Why do so many men lack self-confidence?

[Peruvian Connect]

Self confidence only gets you so far any.

 

[Peruvian Connect]

Better too much than not enough

Depends on the situation. Both can be extremely detrimental

 

[Dance_Like_A_Fiend]

I notice this when lurking LSA, BW stay on code and have unity Wish brehs had that unity

That unity isn't always a good thing. It breeds that hugbox and fluffed ego I mentioned earlier. Now, I know some men just like making other men feel like crap about themselves, but there's also a little tough love and reality in-between all that shytslinging, too.
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Take the whole nerdy black guy debate, we've had like 3 or 4 huge threads about it in this month alone. All filled with guys calling each other out for not dating where they can fit in or not improving themselves. If one of these guys posted their pictures there would be endless clowning, too.

If and when the same/similar topic hits LSA or r/blackladies, the comments aren't ragging on the OP for not dating in her lane or putting black men in a monolith, or not targeting the black men the fit her standard, they're gassing her and telling her she doesn't need to change and that black men are mostly self-hating and shallow and colorist. Women hardly ever clown other women in these hugboxes either so if she was actually physically unattractive no one would have told her to fix herself.

 

[ItsPeople]

Men in the past had to be competent. They had to know how to hunt, grow and preserve food, find business opportunities, defend from predators, and fight in wars.

Men in 2022 don't even want to approach a woman they think is attractive. I've heard nikkas on this site even say it's not fair that a man has to lead in a relationship or decide where to eat when they go out.

They're much comfortable being at home swiping left and right hoping a chick matches with him

Im not gonna lie, i blame the education system and the internet to keep it short and simple.

These boys need to get their asses off the internet pick up an instrument and start boxing or doing some Brazilian jujitsu to gain some confidence.

Word to @Mowgli

if you’re HEAVY on social media you’re a loser and here’s why.

This fukking guy created a medium to mask his social ineptness that’s now accepted as “normal”….THIS GUY He was too socially awkward to personally go up to people and start study groups or mac on females. If you rely on SM for your “social” hit or to holla at females you lawst in life, timid...

www.thecoli.com

 

[Wild self]

Add on:
Someone broke the first rule about Fight Club and kept pillow talking after they were reprimanded and weren't thrown out.
They brought wifey or bae around boys club.
Too many pissing contests.
Renegade lifestyle practices.
Not enough mentorship.
Getting cheeks was too important.
Leaving young men behind with disgruntled baby mamas with a Willie Lynch agenda.
Some fathers didn't want to make the attempt to earn their purple heart.
Too many strayed from the pack.
So many young men lack self-confidence because no older men instilled them with it.
And the feminists saw this and took advantage.
Walking around telling her what goes on between men because you got a grievance with another man is weak behavior.
Too many men gave into femdom behind closed doors...


@Tenchi Ryu thanks for the alley-oop.

real talk. Until men smarten up and unite for a greater and selfless cause, these feminists will take advantage and win.

 

[Taadow]

Most people in here have said the truth that confidence comes from competence, skill(s) and experience.

And to have that, you need to see the value of having those things.

It seems to me that Today’s Young Man does not see value in most things; sad to say,
I can somewhat understand that vantage point. Most chit ain’t chit.

But I can say this: as a Young Bucc my confidence was helped to be fortified by others many times.
When people trusted me to do something, I didn’t want to let them down.
And I tended to think “Well if they think I can do it, maybe I can…”
That led to a lot of experience and expertise I got - I have many hidden talents.
The value I see in them is that they helped me to help somebody else.

I don’t know how many men now have:

1. anything to do
2. anyone that believes in them
3. anyone who even wants their help

 

[MoveForward]

Too many kids are predominantly being raised by their mothers with the only reaction with their fathers being transactionary.

Culture in today's society is also trash as hell regarding flossing. Flossing has always existed, but with social media it's more apparent than ever. Most nikkas ain't got it like that. But when a girl say she don't fukk with broke nikkas (even though we know they lying), I guess it can mess with your mind.

I made a thread about this and nikkas act like they didn’t know what I was talking about.

 

[Dave24]

@Love Bizarre would you let that woman do that to you?

 

[Peruvian Connect]

I made a thread about this and nikkas act like they didn’t know what I was talking about.

link

 

[I love Latina women]

@Love Bizarre would you let that woman do that to you?

No!

 

[Dave24]

Martial arts occupys your time and thoughts with self preservation and gives you the freedom to be yourself in public. When the only people who can fukk with you are stone cold murderers you have alot of room to develop who you really are. You aren't chasing fake bravado to gain respect as a fake tough guy

@Mowgli what other martial arts would you recommend besides Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu? They don't offer that where I live?

Also can lifting weights give yourself the freedom to be yourself in public?

 

[MoveForward]

link

Being A Weekend Dad Is Depressing…

You literally can never do enough… You pay your child support, sign them up for sports, ALWAYS show up no excuses, take your kids to sporting events, amusement parks, buy the PS5, X Box, Nintendo Switch, Disney cruises, Disney Park vacations, keep them fresh… As soon as they get out of line and...

www.thecoli.com

 

[Mowgli]

@Mowgli what other martial arts would you recommend besides Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu? They don't offer that where I live?

Also can lifting weights give yourself the freedom to be yourself in public?

Lifting weights will give you similar confidence. Both require dedication and discipline. If I didn't have the heart to fight I'd lift weights take John wick classes and become a 1st class shooter.

Boxing/ MMA / Muay Thai / Karate (from a world champion) are also options.

 

[Peruvian Connect]

Most people in here have said the truth that confidence comes from competence, skill(s) and experience.

And to have that, you need to see the value of having those things.

It seems to me that Today’s Young Man does not see value in most things; sad to say,
I can somewhat understand that vantage point. Most chit ain’t chit.

But I can say this: as a Young Bucc my confidence was helped to be fortified by others many times.
When people trusted me to do something, I didn’t want to let them down.
And I tended to think “Well if they think I can do it, maybe I can…”
That led to a lot of experience and expertise I got - I have many hidden talents.
The value I see in them is that they helped me to help somebody else.

I don’t know how many men now have:

1. anything to do
2. anyone that believes in them
3. anyone who even wants their help

Exactly!! You can have all teh confidence in ya self that you want, but if nobody else believes in you or gives you a shot, it means nothing.

 

[Jazzy B.]

Naw most men are good.

Don't confuse whiny socially stunted internet lames and a subset of vengeful E-nerds with what's going on in the real world.