Why do men who actually get pu$$y (usually) respect women more than those who don’t?

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

How does one get over the bitterness caused by a lack of?

Sometimes I think we too hard on men. There are dudes outchea now thinking u gotta be perfect to get a whiff of a chick. And that is fukked up. I think men realizing that it's not always them is the first step.

There is a LOT of shyt that goes thru people's heads when it comes to attraction. What I learned is that most people meet people not thru random encounters but through social circles and being introduced to friends of friends. When this happens, it's a greater chance of it being easier b/c friends also put a lil investment into talking somebody up. I almost feel like American culture is the only culture where cold approaching is a big thing and it's hell on men. To guys' credit many have it down to a science and take rejection way better than people give them credit for. But a part of me almost hates that it even has to be that way.

I also legit feel like women aren't playing their part in this either. For every guy without a mouthpiece, there is a girl with ZERO femininity skills whatsoever. Gender shyt aside, you know how I wax poetic about men having power and energy, well I feel like it's a female's job to exude a matching receptive energy. There are ways to put men at ease. To diffuse. To ensure a man never leaves ur presence feeling less than, even if u not gonna fukk them. They don't know how to make themselves receptive to male attention and some take a lot of pride in tryin to be as rude as possible to make themselves feel superior which is ridiculous to me. You don't treat people that way.

So let go of the bitterness by giving urself a break. People need to be honest and acknowledge that this isn't just a one-sided equation. A lot of men and women don't know how to talk and interact with each other or enjoy each other's company. To me this isn't a male issue. It's a people issue.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Yup.

It's just your natural self...i've had a homie say "I don't know why but I feel better when I see you". Have had people I didn't know at the park , who went to get up and asked me to watch their stuff without knowing me for more than 5minutes.

It's like people who say they feel the holy spirit or whatever in some people.

Exactly! Some people are a balm for your soul. It's like you get energized just being around them or being near them is like smoking a good blunt.
And I'm not talking about being fake either. It's just good energy.
They not there to use you. If they going thru it, you genuinely feel for them b/c they aren't a$$holes when other people going thru it. They are clean, not really gaudy. Ain't trying to put on airs. They know what they are good at and what they need to work on. Ain't tryin to prove anything. They just comfortable with themselves. That type of person makes u recalibrate ur life if u got a lot going on.

 

[monsterpreneur]

What you are referring to is the bitterness and resentment some NOT all of these dudes are exuding along with thirst in a lot of cases.

If u desperate for sex b/c u not getting any, ur energy is ENTIRELY different from dudes who are. This is also true for highly attractive men too. Men who are in command and very attractive on several levels are some of the most carefree types of guys around. Also some of the legitimately nicest dudes too. They not really slut-shaming or concerned about chicks body count. They not mad or resentful at women. None of the rules apply to them. Because they swimming in p*ssy and potential p*ssy. So they can afford to be nice and carefree.

Look at Jason Mamoa.

LMAO! This dude can obviously pull whoever, whenever. (That's ole girls's husband in that first pic. "It's Mr. Steal Yo Girl.")
You think Jason sitting around mad, seething about bytches and hoes and that shyt? HOHs for what? This dude literally married who the fukk he wanted even tho Lisa Bonet is like 20 years older than him. People be talking shyt talm bout why a fine dude didn't choose somebody younger? B/c he's Jason Mamoa. He is free to date, marry, impregnate anybody he chooses b/c he has nothing to prove. Ain't gotta be disrespectful or an a$$hole.

Some very attractive people are legitimate a$$holes. Others are sweet and have a totally different energy b/c they ain't got nothing to prove, so they can enjoy life and women instead of worrying about em. They not on edge or frustrated. And if they face rejection, they get over it. I can't envision Mustafa Shakir sitting around hating women. He too busy making chicks shiver in his presence.

Same thing goes with women too.

Yup. These men can be nice, they can be a$$holes, they can be corny, they can be anything. Bassically, they can be themselves.

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

Sometimes I think we too hard on men. There are dudes outchea now thinking u gotta be perfect to get a whiff of a chick. And that is fukked up. I think men realizing that it's not always them is the first step.

