Why do we blame single mothers for their situation?

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Some men explicitly let a woman know after he does not want to have a child with her and that she should take the morning after pill. :sas1:

Some of these women still don't take the Plan B. Her choice. :sas2:
 
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on another note most guys don't even feel the same repercussions of parenthood as a mother does so it's kind of why a lot of parental focus is on the mother.
in the last 2 months i've had two guys with babies try me. i was like, uhhh no you just had a baby. it's like they don't even know that their status/standing in the world has changed lol, maybe because they don't be with the kid everyday, idk. and then one had the nerve to tell me that he was digging me cuz i didn't have kids :what::umad:
 

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Before the white folks Sexual Revolution of the 1960s and 1970s (that too many Black folk are still somehow abiding by...), the laws and culture of the society did place responsibility for reproduction and child-raising on both females and males. The enforcing institution was called MARRIAGE.

Folks were supposed to be married BEFORE they had children. In fact, having a child out-of-wedlock was grounds for having the child taken away by older relatives or the state back then.

Our parents and grandparents will tell stories of how pregnant teen girls and young women would be "sent down South" from the North once they became pregnant out of wedlock. In those instances, the baby would be taken away from the mother, to be raised and cared for by older, married relatives (grandparents, aunts and uncles).

This is also why we had "shotgun marriages" when an unmarried pregnant couple would suddenly head to the altar.

When marriage was rejected in the 1960s and 1970s by the Sexual Revolution and the Feminist Movement as a tool of the "patriarchy" and "male control," so-called "casual sex," women's contraception called The Pill, and a woman' unrestricted right to abort pregnancies were all heavily promoted. Marriage and religious doctrine was rejected.

It was during this period that the out-of-wedlock birth rate skyrocketed, and for vulnerable Black folk just coming out of the 1960s Civil Rights legal battles, the concept of the married, two-parent Black family was irreparably harmed. The fabric of the stable Black community was forever negatively impacted.

The women's movement chant "My Baby, My Body, My Choice" said everything that needed to be said about the big shift in where modern responsibility has been placed for when children are brought into the world. And sadly, children have been the biggest victims of this change.

The only thing you showed me is...
In a society where women are not under any rules and less social stigma...
They have the freedom to chose what they want to do, who they want to do , and how they want to do it ..
They chose to be single mothers.

If we go back to the way it was... And you're saying that the blame and responsibility was put on men and women...
Then other things have to go back the way it was too.
The man and woman dynamic and the freedoms that women have In society would go back.

The last part of my comment was the most important part.
Women aren't getting bamboozled or even thinking they are making a bad decision... They actually want to be single mothers.

Whether society makes them feel bad about it or not.
If you understand a women's nature it actually makes sense.
 
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Women can't lose this day and age. Straight undefeated. Got the keys to the p*ssy, but somehow it's still the man's fault:mjlol:

If this was back in day days before feminism, child support and welfare, I'd 100% blame the man. This day and age there is no excuse to be a single mother.
 

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I don't think there is a 1 size fits all situation when it comes to single mothers. I was a single father of my oldest as a teenager but I was lucky enough to have my mother babysit while I was in school and my wife didn't hold it against me.

I don't hold it against a woman if she was a teen mom, but women in their 20's and 30s have enough agency to understand and make a decision one way or another.

One the flip side of that, we can't let fathers who don't take responsibility slide, that is a choice too.
 

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Women can't lose this day and age. Straight undefeated. Got the keys to the p*ssy, but somehow it's still the man's fault:mjlol:

If this was back in day days before feminism, child support and welfare, I'd 100% blame the man. This day and age there is no excuse to be a single mother.


Who hurt you?
 

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Cause those are the same bitter ass nikkas mad they didn’t get chose. So now they on some “hahahaha I told you so. Look who you chose.”


Meanwhile almost every guy I know or met or seen is a lying ass cheater. Facts. Y’all know you cheat, your boys cheat, y’all sell dreams, your cousin selling dreams, nikkas know they ain’t gonna be there but nutting up in them anyway, lying bout saying they gonna step up, lying and saying they love you, play a good dad for 5 months, 5 years, and then up and leave, try and run from it, hide from CS, quit jobs or get paid under the table to avoid it.

Like let’s be real out here. Most guys are not stand up guys. And most good guys aren’t trying to do anything more than fukk and lie as well. But they pretend they would have wifed her if not for her terrible choice. Man please.
A lot of what you posted like a plot in a Typer Perry movie. Does it happen? Sure. But MOST of the time the women had seen red flags ignored them got pregnant by these bozos then get made when he does what bozos do. Again it’s her job as a woman to protect her womb for the best possible man who has the character to be a good father. This is why back in the day fathers and men in the family vetted the man. Obviously those days are over however it’s the woman’s job to see if this man shows signs of being a good husband and father. Millions of other woman do this and make the right choice. However these single mothers saw some red flags but ignored it or were deluded to believe the mans lies. And by your logic if a man marries a thot ignoring red flags the found out she cheats on him it’s her fault. Not it’s the mans fault for making a poor decision in picking a life partner. So in the end women choose who they have sex with. These women have to choose better point blank simple.
 
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