Why do so many men have low self esteem?

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Are you in high school? :mjlol:
Who gives a fukk about any these things besides the individual? :mjlol:
People need to get off of social media, get away from narcissistic idiots, and meet more real people who value greater things in life beyond high school dynamics and their lives will get better.
People are supposed to outgrow that popular kid not popular kid bullshyt:mjlol:
Popularity is craved by all ages. Ya'll favorite rappers love being popular. People become politicians and entertainers in part because of the popularity that comes with it.
 

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My fam be like
"Damn I heard you got a good job.:mjgrin:
Benefits and all that" :mjgrin:

Me: "Man I'm alright. Can't complain"

Family: "So you still single? You ain't got you a female yet?":mjgrin:
Me:
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:russ:
My aunt do this to me

" You don't want want a girlfriend?":wrist:

"EY bytch WHAT YOU TRYING TO SAY?!"
 

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At this point I realize as a black man in my gen, in this country with my mindset I'll probably take more Ls than Ws in terms of the individual instances. I'm just trying to make the net impact of my erratic Ws outweighs the small and mediums size Ls, and I try to avoid mondo Ls at all cost.
If you are logical and aim to see the truth and the truth of your individual experience here has been more negative than positive regarding things that are out of your control...I am not saying that you should or will have a negative outlook on life or low self esteem but it is smart to have defenses up and expect the negative outcome as a form of protection for the human body mind spirit...Its a natural animal instinct if I go to this part of the woods and I am attacked 8 out of 10 times I am not going back there or I will think negatively about that part of the jungle based on my past experiences....well in life if I am treated a certain way our the chance outcome of things out of my control are negative 72% of the time then I will "feel bad" or may think more negatively of life or be more couscous. To have blind optimism when you know negativity or less than favorable outcome happen 70% is delusional so its a fine line NOT to have low self esteem and also be ready for negative experiences.


I recently found out I have a birth defect that affects .028 of men out of 100 or .28 of men out of 1000 or 2.8 men out of 10,000...I say that to say this I expect and I am ready for all the bullshyt and I just dont complain or care about the things mosts people do .... other peoples problems are not problems in my eyes and I am disinterested in most things unless it makes me money is and is enjoyable with low effort and low cost...I just don't care as much as I use to about things I use to care about based on outcomes of my life that are out of my control up to this point...What can I say and do??? who cares...I also don't enjoy things as much as I use to as I know bullshyt is around the corner...Call it low self esteem or pessimistic or whatever but its what life has been I see it and recognize it and call it out to protect myself moving forward...whats the alternative?
 
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Popularity is craved by all ages. Ya'll favorite rappers love being popular. People become politicians and entertainers in part because of the popularity that comes with it.
That's one way to view life. The point of life is to become popular? Amongst whom? :mjlol: That's the point of your life? That's the meaning of life to you? :mjlol: That's called being a social climber. Basic and lack of depth. Stuck in high school. No wonder why people act the way they do a bunch of self important narccicists running around trying to be what they were and were not in high school. You guys create your own misery.
 

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That's one way to view life. The point of life is to become popular? Amongst whom? :mjlol: That's the point of your life? That's the meaning of life to you? :mjlol: That's called being a social climber. Basic and lack of depth. Stuck in high school. No wonder why people act the way they do a bunch of self important narccicists running around trying to be what they were and were not in high school. You guys create your own misery.
Social media is basically the equivalent of trying to get high school popularity
 
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Social media is basically the equivalent of trying to get high school popularity
People on social media are some of the fakest and most miserable people you will ever meet
They represent basic superficiality anyone who is willingly following that and making that the center of their lives tells me a lot about them as a person, meaning likely pawn for me
Anyone who keeps talking about what they were in high school/middle school usually fits this persona as they miss feeling special and better than others as the popular person, when in reality, no one gives a fukk:mjlol:
People need to grow up
I feel bad for ayone that can't find entertainment in life beyond feeling better than someone else aka high school dynamics
Eventually that person becomes obsessed with living based off other people instead of living their own lives
I call them self esteem parasites they need other people to live because they need to shyt on other people to feel like they are something
Who would want to be around that long term? A social climber?
That person is using you as a pawn in a popularity contest against who I don't know aka a bunch of self important narccicists wanting to feel special like a bunch of big children seeking attention
People like that are meant to be pawns, not the basis of your self esteem:mjlol:
 