There is a LOT of shyt that goes thru people's heads when it comes to attraction. What I learned is that most people meet people not thru random encounters but through social circles and being introduced to friends of friends. When this happens, it's a greater chance of it being easier b/c friends also put a lil investment into talking somebody up. I almost feel like American culture is the only culture where cold approaching is a big thing and it's hell on men. To guys' credit many have it down to a science and take rejection way better than people give them credit for. But a part of me almost hates that it even has to be that way.

I also legit feel like women aren't playing their part in this either. For every guy without a mouthpiece, there is a girl with ZERO femininity skills whatsoever. Gender shyt aside, you know how I wax poetic about men having power and energy, well I feel like it's a female's job to exude a matching receptive energy. There are ways to put men at ease. To diffuse. To ensure a man never leaves ur presence feeling less than, even if u not gonna fukk them. They don't know how to make themselves receptive to male attention and some take a lot of pride in tryin to be as rude as possible to make themselves feel superior which is ridiculous to me. You don't treat people that way.

So let go of the bitterness by giving urself a break. People need to be honest and acknowledge that this isn't just a one-sided equation. A lot of men and women don't know how to talk and interact with each other or enjoy each other's company. To me this isn't a male issue. It's a people issue.

I was at a park in Seattle chilling,playing guitar ...saw two black shorties sit down a little bit away from me...one was loud enough to I could hear..one was saying, "He think he look cute " But from the attention they were giving me I felt they were clearly interested but weren't just gonna step up to me...(I'm a male..I understand why they weren't gonna introduce themselves to me...women be thinking i'm full of myself and just sitting at the park with my guitar trying to look cute)..

I go over there and say whats up, because they were black to be honest, trying to be friendly really..black people don't interact over there much. The one shorty was cool,she may have been gay,, the other one who was cute..looked like Mia Campbell from 'In The House' was rude af for no reason...to the point her friend had to tell her to chill..I introduced myself and made a comment about the friendly chick dyed afro..the other shorty was still rude and had an attitude.

Me I get sensitive to bad energy and shyt, but I kept it cool...tried to make conversation but still felt bad energy. I know some chicks try to intimidate dudes as a test, and wasn't returning the negative energy. Some of their friends came and they were about to roll up a Joint, and shorty calmed down...was complimenting me on my bracelet,and asking questions about me,but that rudeness pissed me off. Even though I get maybe she could've been nervous or some shyt, I don't take kindly to disrespect...I ended up leaving right at they were about to light the joint

 

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Sometimes I think we too hard on men. There are dudes outchea now thinking u gotta be perfect to get a whiff of a chick. And that is fukked up. I think men realizing that it's not always them is the first step.

There is a LOT of shyt that goes thru people's heads when it comes to attraction. What I learned is that most people meet people not thru random encounters but through social circles and being introduced to friends of friends. When this happens, it's a greater chance of it being easier b/c friends also put a lil investment into talking somebody up. I almost feel like American culture is the only culture where cold approaching is a big thing and it's hell on men. To guys' credit many have it down to a science and take rejection way better than people give them credit for. But a part of me almost hates that it even has to be that way.

I also legit feel like women aren't playing their part in this either. For every guy without a mouthpiece, there is a girl with ZERO femininity skills whatsoever. Gender shyt aside, you know how I wax poetic about men having power and energy, well I feel like it's a female's job to exude a matching receptive energy. There are ways to put men at ease. To diffuse. To ensure a man never leaves ur presence feeling less than, even if u not gonna fukk them. They don't know how to make themselves receptive to male attention and some take a lot of pride in tryin to be as rude as possible to make themselves feel superior which is ridiculous to me. You don't treat people that way.

So let go of the bitterness by giving urself a break. People need to be honest and acknowledge that this isn't just a one-sided equation. A lot of men and women don't know how to talk and interact with each other or enjoy each other's company. To me this isn't a male issue. It's a people issue.

Holy fukking shyt, never thought I'd see the day I'd hear a woman say shyt like this ...

