Why do we blame single mothers for their situation?

[Shadow King]

Who said anything about black women

What women are you generally socializing with, dating, and fukking?

 

[Wear My Dawg's Hat]

The only thing you showed me is...
In a society where women are not under any rules and less social stigma...
They have the freedom to chose what they want to do, who they want to do , and how they want to do it ..
They chose to be single mothers.

If we go back to the way it was... And your saying that the blame and responsibility was put on man and woman...
Then other things have to go back the way it was too.
The man and woman dynamic and the freedoms that women have In society would go back.

The last part of my comment was the most important part.
Women aren't getting bamboozled or even thinking they are making and decision... They actually want to be single mothers.

Whether society makes them feel bad about it or not.
If you understand a women's nature it actually makes sense.

We will never go back to "the way it was" in the U.S. (unless the coming Hispanic-American majority enforces Catholic family ideology in future).

The overall society has chosen random sexual activity access over marriage/family/community building and stable child-rearing.

Pregnancy has become a simple byproduct of sexual activity from which women can SOLELY CHOOSE to proceed with, or terminate.

The purpose was to remove males from the final decision-making process for procreation or baby making.

In our communities, the overwhelming majority of single-motherhood happens by female choice, not wife abandonment or widowing.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

A lot of what you posted like a plot in a Typer Perry movie. Does it happen? Sure. But MOST of the time the women had seen red flags ignored them got pregnant by these bozos then get made when he does what bozos do. Again it’s her job as a woman to protect her womb for the best possible man who has the character to be a good father. This is why back in the day fathers and men in the family vetted the man. Obviously those days are over however it’s the woman’s job to see if this man shows signs of being a good husband and father. Millions of other woman do this and make the right choice. However these single mothers saw some red flags but ignored it or were deluded to believe the mans lies. And by your logic if a man marries a thot ignoring red flags the found out she cheats on him it’s her fault. Not it’s the mans fault for making a poor decision in picking a life partner. So in the end women choose who they have sex with. These women have to choose better point blank simple.

I been a man all my life and been around them all my life. As the same as every man in here. What percentage of men that we truly know, can we say don’t cheat? Haven’t cheated? Ain’t faking and bullshytting to get p*ssy? How many men you know keeping it 1000 with these women?

Exactly. I don’t even have to ask anyone in here. We know the answers. It ain’t Tyler Perry shyt for a nikka to be lying for p*ssy. shyt, game for most nikkas is just lying for p*ssy. Gaming her up.


Now that we established that. The question isn’t what happens every single time. The question is why are these MEN so angry and mad at women they ain’t even fukking, let alone met, just cause they are single moms… no vitriol for the men. Don’t know if she was married, with a guy for 10 years or a one night stand. Don’t know any of the circumstances that got her there…….

YET. These dudes got these made up scenarios of them choosing the “thug” and red flags and just saying oh well let’s fukk. Then they find out their preggo, and the man always honestly says “I’m gonna disappear” and then here they are.

That sounds bitter as shyt. A lot of our mothers were single moms and bet everybody got some wonderful story of how they just fell out of love. But that random on the street. Oh she passed up the good man and went with the thug and knew the signs and that’s the reason.


Every time though? That’s the first guess? Come on man. Don’t fall in with these bitter nikkas. I see a single mom and my first thought is, that nikka gamed her head up and dipped when it got real.

 

[TripleAgent]

Aren’t the men at fault for not staying to build a family? Why so much anger and vitryall towards women doing their best to raise kids alone.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

We will never go back to "the way it was" in the U.S. (unless the coming Hispanic-American majority enforces Catholic family ideology in future).

The overall society has chosen random sexual activity access over marriage/family/community building and stable child-rearing.

Pregnancy has become a simple byproduct of sexual activity from which women can SOLELY CHOOSE to proceed with, or terminate.

The purpose was to remove males from the final decision-making process for procreation or baby making.

In our communities, the overwhelming majority of single-motherhood happens by female choice, not wife abandonment or widowing.

See what I mean? Dude just pulled a statistic out his ass. He has zero proof of that but gonna not only say it like fact, but then put it on our community when there’s 50 million of us and he probably seen less than 200.



anyways. Only 4 out of 10 kids are born to unwed mothers. That’s means the other 6 come from DIVORCE. Meaning most women do wait to have kids and usually with a person they love and trust. Then divorce happens and the piece of shyt decides he ain’t taking care of his kids no more.

half of single mothers never get married. The other half are divorced or widowed. So again. You see a single mom with 3 kids and it’s 50/50 if she’d be married and 3 out 5 chance all the kids come from that divorce

B-b-b-but thugs


Single Mother Statistics (UPDATED 2021)

 

[Wear My Dawg's Hat]

See what I mean? Dude just pulled a statistic out his ass. He has zero proof of that but gonna not only say it like fact, but then put it on our community when there’s 50 million of us and he probably seen less than 200.

anyways. Only 4 out of 10 kids are born to unwed mothers. That’s means the other 6 come from DIVORCE. Meaning most women do wait to have kids and usually with a person they love and trust. Then divorce happens and the piece of shyt decides he ain’t taking care of his kids no more

Every church and Black organization has been trying to address these out of wedlock issues, including the Morehouse Institute. The 70 percent out of wedlock birthrate in our community has helped destroy our
married, two-parent family structure.

