Why don't girls go for 'nice' guys?

[Victoria Wade]

Men, I'm going to say this one time and one time only. When it comes to women, regardless of fine she is, NEVER be a nice guy.

But you are a virgin, so you really don't know shyt.

 

[Docaveli]

You're making many assumptions about what my expectations were. However, I do agree that I could've spoken more and explained what it is that I exactly want, but then he wast just emulate it and therefore it wouldn't be genuine in my eyes. Do you understand?

I really can't jive with excuses because again i never heard a woman making excuses about why she didn't spread her legs for a so called"thug" armed robber, killer or whatever adjectives we associate negativity too. U only hear excuses and explanations after the fact if u even get one, normally women focus on the 1% positive side of the Afro mentioned and say things like "he make me laugh", "secure and other crap that suites them.

So there shouldn't be no excuses u got to give the so called nice guy the same chance, benefit of doubt that u do a "thug" of course it's ur life and u do what u want but don't come here making excuses why u choose the wrong guys, u gotta deal with whatever consequences come from that and don't drag other people with u.

 

[Medulla Oblongata]

But you are a virgin, so you really don't know shyt.

Not really. Dumb bytch.

 

[Dwolf]

A nice guy to me is someone who is chivalrous and caring but doesn't fall in love with what his eyes see before gaining a closer inspection. Someone who falls in love quickly is a fool to me. I appreciate compliments now and again... but it's a turn off when a man loves you before he has even gotten to know you. The stare of lust without pure love is stomach churning to me. The look in his eyes tells me that to him I'm a sexual object; how can I be more when he doesn't know me? That's where the problem lies.

So someone that wants you for more then sex

 

[FTBS]

I want a guy who genuinely cares, but do I want one who falls for me when he knows very little about my character? Nope.

So you want a nice guy.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Lool what a simp

 

[TheFemalePerspective]

I really can't jive with excuses because again i never heard a woman making excuses about why she didn't spread her legs for a so called"thug" armed robber, killer or whatever adjectives we associate negativity too. U only hear excuses and explanations after the fact if u even get one, normally women focus on the 1% positive side of the Afro mentioned and say things like "he make me laugh", "secure and other crap that suites them.

So there shouldn't be no excuses u got to give the so called nice guy the same chance, benefit of doubt that u do a "thug" of course it's ur life and u do what u want but don't come here making excuses why u choose the wrong guys, u gotta deal with whatever consequences come from that and don't drag other people with u.

I don't date thugs. Can you please stop making assumptions? Thanks.

 

[TheFemalePerspective]

So someone that wants you for more then sex

Yes.

 

[Remote]

I hear this phrase all the time; however, before self-reflecting on the realm of possibilities which may explain this conundrum, I conducted my own little experiment. I went out with a so-called 'nice' guy. My family and friends kept telling me that I was extremely picky and here was a 'nice' guy that was interested in me but I was turning him down for no reason apparently. So against my better judgement, I decided to give this 'nice' guy a chance.

We went out for dinner and I listened to him talk exuberantly about his own interests. I could tell he was very much attracted to me. Taking every opportunity to put his body in close proximity with mine. And he would stare at me like a hungry mad man on death row, about to eat his last supper. I felt uncomfortable but decided to give him a chance. Although I usually enjoy talking, that evening I sat silently and remained in observation mode. He kept talking and talking, and talking. I looked at the time and it appeared to have been moving every millennia; boredom quickly began to seep in as I struggled to keep any interest of mine afloat.

You're probably reading this and thinking that I was being a stuck up [beep]. Perhaps you're right but hear me out before you make your judgement. You see, I get turned off by men who appear to like me even when I sit there like a mute -- with nothing to offer but my beauty. There's no intellectual discussion, he hasn't gotten to know me beyond my exterior layer. A date is where you peel back layers instead of admiring the outer layer. It's the sweet soft part that's all within us; the part anyone rarely gets to see, which should be the main course of discussion!

That's the problem, you see. Liking the exterior before you've even touched upon what's on the inside. A so-called 'nice' guy gets excited over the packaging and his enthusiasm is revolting. He'll tell you he loves you without even tasting you. He'll call you every day and declare his love before even knowing your ingredients. He'll like you albeit you've said very few words to him.

His love for you is an illusion. And the sad part is, he doesn't even know it.

For that reason, I don't go for the 'nice' guy per se. I go for the guy I find mentally stimulating, not the one who tells me I mean the world to him, when he doesn't even know what my inner world contains.

/End rant.

You're a fraud.

Before you even went on a date with this guy you were just lying to yourself about giving him a chance, because if you were really open to it, you would have done it long ago.

You sat there silent as he babbled away...rather than injecting something of interest that YOU wanted to explore. Like too many women you were just waiting for him to secretly know what was going to pique your interest? He's not a mindreader.
So what else was this goon going to do? Just suddenly open up a topic about US foreign policy, or what the implications are of the Ebola pandemic?

