Why don't girls go for 'nice' guys?

[Wild self]

Being assertive and kind > being 'nice'. Being nice usually means missing ass and trying to please. Women want a man to stick to his guns instead of worrying about pleasing her.

Its human nature for women to be attracted to men that think and act for themselves in a confident way, like protection purposes.

 

[Wild self]

Because often "nice guys" are really the subject in the song No Scrubs.

So you go after the swagged out nikkas that hit it and quit after one date?

 

[HoloGraphic]

Its human nature for women to be attracted to men that think and act for themselves in a confident way, like protection purposes.

Exactly that. As soon as you start trying to impress or win her over in a way that puts her above you, just walk away. All she sees is weakness and neediness. You can be "kind" but not "nice".

 

[Wild self]

fukked up but true breh

The best you can do is fukk big broads and lie and fukk single moms til your paper is up AND you have some equity (equity is not a car) and then you can run through 2-3 bad broads a week.

But honestly by the time you get there, if you're really working on yourself and your own goals, you won't even want to do that to the bad broads because it would be petty by then.

Nah, all you have to do is hang out with bad hoes and make them laugh in social settings. That will attract the other ones and its a snowball effect from there. Just don't say shyt about your material possessions and you good.

 

[Wild self]

Exactly that. As soon as you start trying to impress or win her over in a way that puts her above you, just walk away. All she sees is weakness and neediness. You can be "kind" but not "nice".

Problem is, too many people are stuck in school mode and become imbalanced, underdeveloped personalities. That is how nerds are made.

 

[The Jewnited States]

god bless the man who marries this hard headed ho

 

[Wild self]

Nice guys dont display enough finesse, theres a fine line between kissing my ass and finessing it in my opinion. Ive been out with a nice guy it was great if only he wasn't so nice in the bed. Smack my ass goddamit! Oh wait, the moment has passed.

So you want a thug to fukk you raw and pull your hair?

 

[winb83]

I thought the reasoning was simple people want the things they don't and can't have and they want what everyone else wants.

 

[DonFrancisco]

I hear this phrase all the time; however, before self-reflecting on the realm of possibilities which may explain this conundrum, I conducted my own little experiment. I went out with a so-called 'nice' guy. My family and friends kept telling me that I was extremely picky and here was a 'nice' guy that was interested in me but I was turning him down for no reason apparently. So against my better judgement, I decided to give this 'nice' guy a chance.

We went out for dinner and I listened to him talk exuberantly about his own interests. I could tell he was very much attracted to me. Taking every opportunity to put his body in close proximity with mine. And he would stare at me like a hungry mad man on death row, about to eat his last supper. I felt uncomfortable but decided to give him a chance. Although I usually enjoy talking, that evening I sat silently and remained in observation mode. He kept talking and talking, and talking. I looked at the time and it appeared to have been moving every millennia; boredom quickly began to seep in as I struggled to keep any interest of mine afloat.

You're probably reading this and thinking that I was being a stuck up [beep]. Perhaps you're right but hear me out before you make your judgement. You see, I get turned off by men who appear to like me even when I sit there like a mute -- with nothing to offer but my beauty. There's no intellectual discussion, he hasn't gotten to know me beyond my exterior layer. A date is where you peel back layers instead of admiring the outer layer. It's the sweet soft part that's all within us; the part anyone rarely gets to see, which should be the main course of discussion!

That's the problem, you see. Liking the exterior before you've even touched upon what's on the inside. A so-called 'nice' guy gets excited over the packaging and his enthusiasm is revolting. He'll tell you he loves you without even tasting you. He'll call you every day and declare his love before even knowing your ingredients. He'll like you albeit you've said very few words to him.

His love for you is an illusion. And the sad part is, he doesn't even know it.

For that reason, I don't go for the 'nice' guy per se. I go for the guy I find mentally stimulating, not the one who tells me I mean the world to him, when he doesn't even know what my inner world contains.

/End rant.

Rule number 1 in making a judgement: your sample size must go beyond 1

 

[NobodyReally]

Rule number 1 in making a judgement: your sample size must go beyond 1

Now go copy that in every thread please.

 

[Based Lord Zedd]

There's no such thing as a nice guy. At the end of the day no matter how passively or aggressively we come at you we're trying to smash at some point.

Problem is dudes who are passive/lack confidence/don't take initiative/scared of risk/etc. try to write this off as them just being a "nice guy." It's just p*ssy dudes playing the victim. Of course no girl is going to go after the guy who so scared of rejection he coming at her super soft.

 

[The Electric Lady]

So you go after the swagged out nikkas that hit it and quit after one date?

No. If you bothered to listen to No Scrubs lyrics, a scrub is a fukking loser. Most self-acclaimed "nice guys" are just that, losers. THey have an overly inflated view of themselves, and really aren't actually nice. Most of them seem to think they're OWED a woman, girlfriend, or sex because they're nice to girls. a lot of people are nice. That doesn't mean we should fukk or date. What do nice guys have going for them besides being "nice"? They're fukking losers. That doesn't mean I want to date a gangsta playboy either. Just a regular dude who doesn't act like the world owes him something. He doesn't even need to be swagged out. He can be poor, so long as he has aspirations and goals for the future rather than just coasting by life like a sad little fukk ass buster.

 

[Couth]

I'll tell you exactly what females want right now. A dude to lead them You can be nice to a girl, as long as she understand that you're in the drivers seat and she is a follower.

Girls don't like cliche "nice guys" because they give away all the power in the relationship.

Op you're just ignorant. You go on a date with this dude, refuse to try and communicate, then get mad cuz he was still interested in you? That female logic.

Oh and btw the only reason you found his attraction to you uncomfortable was because you weren't attracted to him. If you were attracted to him you probably woulda wet yourself. When a girl wants the D you literally can't do anything wrong. Females are pretty simple.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Nice guys dont display enough finesse, theres a fine line between kissing my ass and finessing it in my opinion. Ive been out with a nice guy it was great if only he wasn't so nice in the bed. Smack my ass goddamit! Oh wait, the moment has passed.

Dudes still tryna make love in the 2014?

 

[OCCAMS_RAZOR]

it's really not that serious for me. i suppose that i am a 'nice guy', but that's just my personality, and it's not like i do it to brown-nose so that i can get pu$$y, i'm just like that with everyone, my bros, my professors, everyone. if you really want to be happy imo, you have to stop letting pu$$y control you. there's better things you could be worrying about in life, like literally. it is ridiculous how 97% of the threads on this subforum are all of the same topic, it's rare that y'all will partake in a philosophical discussion.