Why don't girls go for 'nice' guys?

[Roid Jones]

I am weary of any guy or girl that proclaims themselves as nice, their actions rarely match up

 

[Roid Jones]

I hear this phrase all the time; however, before self-reflecting on the realm of possibilities which may explain this conundrum, I conducted my own little experiment. I went out with a so-called 'nice' guy. My family and friends kept telling me that I was extremely picky and here was a 'nice' guy that was interested in me but I was turning him down for no reason apparently. So against my better judgement, I decided to give this 'nice' guy a chance.

We went out for dinner and I listened to him talk exuberantly about his own interests. I could tell he was very much attracted to me. Taking every opportunity to put his body in close proximity with mine. And he would stare at me like a hungry mad man on death row, about to eat his last supper. I felt uncomfortable but decided to give him a chance. Although I usually enjoy talking, that evening I sat silently and remained in observation mode. He kept talking and talking, and talking. I looked at the time and it appeared to have been moving every millennia; boredom quickly began to seep in as I struggled to keep any interest of mine afloat.

You're probably reading this and thinking that I was being a stuck up [beep]. Perhaps you're right but hear me out before you make your judgement. You see, I get turned off by men who appear to like me even when I sit there like a mute -- with nothing to offer but my beauty. There's no intellectual discussion, he hasn't gotten to know me beyond my exterior layer. A date is where you peel back layers instead of admiring the outer layer. It's the sweet soft part that's all within us; the part anyone rarely gets to see, which should be the main course of discussion!

That's the problem, you see. Liking the exterior before you've even touched upon what's on the inside. A so-called 'nice' guy gets excited over the packaging and his enthusiasm is revolting. He'll tell you he loves you without even tasting you. He'll call you every day and declare his love before even knowing your ingredients. He'll like you albeit you've said very few words to him.

His love for you is an illusion. And the sad part is, he doesn't even know it.

For that reason, I don't go for the 'nice' guy per se. I go for the guy I find mentally stimulating, not the one who tells me I mean the world to him, when he doesn't even know what my inner world contains.

/End rant.

When are you gonna let me take you out

 

[Roid Jones]

This forum is turning into bodybuilder forum by the second.

The shyt does resemble the Misc

 

[TheFemalePerspective]

Whatever helps you go to sleep at night regarding comma usage. As for semicolons, they are used between two independent clauses that are related .

I actually just watched an in-depth video on comma splices and I agree with you. I do make those errors sometimes/often. Thanks for pointing it out to me because I always assumed it was just a style of preference, but that video just made everything much clearer to me. I definitely overuse commas lol and that's something I need to work on in regards to my writing.

Cheers!

 

[TheFemalePerspective]

When are you gonna let me take you out

On judgement day.

 

[Roid Jones]

On Judgement Day.

Why gotta do me like that :cry wow:

 

[Arris]

OP from what you wrote it seems like you put 0 effort into the date

you had to be convinced to go out with him in the first place so your perception was already colored negatively. if you go into it with that mindset chances are your not gonna enjoy yourself.

then you've been saying don't assume anything about you but when people pointed out that you weren't into the date in the first place you said if you steered the conversation where you wanted it you assumed he would be fake about it

 

[StickStickly]

** walks in thread, see the same comments, topics over the last 2 years and walks out * *

Get used to it. People will be rehashing the same shyt over and over for years and centuries to come until humankind is wiped out by an asteroid or Godzilla. There's just not much else to talk about.

 

[♥AttackOnTitan♡]

It's the internet. I consider it fun and a learning experience, sis.

Mhmm

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

I am weary of any guy or girl that proclaims themselves as nice, their actions rarely match up

Yeah, i've always considered myself a clean cut, considerate and kind individual...


... but once those lights turn off --- i'm a beat them cakes like an angry robber at a hostess factory.



.

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

Naw, we can talk like dis if dats wot u understand ma. Check it. Ur rude. U have no manners, which is why I don't take u seriously. Coming in2 my thread like.. Yoooo OP stank. If you spoke to me properly, perhaps I'd take your criticism on board? Till then I wish you the very best on those hard streets.

This bytch

Have you ever wondered why people say the same things over and over to you in all of your threads? You always end up getting negged, then pulling out your grammar and deflection bullshyt. You don't know how to take criticism. You think you're better than people, and it comes straight through these screens since you're so into 'it's just the internet'.

 

[Taadow]

Different strokes for different folks

You ain't gonna get stroked from any folks if you are wack on dates, my wack dove.

Work it out, like barbells.

 

[leet hal]

I'm a nice guy and I get plenty of women. I'm just not predictable, stale, or soft.

This here

 

[HoloGraphic]

Being assertive and kind > being 'nice'. Being nice usually means missing ass and trying to please. Women want a man to stick to his guns instead of worrying about pleasing her.

 

[NobodyReally]

On another side 1 in 4 women are sexually assaulted at one point in their life.

90 percent of victims know the perp



1 in 3 will be in a abusive relationship


So yeah when you get thay aggressive negro that gives you tingles and drama

There are many aggressive types masquerading as nice guys. Someone being nice to you is never an indication of their potential to be an abuser. That's usually how abusers reel women in.