Why don't girls go for 'nice' guys?

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Elle Driver said:
Change your attitude and be more open minded. I know it's tough for you seeing that you're bible belt. It'll do you a world of good.
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I didn't even bring up religion in this thread :skip:

What's wrong with my attitude? I don't think I've been particularly rude to anyone in this thread.

You're seeing what you want to see. :manny:
 
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Rusty Kuntz said:
He probably kept talking because you were being a mute weirdo. What did you expect him to do, stare at you in silence? Then you would be on here talking about how he kept staring at you like a lecher. A conversation requires at least 2 people; you sitting there and "observing" sounds like a bunch of bullshyt, especially since you admitted to liking to talk.

You weren't attracted to ol dude from jumpstreet, so I'm confused as to what your experiment was supposed to prove.
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lol @ mute weirdo. I am a little weird, I'll agree with you on that. The guy was cute, his looks weren't an issue for me. Just his enthusiasm towards me followed by lust, without actually knowing me is what I found distasteful.
 
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TheFemalePerspective said:
lol @ mute weirdo. I am a little weird, I'll agree with you on that. The guy was cute, his looks weren't an issue for me. Just his enthusiasm towards me followed by lust, without actually knowing me is what I found distasteful.
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You don't have to know someone to lust after them; lust is primarily a physical response to another person. I lusted after my husband before I got to know him, then I fell in love with him after getting to know him. Would you rather the guy not outwardly exhibit any type of emotion towards you? If he did, it's possible that you've just find something else to nitpick, as people tend to do with those that we don't really like.
 
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TheFemalePerspective said:
I hear this phrase all the time; however, before self-reflecting on the realm of possibilities which may explain this conundrum, I conducted my own little experiment. I went out with a so-called 'nice' guy. My family and friends kept telling me that I was extremely picky and here was a 'nice' guy that was interested in me but I was turning him down for no reason apparently. So against my better judgement, I decided to give this 'nice' guy a chance.

We went out for dinner and I listened to him talk exuberantly about his own interests. I could tell he was very much attracted to me. Taking every opportunity to put his body in close proximity with mine. And he would stare at me like a hungry mad man on death row, about to eat his last supper. I felt uncomfortable but decided to give him a chance. Although I usually enjoy talking, that evening I sat silently and remained in observation mode. He kept talking and talking, and talking. I looked at the time and it appeared to have been moving every millennia; boredom quickly began to seep in as I struggled to keep any interest of mine afloat.

You're probably reading this and thinking that I was being a stuck up [beep]. Perhaps you're right but hear me out before you make your judgement. You see, I get turned off by men who appear to like me even when I sit there like a mute -- with nothing to offer but my beauty. There's no intellectual discussion, he hasn't gotten to know me beyond my exterior layer. A date is where you peel back layers instead of admiring the outer layer. It's the sweet soft part that's all within us; the part anyone rarely gets to see, which should be the main course of discussion!

That's the problem, you see. Liking the exterior before you've even touched upon what's on the inside. A so-called 'nice' guy gets excited over the packaging and his enthusiasm is revolting. He'll tell you he loves you without even tasting you. He'll call you every day and declare his love before even knowing your ingredients. He'll like you albeit you've said very few words to him.

His love for you is an illusion. And the sad part is, he doesn't even know it.

For that reason, I don't go for the 'nice' guy per se. I go for the guy I find mentally stimulating, not the one who tells me I mean the world to him, when he doesn't even know what my inner world contains.

/End rant.
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What stopped you from taking control of the conversation? Let's be real you were offended because he didn't talk about shifting ya ovaries or how much weed he blows. Keep it real with yaself.
 
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TheFemalePerspective said:
One more thing darling: it's 'doesn't' not 'don't. Read up on subject and verb agreement, before insinuating that I have an unpleasant smell oozing from me.
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bytch I'm black, I don't care to write the white man's language perfect. You can't address the fact you're a judgemental a$$hole so you resort to pointing out grammatical errors like it even matters. This topic was about nice guys which is ironic considering I doubt you even know what a nice guy is since you're a judgemental Christian who projects your insecurities on to others because you're weak in your faith (and self confidence). :manny:
 
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Elle Driver said:
bytch I'm black, I don't care to write the white man's language perfect. You can't address the fact you're a judgemental a$$hole so you resort to pointing out grammatical errors like it even matters. This topic was about nice guys which is ironic considering I doubt you even know what a nice guy is since you're a judgemental Christian who projects your insecurities on to others because you're weak in your faith (and self confidence). :manny:
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All I ask is that if you wish to insult me, use proper English when doing so.

This time it was much better.
 
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BillCosbyAteMyHomework said:
If you even read your responses to previous things in this thread, you either reply with one word, or 'stop making assumptions'. I can't imagine that's easy to deal with in real life.

Social experiment :beli: You're just making excuses to be bytchy and feel holier than thou, as usual.
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she'll never get a nice guy like @Tree-0-Three
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