Why Do Black Men Struggle So Much With The Dissolution Of Friendships?

[Dipsey Doo]

I moved from my hometown a decade ago so the friends that I have/had just faded over time. It takes effort to maintain friendships in adulthood and maintaining them through long distances takes more effort then I was willing to make. I'm fine with rolling solo, so making new friends isn't a priority for me. Not having close friends hasn't prevented me from reaching goals, traveling, entering into romantic relationships and building a life for myself.

I rock with people on a surface level and I'm fine with it at this point in my life. I'm building relationships with the men in my church, so maybe it'll sprout a close friendship or two.

 

[benjamin]

be a grown man and be worried about having friends, breh..

My friends are the people under my roof

 

[Neuromancer]

So these friendships end for a particular reason? I've never seen this happen and my friend group has been together for in some cases 30 years.

 

[Capitol]

A lot of ya'll have anti-social personalities if we keep it a buck.

The threshold for an offense is way too low. Ya'll have zero grace for each other... and let's not pretend like there aren't some who specifically go looking to fight and cause drama.

But how you guys treat each other is on you all.

What the fukk you mean I'm anti-social

 

[Seoul Gleou]

"Why Do Black Men Struggle So Much With The Dissolution Of Friendships?"​

Black men are literally the topic of the thread.
Why when black people try to have a discussion 'bout themselves we gotta deflect and try to make it a everybody issue?

you already know why

 

[O.T.I.S.]

For me it’s been distance, timing, and no structure on my end. With my older friends.. started going separate directions in real life but we try to keep up with each other

Overseas it was actually easier to make friends because you know you are kinda in the same boat. Even though a lot of those friends are not just black.

And ofcourse through work sometimes you meet your work twin and instantly click

Or people that share your hobbies (in my case, music). It’s not just a black men thing though

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

What the fukk you mean I'm anti-social

I gave 3 examples in the post you quoted. Here is another.

 

[Taadow]

Do we?

 

[Capitol]

I gave 3 examples in the post you quoted. Here is another.

I thought it was obvious I was joking with the Martin smiley.

I do agree with you though. I never noticed until I started meditating how critical I could be or how low my tolerance was for other people. It has been a daily challenge to re-program and be more patient.

 

[Dwayne_Taylor]

This is a black male specific thing?

Good question. I think it affects everyone

This

It's a loaded question that assumes it's somehow different when black men do it; it isn't. It's like asking why white people's ice is colder

 

[B86]

One of the keys of life is understanding that you have no friends in this world...

 

[FTBS]

Men in general struggle with establishing and maintaining relationships. Its not something we are taught to prioritize. And for many intimacy is reserved for women and sex. And many have deep seated issues related to how they were raised and/or their experiences growing up. If we keeping it a stack a lot of the archiac and debunked yet still somehow widely accepted ideals about manhood and masculinity really screw us...lack of emotional expression, lack of non sexual connection, just work and work until you drop, vulnerability is weak and unacceptable etc. We arent robots brehs.


There is already a concerning trend with older men being alone and not having really strong relationships/connections. With the way things are now, where you can literally live your life online without leaving your house, that will only get worse unless we doing something about it.

 

[IIVI]

You can’t expect people to cater or even think about you when you grow up. I haven’t kicked it with my “best friends” for the last five years. Your best friend owes you nothing and you don’t owe them anything either.

It’s not a big deal to me because I have a lot going on that I’m building along with a wife and family I love talking to who have been very supportive.

All relationship dynamics are different, but when you got a loving family, that’s real unconditional love. More often than not your family are diehard fans who want to see you win while friends end up being competition or impartial later on.

 

[Jean Jacket]

It has everything to do with age an maturity...not much with being a Black man.

Once you hit a certain place in life...you begin to lose interest in the affairs of others - which could become burdensome and or risky.

I believe that Black men need to really focus on mental, physical, spiritual, and social health - especially after 30.

Get a hobby that brings you around like minded people. Leave all of your doings on the field. Never bring it home.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

It is

nikkax will call you all types of bytch ass nikkax and make it up in their head that you are their enemy simply for not speaking to them and let’s not get into extreme cases

If white boys do that then excuse moi

you are excused.