Why do so many men have low self esteem?

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Excessive usage of porn is not the cause. It is the effect

Let that sink in

Im willing to agree with this. Afterall things are created out of a need.

But i think for some it can take on a life of its own.
 

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Facts some nikkaz be like why try for real chick when I can watch Mazerati's titties clap for a nikka or Gianna Michaels ride a nikka to the grave.
Makes real p*ssy worse too because you conditioning yourself to your hand and mental stimulation from seeing unrealistically looking women who got hella makeup and/or plastic surgery.
 

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I agree with pretty much everything you're saying. At the end of the day, a man is going to decide if he wants to take control of his own life and better it.... or throw a decade long pity party and blame websites :yeshrug:

I do agree with your overall point. Cant save everyone, or even anyone.

If everyone has this mindset, the world will run fine. Ignore the simps and ignore the women who rule over them. It is exhausting trying to help men who do not want to help themselves. They aren’t “ruining” the dating world, they are merely existing in a section of it.

I commend you for taking action over a problem that’s plagued your life. I know it wasn’t easy. I hope you’re doing well.
 

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Makes real p*ssy worse too because you conditioning yourself to your hand and mental stimulation from seeing unrealistically looking women who got hella makeup and/or plastic surgery.

Facts I remember when I was going through my porn addiction when it came time to fukking a real chick my dikk would be on lipton noodle and had all types of erectile dysfunction plus anxiety. That's when I knew I had a problem.
 

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No one is telling them (us) we're worth anything. Used to be that your job, your groupe of friends, co-workers, or in general being part of something (corporation, trade union, sports team, political party, even to an extreme extent, of an army) gave you a sense of belonging and of being useful and helped one's sefl-esteem. Now a lot of those things don't really matter anymore. I don't remember which comedian said it, but women, kids and pets are loved for just existing, while men are loved for what they provide/bring to the table.

When's the last time you heard something like "all men deserve respect/love/good things"
 

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At the end of the day, a man is going to decide if he wants to take control of his own life and better it.... or throw a decade long pity party and blame websites :yeshrug:


This leads to an obvious question: has being on whichever sites we spend our time on made us better? Worse? Jaded? More, or less informed? Bitter? Insular? Community-minded? Prideful? Humbled?


Because while each of us is personally responsible for how we choose to respond to stimuli...all stimuli clearly ain't healthy for everybody.
 

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Neoliberalism teaches people to base their self-worth on success, wealth & material acquisition. For men there is the added pressure to be sexually successful.

In our post-feminism world, we still expect men to be providers & winners. Women are going to college more and killing men in white collar work outside of STEM / Finance (catching up there too).

Most young men 18-25 aren't getting money like that and they aren't pulling baddies. They go on IG and see their counterparts getting degrees, going on fancy trips every month, eating at nice restaurants, hanging with her attractive friends. Dudes feel like they don't have shyt to offer her.

So they fall into an endless cycle of low self esteem because they don't get women -----> women reject them because they got low self esteem ------->low self-esteem because they don't get women -------> women reject them because they got low self esteem. Start letting your hygiene go and become bitter and it just gets worse and worse. Then you isolate yourself so now your social skills start to atrophy. You use porn and maybe drugs to self-medicate and it's game over. Weeks, months then years go by.

What helped for me was getting into zen buddhism / stoicism and Nofap. Doing something difficult gives you a bit of confidence. Meditation makes you more calm in social situations. The concept of "no self" in buddhism helps with negative self-perception. Giving yourself structure can help you feel better and get rid of shame, which is poision for self-esteem. When a man is proud of how he lives his life (every waking moment) he will feel a lot better about himself and it will reflect in how he carries himself. He will keep his head up and look people in the eye.
Nope it has always been the conservative philosophy that said your worth is based on materialism. Then hip hop in the mid to late 90s expanded that creed even further. Now social media is the culprit in the modern era.
 

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No one is telling them (us) we're worth anything. Used to be that your job, your groupe of friends, co-workers, or in general being part of something (corporation, trade union, sports team, political party, even to an extreme extent, of an army) gave you a sense of belonging and of being useful and helped one's sefl-esteem. Now a lot of those things don't really matter anymore. I don't remember which comedian said it, but women, kids and pets are loved for just existing, while men are loved for what they provide/bring to the table.

When's the last time you heard something like "all men deserve respect/love/good things"
This is real shyt here
 

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Father hunger.

Edit: A lot of men were never validated by their fathers, and so they look for it in other places. Women, money, video games, etc. The point is that there are a lot of grown men who have a void inside of themselves that they are trying to fill. That empty space left by the father who never validated them.
 
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