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People on social media are some of the fakest and most miserable people you will ever meet
They represent basic superficiality anyone who is willingly following that and making that the center of their lives tells me a lot about them as a person, meaning likely pawn for me
Anyone who keeps talking about what they were in high school/middle school usually fits this persona as they miss feeling special and better than others as the popular person, when in reality, no one gives a fukk:mjlol:
People need to grow up
I feel bad for ayone that can't find entertainment in life beyond feeling better than someone else aka high school dynamics
Eventually that person becomes obsessed with living based off other people instead of living their own lives
I call them self esteem parasites they need other people to live because they need to shyt on other people to feel like they are something
Who would want to be around that long term? A social climber?
That person is using you as a pawn in a popularity contest against who I don't know aka a bunch of self important narccicists wanting to feel special like a bunch of big children seeking attention
People like that are meant to be pawns, not the basis of your self esteem:mjlol:
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If you are logical and aim to see the truth and the truth of your individual experience here has been more negative than positive regarding things that are out of your control...I am not saying that you should or will have a negative outlook on life or low self esteem but it is smart to have defenses up and expect the negative outcome as a form of protection for the human body mind spirit...Its a natural animal instinct if I go to this part of the woods and I am attacked 8 out of 10 times I am not going back there or I will think negatively about that part of the jungle based on my past experiences....well in life if I am treated a certain way our the chance outcome of things out of my control are negative 72% of the time then I will "feel bad" or may think more negatively of life or be more couscous. To have blind optimism when you know negativity or less than favorable outcome happen 70% is delusional so its a fine line NOT to have low self esteem and also be ready for negative experiences.


I recently found out I have a birth defect that affects .028 of men out of 100 or .28 of men out of 1000 or 2.8 men out of 10,000...I say that to say this I expect and I am ready for all the bullshyt and I just dont complain or care about the things mosts people do .... other peoples problems are not problems in my eyes and I am disinterested in most things unless it makes me money is and is enjoyable with low effort and low cost...I just don't care as much as I use to about things I use to care about based on outcomes of my life that are out of my control up to this point...What can I say and do??? who cares...I also don't enjoy things as much as I use to as I know bullshyt is around the corner...Call it low self esteem or pessimistic or whatever but its what life has been I see it and recognize it and call it out to protect myself moving forward...whats the alternative?

Much respect for sharing your circumstance, and my condolences. I've had a hemorrhoid and have IBS, but other than I've been fortunate enough to mostly have good/clean bill of health.

As for the bolded I'm right there with you and I'm 23. In some respects, it's sobering. I know once Brady and Bron retire I won't have personal/childhood link to either sport anymore. So I won't watch them. Power was the last show I actively watched and once they killed the daughter and started angling toward the son as a main character I stopped caring, and never got invested in another show. All the things I enjoy get ruined by others, so at this point I just expectations. The thing is when you have low/no expectations for others/outcomes you inevitably become more withdrawn/apathetic to others/outcomes, which along with environment and self comprise life.

I more likely than not have mild depression (never been to a therapist), but when things are bad more often then they're good, why would I be optimistic/upbeat from a logical standpoint?

There is no alternative within the confines of logic. If you go the delusional optimism route you just bump your head on the same spots you have countless time prior. All you can do is just find peace of mind/some sense of being content in not caring what happens/how shyt goes.

It is what it is, and it be like that sometimes (most of the time) are my mantras. I just take it day by day and try to knock things off my to-do list and hope as I progress the Ls and Ws become more 50/50. I don't think they will I think over time you just become more adept at dealing with/processing Ls. I've said on other threads on this site, if not for immediate family I probably would off myself because I by and large don't enjoy life. It's really just music that I enjoy, but between the day to day I rarely get to listen to all the unheard albums sitting on my downloads folders.

Sidebar that's somewhat related my good breh, have you ever taken the Meyers Briggs Personality Test?
 
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Manosphere's are toxic now, y'all can't be socializing like this no more, it makes black feminists uncomfortable. Just shut up and deal with any mental issue you got.

nikkas gonna start clowning y'all now.

Don't shoot the messenger.
 
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