I'm dead ass astonished ...This kind of understanding is gonna get you farther in life than most. No gas.

 

[JOHN.KOOL]

nikka im not sure what you talk about. I dont struggle AT ALL with women and all of that has left me with a 'every girl is a hoe till proven otherwise' attitude. I cant remember the last one that proved otherwise.

 

[Neuromancer]

Sometimes I think we too hard on men. There are dudes outchea now thinking u gotta be perfect to get a whiff of a chick. And that is fukked up. I think men realizing that it's not always them is the first step.

There is a LOT of shyt that goes thru people's heads when it comes to attraction. What I learned is that most people meet people not thru random encounters but through social circles and being introduced to friends of friends. When this happens, it's a greater chance of it being easier b/c friends also put a lil investment into talking somebody up. I almost feel like American culture is the only culture where cold approaching is a big thing and it's hell on men. To guys' credit many have it down to a science and take rejection way better than people give them credit for. But a part of me almost hates that it even has to be that way.

I also legit feel like women aren't playing their part in this either. For every guy without a mouthpiece, there is a girl with ZERO femininity skills whatsoever. Gender shyt aside, you know how I wax poetic about men having power and energy, well I feel like it's a female's job to exude a matching receptive energy. There are ways to put men at ease. To diffuse. To ensure a man never leaves ur presence feeling less than, even if u not gonna fukk them. They don't know how to make themselves receptive to male attention and some take a lot of pride in tryin to be as rude as possible to make themselves feel superior which is ridiculous to me. You don't treat people that way.

So let go of the bitterness by giving urself a break. People need to be honest and acknowledge that this isn't just a one-sided equation. A lot of men and women don't know how to talk and interact with each other or enjoy each other's company. To me this isn't a male issue. It's a people issue.

Do you think the gap can be bridged? I mean can you change what appeares to be mass majority?

 

[semicko82]

Frustration stemming from not having women giving him sex or even liking him enough to give him the time of day. Pimps aren’t women haters. They understand and value women because they earn them money.

Life is too short to hate anyone, however. Except for yourself.

Pimps despise women, they only value the money women make for them. You don't beat and call women out of their names because you value them. Go read Pimp by Iceberg Slim see his thought process on the women he was pimping.

 

[Gold]

I cant stand womens

 

[semicko82]

Women value a man who she can look up to or who is indifferent. I recalled all the women who were digging me and what they had in common. It dawned on me either I wasn't attracted to them or I was better than them on some level in life.

 

[semicko82]

I cant stand womens

 

[Gold]

i know

 

[Ohene]

Sometimes I think we too hard on men. There are dudes outchea now thinking u gotta be perfect to get a whiff of a chick. And that is fukked up. I think men realizing that it's not always them is the first step.

There is a LOT of shyt that goes thru people's heads when it comes to attraction. What I learned is that most people meet people not thru random encounters but through social circles and being introduced to friends of friends. When this happens, it's a greater chance of it being easier b/c friends also put a lil investment into talking somebody up. I almost feel like American culture is the only culture where cold approaching is a big thing and it's hell on men. To guys' credit many have it down to a science and take rejection way better than people give them credit for. But a part of me almost hates that it even has to be that way.

I also legit feel like women aren't playing their part in this either. For every guy without a mouthpiece, there is a girl with ZERO femininity skills whatsoever. Gender shyt aside, you know how I wax poetic about men having power and energy, well I feel like it's a female's job to exude a matching receptive energy. There are ways to put men at ease. To diffuse. To ensure a man never leaves ur presence feeling less than, even if u not gonna fukk them. They don't know how to make themselves receptive to male attention and some take a lot of pride in tryin to be as rude as possible to make themselves feel superior which is ridiculous to me. You don't treat people that way.

So let go of the bitterness by giving urself a break. People need to be honest and acknowledge that this isn't just a one-sided equation. A lot of men and women don't know how to talk and interact with each other or enjoy each other's company. To me this isn't a male issue. It's a people issue.

you're oblivious if thats what you think
if anything its rampant even more elsewhere and North America is where its being discouraged