAnointedOne]

You definitely misread her intentions, and probably got yourself fired

Yeah breh risking his job. He must be young.

 

[The ADD]

Maybe YOU misinterpreted the signals

Since you've already gone there why not find out from HER what the deal is next time you see her, Coli can't help you with this.

^^^

 

[getmoney310cpt]

This why I let the bytch make the first move situations like these now you feel like you got pie on your face lol

 

[D.C Young]

Women will make it easy for you when they really like you. Maybe she was sending choosing signals but like yourself, she doesn't want the co-workers all in her business. Anyway, you fumbled the ball by telling her to meet you by the door after work. That's something that nikkas in middle school do. All you needed to do was strike up a conversation and directly ask for her number or give her yours. You could have also asked to catch lunch together. Those are both softball requests that she can accept but if she isn't feeling you, it's not bad enough where she can report you to HR. You should have been more direct instead of telling her to meet you by the door. How do you think that would have looked when all your co-workers are leaving and watching y'all stand by the door chatting while holding ya'll lunch pails.

At this point, I would just leave it be. Be friendly and speak and don't even bring up the fact that she ghosted you. If she really interested, she'll put yourself in your orbit and you'll have another shot.

BTW, I don't support talking to women you work with unless you working somewhere that you don't care about losing your job such as a call center or a grocery store. shyt always starts good in the beginning and it always ends bad. ALWAYS.

always going out of her way to look at me, make eye contact, and sk

Women will make it easy for you when they really like you. Maybe she was sending choosing signals but like yourself, she doesn't want the co-workers all in her business. Anyway, you fumbled the ball by telling her to meet you by the door after work. That's something that nikkas in middle school do. All you needed to do was strike up a conversation and directly ask for her number or give her yours. You could have also asked to catch lunch together. Those are both softball requests that she can accept but if she isn't feeling you, it's not bad enough where she can report you to HR. You should have been more direct instead of telling her to meet you by the door. How do you think that would have looked when all your co-workers are leaving and watching y'all stand by the door chatting while holding ya'll lunch pails.

At this point, I would just leave it be. Be friendly and speak and don't even bring up the fact that she ghosted you. If she really interested, she'll put yourself in your orbit and you'll have another shot.

BTW, I don't support talking to women you work with unless you working somewhere that you don't care about losing your job such as a call center or a grocery store. shyt always starts good in the beginning and it always ends bad. ALWAYS.

But our coworkers would've seen us regardless

no matter where we ended up talking right?

We work in a very open space, so mentality was

to meet her at the main entrance, when she got off work so as not to disturb her while she's at work

And then take her to a more private area so we can chop it up

And considering the fact that she has been giving me heavy choosing signals for a while

(always going out of her way to make eye contact with me, smiling at me, appearing in my vicinity and etc)

I assumed she would've automatically known why I wanted to meet her

 

[HARLEM AL]

Leave that situation alone. Choosing signals or not. She just wants attention and you don’t need to fukk up your job.

There’s plenty of broads out here big Homie. Act like she don’t exist.

 

[The God Poster]

Thread is weird . You said you don’t talk to co workers even tho she been giving you signals.

Now you one day decide to give her a chance because you a good guy & maybe she lonely?

Breh let it go at this point

It sound like you been wanting to hit but too scared to approach. Either that or she has been friendly & you just couldn’t figure if she was flirting or being friendly

Talking about meet me by the entrance like y’all kids. Exchange numbers or keep it moving

 

[KING WILL]

Some females like to flirt till it gets real.

 

[Atlanta 80s baby]

nikkas be parched as hell at work I see. Ignore, ignore, ignore. If they can't resist any longer, they will strike up convo.

Also if you flirt, and it goes no where outside of work, keep it all the way moving.

 

[buzzkill]

She playing hard to get... next time you at work leave her a note maybe find out her favorite candy bar or chips and leave it at her desk

 

[pickles]

A little situation just happened right now at work and I wanted to get you guys take on it

There's this female coworker of mines that has been giving me heavy "choosing signals" for a while now

I don't like talking to girls that I work with so I never decided to act upon her choosing signals

But I try to put myself in other people's shoes and I started to feel a bit sorry for her because perhaps she was shy and insecure and was too scared to approach me.

So just a few hours ago, I approached her and told her to meet me at the main entrance when she got off work

The interesting thing however though is that when I asked her what time she was leaving, she said 4 but I already knew she was leaving at 3, so that's interesting

So at around 3, she actually already left, so at 4pm, I didn't see her at the main entrance.

So what do yall think is going on here, is this just a classical case of a girl wanting your validation?

For context, not too sound arrogant, but I'm a tall good looking dude, and there is a tendency for girls to give me choosing signals at work

I also dont really talk to people, and dont really pay attention to girls at work

So I think that in some of these cases, these girls just want my attention because they might

be wondering why I dont pay attention to them like the other guys at work

How the fukk do you know she is leaving at 3 pm? Are you tracking this bytch like a she is a leopard or some shyt?

Are you a security guard? How the fukk do you know when she leaves?


Nikka she curved you and you don't even know it.



What the fukk is this meet me outside by the door bullshyt? Just be smooth and ask her out.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Op sound green as fukk

Gah damm

 

[Juven]

 

[TRUEST]

If you’re not sure if a girl likes u, smile, ask her simple questions from the things around her or from what u see her doing. If she likes u, she’ll help the conversation along. Trust me on that. If she isn’t feeding into the conversation or asking u engaging questions about u, just stop talking.

before the pandemic I use to take the train to work. I did this for about 2 years. In those two years I would catch glimpses of women eyeing me. Some were nasty “u too full of urself” glances. Others were “mhmm this guy is interesting. He never says a word to anyone and he looks very intimidating.”

I’m not tall at all. Just brolic. Exceptionally brolic with broad shoulders.

to make a long story short, I sparked up a convo with one of the girls who never really looked at me and always acted like I didn’t exist. One thing led to another and we ended up fuccking on the regular. She of course ran told all her friends at the train station which as u can expect raised my allure even more. The way it all happened was rather stuff of the movies. It was nice.


How did I spark up the convo with the girl at the train station? I noticed she was always watching movies on her phone. And me being a movie fanatic, that was a topic I can talk on and on about. So I ask her what movie she was watching. We started talking off that. Not once did she let the conversation die. She would say just enough for me to know there’s something there.

Op, don’t be commanding women like u did this girl. And just cause u tall don’t mean sh1t. And there’s nothing wrong with having simple conversations. Most girls like u to warm them up to things.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Don't know how women are brehs.

If it's a job you care about I would leave her alone.

Attention is a drug for women, they love it and can't get enough of it.

All the dudes in the office simping her and giving her attention but that one dude that ignores her. makes her go crazy and chase his validation.

Plus she can have a dude. Had a girl at my job tryna get at me, would even purposely leave at the same time I did and strike up conversation.

She got a husband and I'm sure dude works in the office next door