If you're going to sit at a table looking like a silent, pretty idiot, that's what someone is going to talk about...how pretty you are. Because you literally gave him nothing else to go on.

A date is where you peel back layers instead of admiring the outer layer. Those are your words. But dates are 50/50 and you didn't show any attempt to peel back the layers of his personality. As shytty a date as this was, you deserve equal blame for it.

Don't gloss over the fact that you admitted to being a stuck up c*nt. Because you were. And you know it. So don't try to pass it off on him like he was the reason you acted the way you did.

Was the guy lusting over you?
Probably.

If you're a pretty woman, that's what guys do. Welcome to reality.

Maybe you'll have better success dating people if you actually take charge of your own dating experience rather than waiting for Magical Mr. Right to ask all the right questions and tell all the right jokes.

This entire thread comes across as typical arrogant feminist douchebaggery, where women think that because they have a pretty face and are relatively smart that they don't have to put any effort into seeking what THEY themselves want.

 

[13473]

i date nice guys. i hate the ones who try to act like they're rico suave with women and i have to suffer through their awkward "girl you so fine..." lines.

also, and this is the biggest thing: i don't go for men. nice guys need to be more aggressive and go after the women they like. even after i get with nice guys they wait for me to make the moves in the relationship. no.

 

[MikelArteta]

i was just saying i aint seen raul in a minute then boom


and yep she is a fraud, like i said if she was attracted to him everything would be a ok.

She wasn't so she nitpicks and everything.

You're a fraud.

Before you even went on a date with this guy you were just lying to yourself about giving him a chance, because if you were really open to it, you would have done it long ago.

You sat there silent as he babbled away...rather than injecting something of interest that YOU wanted to explore. Like too many women you were just waiting for him to secretly know what was going to pique your interest? He's not a mindreader.
So what else was this goon going to do? Just suddenly open up a topic about US foreign policy, or what the implications are of the Ebola pandemic?

If you're going to sit at a table looking like a silent, pretty idiot, that's what someone is going to talk about...how pretty you are. Because you literally gave him nothing else to go on.

A date is where you peel back layers instead of admiring the outer layer. Those are your words. But dates are 50/50 and you didn't show any attempt to peel back the layers of his personality. As shytty a date as this was, you deserve equal blame for it.

Don't gloss over the fact that you admitted to being a stuck up c*nt. Because you were. And you know it. So don't try to pass it off on him like he was the reason you acted the way you did.

Was the guy lusting over you?
Probably.

If you're a pretty woman, that's what guys do. Welcome to reality.

Maybe you'll have better success dating people if you actually take charge of your own dating experience rather than waiting for Magical Mr. Right to ask all the right questions and tell all the right jokes.

This entire thread comes across as typical arrogant feminist douchebaggery, where women think that because they have a pretty face and are relatively smart that they don't have to put any effort into seeking what THEY themselves want.

 

[sosaa]

You're a fraud.

Before you even went on a date with this guy you were just lying to yourself about giving him a chance, because if you were really open to it, you would have done it long ago.

You sat there silent as he babbled away...rather than injecting something of interest that YOU wanted to explore. Like too many women you were just waiting for him to secretly know what was going to pique your interest? He's not a mindreader.
So what else was this goon going to do? Just suddenly open up a topic about US foreign policy, or what the implications are of the Ebola pandemic?

If you're going to sit at a table looking like a silent, pretty idiot, that's what someone is going to talk about...how pretty you are. Because you literally gave him nothing else to go on.

A date is where you peel back layers instead of admiring the outer layer. Those are your words. But dates are 50/50 and you didn't show any attempt to peel back the layers of his personality. As shytty a date as this was, you deserve equal blame for it.

Don't gloss over the fact that you admitted to being a stuck up c*nt. Because you were. And you know it. So don't try to pass it off on him like he was the reason you acted the way you did.

Was the guy lusting over you?
Probably.

If you're a pretty woman, that's what guys do. Welcome to reality.

Maybe you'll have better success dating people if you actually take charge of your own dating experience rather than waiting for Magical Mr. Right to ask all the right questions and tell all the right jokes.

This entire thread comes across as typical arrogant feminist douchebaggery, where women think that because they have a pretty face and are relatively smart that they don't have to put any effort into seeking what THEY themselves want.

 

[MikelArteta]

i date nice guys. i hate the ones who try to act like they're rico suave with women and i have to suffer through their awkward "girl you so fine..." lines.

also, and this is the biggest thing: i don't go for men. nice guys need to be more aggressive and go after the women they like. even after i get with nice guys they wait for me to make the moves in the relationship. no.

well date a aggressive thug who will make all the moves

 

[MikelArteta]

What she wants is a guy she is attracted to , whose also nice and whose attracted to her intellect ,


MEOW

 

[missyleebunny]

You men confuse 'nice' with 'awkward and unable to read social cues'.