Raphaello
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One thing I can respect about black women is how much they support each other online. How do black men stop seeing each other as competition?
Why do so many men lack self-confidence?
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RaspberryFitted
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this is compounded when it’s other men stockpiling insults and shade onto you.
the dudes who call other men “fatherless” are a prime example of this.
Men are competitive since the dawn of age . As well many men don't have a outlet, e.g. if a woman was in an abusive relationship people will hear her out and comfort, if a man was in an abusive relationship people laugh you puzzy. If a woman was molested there is an outlet, if a man was molested it's
how could you let that happen. If a woman is dealing with heartbreak aww im here for you girl etc. etc. if a man is it's suck it up and hit something new puzzy.
RaspberryFitted
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Why should we stop that? Competition when executed properly, breeds success on both sides. If you’re referring to envy, I agree.
you mentioned “online”… I’m sick of basement dwelling podcasts and twitter threads.. let’s cultivate our own meetings in silence.
get these nets
Veteran
Thrive?
Unless you're talking about tech/business entrepreneurs and internet celebs who have parlayed their fame into generating revenue, who is actually thriving through social media/internet?
In real life, men who suffer from low self esteem haven't discovered what they are good/great at yet. Confidence comes from purpose and winning.
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Women aren’t surpassing men in income or social status (look at US Census/BLS). Women are surpassing men in attention received due to the internet.
These women aren’t confident, they’re delusional and loud. When they meet a man that has everything they pretend to be confident about, that bravado quickly turns to insecurities.
Young men aren’t confident because they have nothing to be confident about. Oftentimes their only accomplishments are graduating high school, being employed, and not having a criminal record; yet somehow believe they should be praised for their mediocrity.
Too much love and compassion as it is,aka coddling. Love and compassion is for women to give. But even many of them have checked out on us. Exhausted,tired of the coddling with little to show,and even less reciprocation. Which is fine by me,move out the way,we got this. We dont console other black men,we offer solutions. Any black man who wants to hang back and cry.Or constantly victimize themselves get left behind. Righteous black men are on strict time constraints. This should be the energy going foward
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nature & nurture
their pedigree is one of habitual generational loses & trauma
then they are thrown into the world unprepared & start the cycle of taking more L's from the door
they have no reason to be confident
to top it off they have a bunch of professional bullshyte artist telling them all they have to do is fake it to they make it be positive magic & miracles fairytale fukkery
they fail because their families failed
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their pedigree is one of habitual generational loses & trauma
then they are thrown into the world unprepared & start the cycle of taking more L's from the door
they have no reason to be confident
to top it off they have a bunch of professional bullshyte artist telling them all they have to do is fake it to they make it be positive magic & miracles fairytale fukkery
they fail because their families failed
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Raphaello
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So essentially we're screwed due to our competitive nature.Men are competitive since the dawn of age . As well many men don't have a outlet, e.g. if a woman was in an abusive relationship people will hear her out and comfort, if a man was in an abusive relationship people laugh you puzzy. If a woman was molested there is an outlet, if a man was molested it's
RaspberryFitted
Boyz In Motion Member
Another issue is alot of Men place their self-worth in shaky foundations. Women, looks, finances
What natural skills do you have? What talent do possess when push comes to shove, you can excel at?
Ironically, a lot of low-self esteem dudes and incels have interesting hobbies and skillsets they brush off.
What natural skills do you have? What talent do possess when push comes to shove, you can excel at?
Ironically, a lot of low-self esteem dudes and incels have interesting hobbies and skillsets they brush off.
Dance_Like_A_Fiend
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Social Media is a huge hugbox for women. Men and women alike fluff the egos of our generation of women so most of them are entitled and sometimes thotty.
Social media for men that aren't white is just one big demoralization psyop. Our generation lives most of our lives on their internet so we're always seeing how we're too poor or not tall enough or don't have enough swag. Either by attractive women or other men. Do you know what I mean?
Social media for men that aren't white is just one big demoralization psyop. Our generation lives most of our lives on their internet so we're always seeing how we're too poor or not tall enough or don't have enough swag. Either by attractive women or other men. Do you know what I mean?
Raphaello
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I guess thrive wasn't the right word. But rather men who seem well-adjusted.
In the past a man's purpose was looking after a family. And with that purpose waning I just don't see the average man finding a substitute in "winning" the game of life (career, wealth, etc)
People lack self confidence when it wasn’t instilled in them and nurtured by their parents or friends or family.
Confidence, for most people anyway, isn’t some inherent thing. We all have doubts. We are all self conscious. We are all nervous about things. We all have fear. You have to learn to power through that and believe that you’re sufficient. That you’re capable. But that takes work.
A very famous example of building up confidence is the relationship between Mike Tyson and Cus D’Amato. If you wondered why Mike had so much respect and gets so emotional talking about Cus it’s because Cus taught him to be confident in himself. He elevated Mike beyond what Mike thought of himself.
That’s a sports example but it’s relatable for anyone in any circumstance.
Confidence, for most people anyway, isn’t some inherent thing. We all have doubts. We are all self conscious. We are all nervous about things. We all have fear. You have to learn to power through that and believe that you’re sufficient. That you’re capable. But that takes work.
A very famous example of building up confidence is the relationship between Mike Tyson and Cus D’Amato. If you wondered why Mike had so much respect and gets so emotional talking about Cus it’s because Cus taught him to be confident in himself. He elevated Mike beyond what Mike thought of himself.
That’s a sports example but it’s relatable for anyone in any circumstance.