Turning the corner on father absence in Black America. | Fatherhood.gov


TURNING THE CORNER ON FATHER ABSENCE IN BLACK AMERICA.

This project largely stems from conversations that began in 1996 and 1997 involving ObieClayton of the Morehouse Research Institute, Ron Mincy of the Ford Foundation, David Blankenhorn of the Institute for American Values, and others.From these discussions, three questions emerged. First, what are the best ways to supportthe growing fatherhood movement in the African American community - a movement thatis relatively ignored by the national media, but which is transforming the lives of many young, poorly educated fathers? Second, is it time for the nation's prominent African American scholars and leading experts on the African American family to come together to assist this movement? And finally, is it possible for this movement to make common cause- intellectually, morally, and organizationally - with a broad spectrum of other fatherhood and civic leaders?The result of these deliberations was the Morehouse Conference on African American Fathers, held at Morehouse College in Atlanta on November 4 - 6, 1998. This 'statement' continues the conversation about how best to respond to the challenge of fatherabsence in the African American community.

 

[SleezyBigSlim]

Aren’t the men at fault for not staying to build a family? Why so much anger and vitryall towards women doing their best to raise kids alone.

Why do we blame any women for their situations? Men are responsible for women always been that way and always will be. Every woman you love is included in that, mother, spouse, sisters, cousins ect..

 

[Ziggiy]

Abortion is a sin in certain religions. Women do want to coparent. No one wants to raise kids alone.

So is premarital sex.


All that “sin” bullshyt goes out the door when you overlook one because of the consequences of the other.

 

[Dark Knyght]

“Deadbeat” fathers are a lot of times created by women who force men into creating a family that they didn’t want to start, but y’all ain’t ready for that conversation

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Cause those are the same bitter ass nikkas mad they didn’t get chose. So now they on some “hahahaha I told you so. Look who you chose.”


Meanwhile almost every guy I know or met or seen is a lying ass cheater. Facts. Y’all know you cheat, your boys cheat, y’all sell dreams, your cousin selling dreams, nikkas know they ain’t gonna be there but nutting up in them anyway, lying bout saying they gonna step up, lying and saying they love you, play a good dad for 5 months, 5 years, and then up and leave, try and run from it, hide from CS, quit jobs or get paid under the table to avoid it.

Like let’s be real out here. Most guys are not stand up guys. And most good guys aren’t trying to do anything more than fukk and lie as well. But they pretend they would have wifed her if not for her terrible choice. Man please.

I don't believe this. If these women simply waited for marriage to have unprotected sex then a lot would better off.

If you handsomegang these women are letting you nut in them. Might not be the first time, but give it 3 to 4 months of serious dating

 

[desjardins]

the obvious reason is because a majority of time those kids were unplanned and unwanted and the latter is (usually) made clear by the father when he is made aware of the pregnancy
her body her choice is fine but that shyt come with consequences

 

[Kamikaze Revy]

Because sex doesn't happen unless they open their legs

Goodness gracious that first post grand opening grand closing.
Mods spoiler that dead body. There’s kids around.

 

[Yinny]

Shytting on women is a fun pastime

good clean fun for the whole family

but until we start holding men accountable/bashing them in equal measure for being “baby daddies” or “single dads” the one-sided scorn will continue. We won’t ofc he was just a poor man who a lecherous woman got her Succubus juices on

 

[BaggerofTea]

It goes both ways

I don't expect women to be accountable for shyt. It's just in their nature.

They have for eons lived off passing the buck to men.

Why expect them to change now. Just move accordingly

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

Every church and Black organization has been trying to address these out of wedlock issues, including the Morehouse Institute. The 70 percent out of wedlock birthrate in our community has helped destroy our
married, two-parent family structure.

Turning the corner on father absence in Black America. | Fatherhood.gov


TURNING THE CORNER ON FATHER ABSENCE IN BLACK AMERICA.

This project largely stems from conversations that began in 1996 and 1997 involving ObieClayton of the Morehouse Research Institute, Ron Mincy of the Ford Foundation, David Blankenhorn of the Institute for American Values, and others.From these discussions, three questions emerged. First, what are the best ways to supportthe growing fatherhood movement in the African American community - a movement thatis relatively ignored by the national media, but which is transforming the lives of many young, poorly educated fathers? Second, is it time for the nation's prominent African American scholars and leading experts on the African American family to come together to assist this movement? And finally, is it possible for this movement to make common cause- intellectually, morally, and organizationally - with a broad spectrum of other fatherhood and civic leaders?The result of these deliberations was the Morehouse Conference on African American Fathers, held at Morehouse College in Atlanta on November 4 - 6, 1998. This 'statement' continues the conversation about how best to respond to the challenge of fatherabsence in the African American community.

While I do agree with this fully homie, unwed don’t mean single parent. But it does mostly lead to be easier to get there.