Why do so many men lack self-confidence?

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If you don't have shyt else to do then you don't do anything and when you don't do anything you don't grow, you don't change, you don't improve and the rest of the world passes you buy then you become bitter and bytch about the shyt you haven't done, can't do and don't have.
 

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it’s happening for a lot of reasons, but one of them is men don’t respect their fathers because the fathers failed them on some of the things needed to make a man.

My girls nephew is now a niece, and when you see how bytch made, weak, and narcissistic the father is, it make sense why he would want to turn into a women to be more like his mom and take on the victim hood of being “trans”
 
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Self confidence comes from within. As a man, you should always be trying to improve yourself. Every male should try their best to make as much money as possible, dress the best they can, work on their physique, network (socialize) with like minded individuals, and work on their mental health (therapy, meditation, etc). At the end of the day we are men, not women. We aren't told we are special and princesses since day one, we actually got to go out and earn our respect. We know just how cold the world can be to us, if we don't step our game up. Go out there and get to work brehs, we all still got work to do:salute:.
 

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Im not gonna lie, i blame the education system and the internet to keep it short and simple.

These boys need to get their asses off the internet pick up an instrument and start boxing or doing some Brazilian jujitsu to gain some confidence.

Word to @Mowgli
Martial arts occupys your time and thoughts with self preservation and gives you the freedom to be yourself in public. When the only people who can fukk with you are stone cold murderers you have alot of room to develop who you really are. You aren't chasing fake bravado to gain respect as a fake tough guy
 

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Too many kids are predominantly being raised by their mothers with the only reaction with their fathers being transactionary.

Culture in today's society is also trash as hell regarding flossing. Flossing has always existed, but with social media it's more apparent than ever. Most nikkas ain't got it like that. But when a girl say she don't fukk with broke nikkas (even though we know they lying), I guess it can mess with your mind.

Nowadays, a lot of info from previous generations are not passed down, like specific body language and type of words and word patterns used to attract women. Blame Gen X for this severe imbalance of Gen Y and Z.
 

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Cause a lot of us(them) didn't receive any kind of emotional support. We are just supposed to suck it up, don't show any love or compassion. I look at alot of dudes in my family and the times we had to go to a funeral. They weren't even crying and it made my mind go in circles.

Even on here, a brotha may create a thread and people call dude "soft". Ish is crazy to me

Superthug era and Crack Era made those unrealistic conditions for men.
 

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Self confidence comes from within. As a man, you should always be trying to improve yourself. Every male should try their best to make as much money as possible, dress the best they can, work on their physique, network (socialize) with like minded individuals, and work on their mental health (therapy, meditation, etc). At the end of the day we are men, not women. We aren't told we are special and princesses since day one, we actually got to go out and earn our respect. We know just how cold the world can be to us, if we don't step our game up. Go out there and get to work brehs, we all still got work to do:salute:.
Amen, we ain't got no choice but to be the best version of ourselves.
 

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One thing I can respect about black women is how much they support each other online. How do black men stop seeing each other as competition?

Black men gotta stop looking at each other as someone trying to stop their individual progression. Too many of us look at p*ssy, clout, and luxury items as the standard of peak manhood.

We need to share valuable info freely and stop this vindictive mentality of "I gotta charge you $$$$ for dropping game". We need to end the simping epidemic
 

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Im not gonna lie, i blame the education system and the internet to keep it short and simple.

These boys need to get their asses off the internet pick up an instrument and start boxing or doing some Brazilian jujitsu to gain some confidence.

Word to @Mowgli
Man these nikkas box and still shooting nikkas.
 

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It starts with school and family. A confident Black boy is seen as "cocky" or "stuck up". Teachers in school favor girls from the jump, and family uses boys as a scapegoat or as a mule to do heavy lifting chores around the house. Alot of parents indirectly teach their sons that having brawn is more important than having brains. That will destroy any confidence in young males

Thank God I was a rebel through school and with my relatives who wanted to "bring me down a couple notches"

That's why present day, my confidence is through the roof and sky high
Better too much than not enough :manny:
 
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