Why don't girls go for 'nice' guys?

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7Revo said:
Thats cool and all but a lot of men will have to wait years for a chick who likes them for themselves come around.

A lot of chicks like dudes but dont act upon attraction and for those men they have to find a way to convince those women to move upon their attraction which is where they need to improve their looks, get more popular, or improve their talking skills.
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in this day of social media its never been easier.
 
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Dwolf said:
Define a nice guy.
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A nice guy to me is someone who is chivalrous and caring but doesn't fall in love with what his eyes see before gaining a closer inspection. Someone who falls in love quickly is a fool to me. I appreciate compliments now and again... but it's a turn off when a man loves you before he has even gotten to know you. The stare of lust without pure love is stomach churning to me. The look in his eyes tells me that to him I'm a sexual object; how can I be more when he doesn't know me? That's where the problem lies.
 
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Emperor_ReinScarf said:
I am a nerdy dude
I'm also skinny
i could also be defined as a "nice guy" by certain definitions.

I've also never had a problem attracting women, nor do I play games or enter chameleon roles. I'm just myself :banderas:
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If you never had a problem attracting women then your not THAT nerdy. Lets be real :yeshrug:
 
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Emperor_ReinScarf said:
I am.
My hobbies are writing and photography, i don't club, drink, party or indulge in monetary demonic desires.

I've just been blessed :blessed:
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How are your looks? How is your popularity? :stopitslime:

If you got either then your not that nerdy.
 
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TheFemalePerspective said:
A nice guy to me is someone who is chivalrous and caring but doesn't fall in love with what his eyes see before gaining a closer inspection. Someone who falls in love quickly is a fool to me. I appreciate compliments now and again... but it's a turn off when a man loves you before he has even gotten to know you. The stare of lust without pure love is stomach churning to me. The look in his eyes tells me that to him I'm a sexual object; how can I be more when he doesn't know me? That's where the problem lies.
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4 pages back you say For that reason, I don't go for the 'nice' guy per se.

yet you describe a nice guy who is chivalrous and caring but doesn't fall in love with what his eyes see before gaining a closer inspection



women want hot ice
 
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Dude, women are wired to be dominated. That masculine energy from men drive them nuts. Why you think they like being choked, hair pulled azz smacked, etc? ALL (even these feminists)women want a man to check them in some way and give them some direction no matter what they say. Stop being a bytch, and you'll get get more cooperation.
 
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TheFemalePerspective said:
I hear this phrase all the time; however, before self-reflecting on the realm of possibilities which may explain this conundrum, I conducted my own little experiment. I went out with a so-called 'nice' guy. My family and friends kept telling me that I was extremely picky and here was a 'nice' guy that was interested in me but I was turning him down for no reason apparently. So against my better judgement, I decided to give this 'nice' guy a chance.

We went out for dinner and I listened to him talk exuberantly about his own interests. I could tell he was very much attracted to me. Taking every opportunity to put his body in close proximity with mine. And he would stare at me like a hungry mad man on death row, about to eat his last supper. I felt uncomfortable but decided to give him a chance. Although I usually enjoy talking, that evening I sat silently and remained in observation mode. He kept talking and talking, and talking. I looked at the time and it appeared to have been moving every millennia; boredom quickly began to seep in as I struggled to keep any interest of mine afloat.

You're probably reading this and thinking that I was being a stuck up [beep]. Perhaps you're right but hear me out before you make your judgement. You see, I get turned off by men who appear to like me even when I sit there like a mute -- with nothing to offer but my beauty. There's no intellectual discussion, he hasn't gotten to know me beyond my exterior layer. A date is where you peel back layers instead of admiring the outer layer. It's the sweet soft part that's all within us; the part anyone rarely gets to see, which should be the main course of discussion!

That's the problem, you see. Liking the exterior before you've even touched upon what's on the inside. A so-called 'nice' guy gets excited over the packaging and his enthusiasm is revolting. He'll tell you he loves you without even tasting you. He'll call you every day and declare his love before even knowing your ingredients. He'll like you albeit you've said very few words to him.

His love for you is an illusion. And the sad part is, he doesn't even know it.

For that reason, I don't go for the 'nice' guy per se. I go for the guy I find mentally stimulating, not the one who tells me I mean the world to him, when he doesn't even know what my inner world contains.

/End rant.
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So basically you like the thug who doesn't care about what you think but asks you anyway to make you feel special so he can fondle that feline later on.

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Emperor_ReinScarf said:
I have no popularity those days are over :sas1:

looks? :ehh:
I'm 29 and currently mingling with a 22 legit model and she thinks im handsome :ehh:
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and there you go.

Proved what I said as correct.:sas2:

Go back and re-read my first post because you clearly didnt understand it.

I know being a nerd is considered cool these days but you ain't gotta lie to kick it

Everybody wanna be a nerd but nobody wanna be a nerd:sas1:
 
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