Why do people hit 30 and get all depressing n shyt?

[UserNameless]

I wouldn’t say better, they’re different, both can be good/great for very different reasons.

should be better imo ... for men . For y’all ... as singles ... that’s an entirely different ballgame

 

[wastedmermaid]

I'm 40 stay in the gym have hobbies if it's fishing playing video games are whatever I have a solid career I'm a Jehovah's witness so we are busy all the time so it helps keep you focus.... I admire my pops he is 63 years old after he retired from the railroad after 40 years been married to my mother 38 years still in the gym still handling his business as a jw preaching in Alabama he raises chickens he stay busy plus having a spiritual outlook knowing that Jehovah is going to annihilate life as we know it and turn it to a paradise gives incentive to keep moving. Now my brother who didn't become a witness is broke party through his twentys now he is coming up on 40 broke has nothing and is 65000 in child support debt.... The choices
We make.

Aaa that’s what’s up my Fellow Brother

 

[CarmelBarbie]

I’m happier now than in my twenties.

I don’t know anyone who fell apart at 30. Not sure why y’all still keep acting like 30 is knocking on death’s door. No, it’s not endless turn ups and carelessness of your 20’s but when you do turn up and have fun, it’s a lot better as most people have more money. People have young kids so it’s fun watching folks still be them while also raising kids...overall my 30’s been great

Plus as a woman, the way sex feels in your 30’s

This. I feel more confident and know myself, like truly know who I am, in ways I didn’t know myself in my twenties.

I love being a mom too, can’t wait to pop out another baby. Soon.

Stable in my career. Not lost anymore.
Earning way more than in my twenties. Not broke. I appreciate things more. More wisdom and strength.
I lost the light in my twenties because that’s when I lost a lot of people and began to realize that life wasn’t as certain and as secure as it seemed when I was younger. I didn’t know how to handle that knowledge then. But now I understand it—how things are often fleeting and temporary, and that it’s okay. It’s okay to feel depressed sometimes, it’s okay to not always have the answers, to not be as perfect or what I thought I would be or have what I thought I wanted... I think there’s more acceptance the older I get about that.
And that last line. Sex is soooooo much better, orgasms, feel, etc and all.

 

[Krazy K]

Sex is soooooo much better, orgasms, feel, etc and all.

This

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

should be better imo ... for men . For y’all ... as singles ... that’s an entirely different ballgame

If the only way you evaluate your life/decade is dating/marriage I guess...men and women in my peer group have had generally the same experiences in each age group thus both ages being great for different reasons

 

[UserNameless]

If the only way you evaluate your life/decade is dating/marriage I guess...men and women in my peer group have had generally the same experiences in each age group thus both ages being great for different reasons

Just saying a lot of women evaluate it in only that way

 

[Elle Driver]

Life comes at you fast.

 

[Roid Jones]

For my folks 30 and above do you notice how the peers you came up with are just shadows of their younger selves now? I recently met up with some old friends from college and left feeling depressed as fukk.

Half of them were either borderline alcoholic, unhappily married with kids, and/or on a track to becoming obese with their eating habits.

What is it about turning 30 that makes people become souless hallowed out shells? Its ridiculous I am seeing so many of my peers looking stressed the fukk out and no longer on top of their game.

All the dreams they had.GONE.
All the charisma they once had. GONE.
Keeping up with their physical appearence. GONE.
Their hairlines. GONE.

Is life really that hard out here? I've had my fair share of trials and tribulations but I am doing better than I've ever done. It makes be feel bad and to be honest sad that life hasn't been as rewarding for some of my old friends.

Life happens

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Just saying a lot of women evaluate it in only that way

Nah, well not the women in my circle. Most would look across all aspects of life - health, wealth, love, spiritual, relationships (friends, fam, s/o), achievements, personal happiness and confidence, hobbies/passions, etc.

I guess I see that as the point of this thread, looking at your overall life in two different decades which is why I feel the way I do, very different experiences but both have been good overall.

 

[UserNameless]

Nah, well not the women in my circle. Most would look across all aspects of life - health, wealth, love, spiritual, relationships (friends, fam, s/o), achievements, personal happiness and confidence, hobbies/passions, etc.

I guess I see that as the point of this thread, looking at your overall life in two different decades which is why I feel the way I do, very different experiences but both have been good overall.

That’s rare . So I’m assuming the women you’re referring to in your circle are late 20s , 30+ and single ?

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

That’s rare . So I’m assuming the women you’re referring to in your circle are late 20s , 30+ and single ?

Single, relationships, married, moms, not moms. And that’s not rare...most people in their 30’s are mature enough to evaluate their overall life. That’s the whole beauty of being in your 30’s

 

[King Khufu]

I think if you're in your 30's and you enjoying your life and not satisfied I think it's because you haven't mastered what your guarded as your considered goals son.

Sometimes it's financial, sometimes it's personal. #WisenUp

 

[Nature's Fury]

so glad i seen through the women i was close to in my 20s and distanced myself. All of em have put on pounds and even worse these are women in their 30/40s posting selfies online trying to look cute(with no one other than other old females and gay men saying they look good).

i would be miserable if i had settled down in my 20s with one of these girls. Not to mention children bring responsibility and i wouldnt have been able the risks i did to be comfortable.

Now im getting close to 40, work 1 to 3 days a week max and spend my days smoking weed, playing all the video games, and hanging out whenever and wherever. Just took a month off cause i felt like it

Meanwhile my friends on the same education level are working 2/3jobs sometimes 7 days a week to pay for the wife and kids they cant stand. One guy had an ultimatum, get a 3rd job to buy me a new truck our get out "my" house that he paid for.

Yeah them dudes and they wives are miserable.

Do you wanna be happy or miserable going into your 40s? Follow this one size fits all template that has all these people hating life and you can be just like them.

no shots, but being 40 and spending all day smoking weed and playing video games ain’t really the wave either. You living the life of the average 17 year old, except with more money.

 

[Makavalli]

Them dreams fade and reality hits at 30. Now if u are someone who had an unrealistic outlook on your future relationship and career it becomes a hard pill to swallow. Im in my 30s with a good career, health, family, and positive people around me.

its a sad reality for people out here that anybody can fall into so u just gotta stay humble and count your blessings

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

For my folks 30 and above do you notice how the peers you came up with are just shadows of their younger selves now? I recently met up with some old friends from college and left feeling depressed as fukk.

Half of them were either borderline alcoholic, unhappily married with kids, and/or on a track to becoming obese with their eating habits.

What is it about turning 30 that makes people become souless hallowed out shells? Its ridiculous I am seeing so many of my peers looking stressed the fukk out and no longer on top of their game.

All the dreams they had.GONE.
All the charisma they once had. GONE.
Keeping up with their physical appearence. GONE.
Their hairlines. GONE.

Is life really that hard out here? I've had my fair share of trials and tribulations but I am doing better than I've ever done. It makes be feel bad and to be honest sad that life hasn't been as rewarding for some of my old friends.

Nikka shut up and keep living

That said: you need a new circle