Why don’t couples last after having a baby??

[Kinguno]

Sometimes women chemically change after giving birth

 

[Gold]

What are you even talking about? A marriage can fall apart WAY before the couple decides on divorce. That doesn't mean in that time the man is being a supportive father. He could be cheating, gambling or just generally neglecting his family.

Everything you mentioned happens far more outside of the confines of marriage. Yall can't be serious with this narrative.

I forgot this is the coli, #gmb #nomarriagegang

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

One of the reasons for me is that the female let’s her body go, doesn’t loose all the baby weight and is no longer attractive I’ve seen females blame their weight on their baby 4+ years after the fact. Like you coulda BEEN lost that weight sis

Baby is an entire new person added to your relationship. And not a sister wife or somebody who can help out and shyt. It’s someone you have to do EVERYTHING for. At least the first few years.

Your relationship changes in every way. Time. Money. Sex. Looks. Vacations. Work. Family. Friends. Everything.

A simple, let’s go out tonight and get drunk and dance and fukk........

Becomes, hey it’s monday. You think we could get the sitter for Friday from 9-3 so we can go out. But we can’t get too fukked up. We got a kid now. And we can’t be too late cause the sitter gotta be home. And we can’t stay out for the same reason. And we also need to save money for a new swing set. And then get up early next day to take him to see grandma. Plus we saving for Disney next year



Yea. That’s gonna make you both dream of that freedom and what it used to be. and one of you is gonna get tired, or get tired of the other person missing it

 

[Mr. Glass]

Alot of couples don't last PERIOD. Normally, a person has many relationship failures in life. We only call them successful in regards to relationships when they have like a 1 in 10+ success rate.

You can have 50 failed relationships, but if the 51st last until you die, people will say you "successfully found love."

 

[Rocket Scientist]

In a relationship/marriage. Man and woman are each other's #1 main priority. When a baby comes someone takes a backseat (literally) which is usually the man..The attention the woman use to give to the man she gives to the newborn,plus she is undergoing changes while we the men are out there working hard or working multiple jobs just to provide.

 

[Frieza]

money problems

 

[StickStickly]

Give an example?

If you have a newborn, your sleep schedule is maybe one hour every two hours. Cranky people who also have to work and are trying to raise a healthy, mentally well kid are stressed out. You’ll see how the other handles stress. Do they talk to one another in a calm manner, giving each other turns, validating feelings as they come to solutions, or do they argue, tell, clam out and withhold themselves from one another, use the baby or stonewalling as punishment?

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

This would be a valid point if it didn't happen in committed relationships and marriages as well.

Shhh he needs the daps that bad. Let him cook

 

[YaThreadFloppedB!]

THat woman you quoted is retarded, the MAN put the seed in her, its more him than it is her lol

She really wanna be with me

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

We didn't make it because I was all about me. I didn't take her feelings into account. Honestly I wasn't ready for a relationship. I didn't know what it took. She did though, she treated me like a king. She moved on and so did I but we still take amazing care raising our child together.

Thats whats up. Truthfully parents don't have to stay together. All that matters is they both make the child a priority

 

[Goat poster]

I know plenty of women that lost weight after the baby. Didn't put on much in the first place . People are calling OP shallow for pointing out some real shyt.

I have a friend who is a personal trainer and his wife gained weight after the firrtborn and refused to work out. She doesn't represent him and is hurting his image as an effective trainer. He is also surrounded by beautiful women. I don't blame him for cheating at all. You can't be talking about baby weight years later.

The problem is most dudes expect a woman to perform her motherly duties with little help from him and then get mad when she doesn’t lose that weight.

I go to the gym religiously but it took me a good 6-8 months to fully get back to my gym regimen because your life is turned upside down with a newborn. And it takes time to adjust. You get tired faster and you have less free time.

And I’m a man, it’s TWICE as hard for a woman, maybe more than that.

If the man isn’t gonna stay home with the kid for the hours she’s in the Gym, or put the bread up for a nanny and personal trainer then they have no right to cry.

I wanted my girl to get her old body back so I made the sacrifices for her to hit The Gym and hot yoga.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

You honestly think divorces are as a common as someone seeding up a woman and leaving?

What planet you live on breh?

You really think marriage is magical

A kid can definitely be the final straw of a marriage. I don't think yall understand how demanding and life changing kids are.

shyt, wifey and I had a photographer come take some photos of us and our new baby. She brought a baby with her. Story? Kid's parents (I think the dad is the photographers brother) were on the rocks.... he wanted a kid, mother didn't but had one anyway. Surprise! Kid comes, it's too much... they are getting a divorce. If you think people change when they get married or have kids you are mistaken o

 

[MaxPain]

That baby weight gotta go.


If she gets fat on u , u have a right to leave.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

The problem is most dudes expect a woman to perform her motherly duties with little help from him and then get mad when she doesn’t lose that weight.

I go to the gym religiously but it took me a good 6-8 months to fully get back to my gym regimen because your life is turned upside down with a newborn. And it takes time to adjust. You get tired faster and you have less free time.

And I’m a man, it’s TWICE as hard for a woman, maybe more than that.

If the man isn’t gonna stay home with the kid for the hours she’s in the Gym, or put the bread up for a nanny and personal trainer then they have no right to cry.

I wanted my girl to get her old body back so I made the sacrifices for her to hit The Gym and hot yoga.

Yep, we have a home gym in part for this exact reason. Wifey hasn't been able to work out since like May of last year, she only just started going back to yoga.

A lot of nikkas talking about or actually leaving a chick who gets fat aren't in shape themselves, which is the real comedy of the situation. It is what it is, average person is full of shyt and doesn't live up to the standards they hold others to.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Who here has kids????