Why do men give up on love so fast?

[cunce]

Sounds mentally unstable.

How?

 

[Hollywood Co]

this sums it up perfectly...

...in my opinion......a lot of men do not care to look at a woman in a light that is beyond the superficial....that is why it's so easy to make generalizations


There's a song by bruce springsteen called secret garden.....and i think it's one of the most beautiful songs i ever heard....because,to me, it talks about a man's lack of concern in truly appreciating a woman's heart and soul....and the result of that being...his inability to reach the very essence of a woman...cause of the woman's self consciousness about showing her "secret garden" to the man

the song reminds me of the saying ..."a woman's heart is as fragile as a man's ego"

This is probably the best post in this thread. Beyond men just having shytty taste in the women they choose to be in relationships with, only with experience/age does a man understand how important it is to cultivate cherish and care for a good woman's heart. No man should ever take for granted a woman giving her all to him. It's the greatest gift she can give.

Young men generally don't understand this tho and its not till we've broken a heart of a woman we care about do we realize how crucial it is to put in 100% with a woman who loves you. Women thrive on our confidence in love but many times men are scared of everything that comes with being in love. We'll let outside and worldly thoughts ruin the most genuine emotion God created out of fear. This generation is highly affected by it and the mentalities on this site are prime examples.

Young fellas, don't play with a woman that truly loves you. Especially if you also love her too. Figure out how to navigate this world and keep that love. It'll possibly be the best decision of your life.

 

[KinksandCoils]

I'm cool now but a few ain't shyt nights in the past

Have a seat on the couch, who hurt you?

 

[KinksandCoils]

costs us way more to get played

we both get hurt... we both get jaded


but to a man... he's most likely spent a hell of a lot more money in the process and lost a lot more pride

and a woman will always have another 230984230948324023 nikkas to come swoop in

we just fukked up and alone... and to get back in REAL dating... again... more money... more time.. more effort




it's just easier to say "man let me chill, fukk some hoes, and get as many on the team as possible, while inviting them over for netflix, blunts and henny"

I think guys under estimate how many good men approach women

 

[Neuromancer]

I'm cool now but a few ain't shyt nights in the past

Ah I figured.

 

[#1 pick]

I think guys under estimate how many good men approach women

Women underestimate how many men they call good men till it's too late

 

[CinnaSlim]

Because men aren't taught to process emotions. They are taught to "eat the pain" and hold it in where it festers and reveals itself in other ways. With emotions, the only way past it is through it.

Same reason, why men tend to die younger than women, because of fear of admitting weakness, they wait longer to go to the doctor and take less preventative measures.

But I'm not a dude so this is just my opinion

Male or female, moving past relationships make room for newer, better (because you are more experienced now) relationships. You just have to remember to take the lesson with you, not the emotional baggage.

 

[Cake]

Dudes have more to lose by settling down. After our first real break up we realize that and it changes our opinion of relationships. At least that's what happened to me.

Both genders can get hurt in a relationship but females can rebound 40x quicker. Every girl has 100 dudes thirsting after her a day. Even more if she's ugly.

 

[ZoeGod]

Because men aren't taught to process emotions. They are taught to "eat the pain" and hold it in where it festers and reveals itself in other ways. With emotions, the only way past it is through it.

Same reason, why men tend to die younger than women, because of fear of admitting weakness, they wait longer to go to the doctor and take less preventative measures.

But I'm not a dude so this is just my opinion

Male or female, moving past relationships make room for newer, better (because you are more experienced now) relationships. You just have to remember to take the lesson with you, not the emotional baggage.

Been taught not to show emotion by my pops. So when a chcik does me wrong I just say fdb and move onto the next one. I have been in relationships where the girl was good and I still kept a roster of 2 or 3 women just incase shyt hits the fan if she cheats or does some other bullshyt so i have another broad to lay up with. I have been done dirty by alot of broads who were good. As lil herb said " I dont trust a soul, goota stay on my defense." There are good women but its gonna take alot for me to trust a woman. That is why i have a roster.

 

[Guile]

It's kinda like this.

Most, not all, but most men were raised to believe women were these angelic, flawless creatures. And we believed we had to be on top of our shyt, basically be the best man we could be in order to attract the best woman.
When that first inevitable betrayal comes, it literally shakes the foundation of a man. You learn that everything you thought women were is a lie. You learn how selfish and cold and callous a woman can be when you no longer have her favor.
Then, the rules change.
You learn that you don't have to be the best man or really even be a good man. All you have to do is be a little bit more exciting and a little bit flashier than the dude she's with now. That's it. There's no honor or depth to it.
You learn that women are as simple as we are.
So we adapt.
We stop giving our all, because it wasn't going to matter anyway.
We stop being honest, because we learn that ya'll don't covet honesty.
We look out for ourselves, because it's what you would do in our situation.

That one woman who got the best of us, well she'll never know, nor would she care.

Damn, breh. This the answer.

Women need to raise (they arr around their sons the most), need to not spread myths to their sons about women.

 

[CinnaSlim]

Been taught not to show emotion by my pops. So when a chcik does me wrong I just say fdb and move onto the next one. I have been in relationships where the girl was good and I still kept a roster of 2 or 3 women just incase shyt hits the fan if she cheats or does some other bullshyt so i have another broad to lay up with. I have been done dirty by alot of broads who were good. As lil herb said " I dont trust a soul, goota stay on my defense." There are good women but its gonna take alot for me to trust a woman. That is why i have a roster.

By keeping a roster, do you mean you were having sex with those women or just had them around so that they'd be available to you?

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

I think guys under estimate how many good men approach women

I didn't say good men lol.

But y'all have to understand the mental effects of being approached by 1-5 people a day, everyday, since 13

Vs. a man who has to put his pride and confidence on the line each and every time he attempts to approach. Adding in that he's probably not been approached more than 25 times in his entire life


So yea it's kinda easier to get over that spilled milk when you have a farm full of cows

 

[Soon]

We stop giving our all, because it wasn't going to matter anyway.

That one woman who got the best of us, well she'll never know, nor would she care.

Too real.

If a chick shows me she has no honor, she is not going to get any patience or understanding from me, cause it will be in vain.

Love and romance is the last place you want to live in fantasy land.

 

[KinksandCoils]

I didn't say good men lol.

But y'all have to understand the mental effects of being approached by 1-5 people a day, everyday, since 13

Vs. a man who has to put his pride and confidence on the line each and every time he attempts to approach. Adding in that he's probably not been approached more than 25 times in his entire life


So yea it's kinda easier to get over that spilled milk when you have a farm full of cows

True

Women underestimate how many men they call good men till it's too late

being approached 1-5 days is completely unrealistic to the average woman. U also have to realize a lot of time me don't directly approach women like that. Some men will be interested but are too scared or whatever to really get at u. The average looking woman ain't even being approached once a day. Maybe 1-3 times a week max

Edit: the last post is for the first quote. My bad.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

True
being approached 1-5 days is completely unrealistic to the average woman. U also have to realize a lot of time me don't directly approach women like that. Some men will be interested but are too scared or whatever to really get at u. The average looking woman ain't even being approached once a day. Maybe 1-3 times a week max

Edit: the last post is for the first quote. My bad.

i get you... maybe not approached... flirted with... stared at... ogled.. all up in the inbox, dm, text message


but i'm sure that's off too... we tend to have a warped sense of what happens to y'all cause of the way we think