Why don't girls go for 'nice' guys?

[The Electric Lady]

Nah, you just revealed your past with dealing men that are a$$holes simply cause they confident. You really don't like the confident, straghtforward nerd like that.

I said I've never dated a$$hole men. You are assuming I am speaking of myself. Earlier in the thread you thought I was talking about you. I wasn't. Learn to read and how to parse the English language. How old are you? Serious question.

I am only giving reasons as to why many women turn down nice guys and that many nice guys really aren't all that nice and have little to offer. Not that I myself have dated a$$holes. Stop putting words into my mouth. I am merely giving a certain perspective that you want, not giving my own experiences. You can stop making judgements about me immediately.

Nah I'm chillin lol

Every chick I know who liked thugs ended up fukked and dumped and even single mothers so I actually feel sorry for chicks who like thugs.

I agree in full. But some of y'all are taking this personal, as if I'm attacking you rather than me calmly explaining why women do these things. You all have decided to wave what I've said away and focus on the "women are illogical" narrative because for some reason, to some of y'all, a girl talking about lames online means she's talking about you personally. Pretty sad stuff.

 

[StickStickly]

But they label themselves as nice guys and they are the main subject of the thread. I'm using quotation marks for a damn reason. More than that, as I said before, most men who identify as "nice guys" are bustas. Being nice is the bare minimum of social decorum. How that make anyone special? Can you play guitar? Do you speak multiple languages? Trying to improve yourself? Can you make art? Is there anything interesting about you beyond the nice-ness? That's why a lot of girls fukk with so-called bad boys. Because they're interesting. I don't see you dating the quiet nerdy girl in the library, do you? Why do you think that is? Now use that comparison in relation to why women go for men with more colorful personalities.

I think you made a good point here. Men tend to lump all kinds of types into the umbrella term of "bad boy ". Depending on where you are and who you're around, a bad boy could be a nerdy but cocky guy, a thug, or a jock/meathead. There's just too many types of bad boy and I think everyone is getting stuck on the thug type. Either way guys usually judge other guys on how they act with men. They think the jock is an a$$hole because he has to flex in front of every one, but when he's with a girl he's probably very sweet or doing something to keep her around. I had a friend who dated a cocky nerd. If you went to one group of people they'd tell you he was too cocky and rude and she needed someone nice. If you went to another group he was a big dork and too nice. One mans jerk is another mans nice guy I guess.

 

[The Electric Lady]

To be honest, I didn't read past the 1st sentence cause guys who say that are losers and suckers.

Girls do like nice guys. They just don't want an insecure loser.

Nailed it. Watch some insecure busta disagree.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

if i get rejected i'm going to feel ugly. he's a man. feeling ugly isn't as bad when you have a penis. i might try to ask out a few and see how it goes

 

[The Electric Lady]

I think you made a good point here. Men tend to lump all kinds of types into the umbrella term of "bad boy ". Depending on where you are and who you're around, a bad boy could be a nerdy but cocky guy, a thug, or a jock/meathead. There's just too many types of bad boy and I think everyone is getting stuck on the thug type. Either way guys usually judge other guys on how they act with men. They think the jock is an a$$hole because he has to flex in front of every one, but when he's with a girl he's probably very sweet or doing something to keep her around. I had a friend who dated a cocky nerd. If you went to one group of people they'd tell you he was too cocky and rude and she needed someone nice. If you went to another group he was a big dork and too nice. One mans jerk is another mans nice guy I guess.

Indeed. A lot of men get jealous and pidgeon hole other guys into these neat little categories when they don't know shyt. That said, sometimes they're right. But I find it funny how guys who are anything but the type of guy to kiss a girls butt is labeled as a "bad boy". shyt is infantile and hilarious in its ignorance. So many men want to blame other men for the fact they're not getting with any women, instead of concentrating on working on themselves. As @Roberto Dinero said, they come off as insecure, and women can smell insecurity a mile away.

 

[Blackout]

I agree in full. But some of y'all are taking this personal, as if I'm attacking you rather than me calmly explaining why women do these things. You all have decided to wave what I've said away and focus on the "women are illogical" narrative because for some reason, to some of y'all, a girl talking about lames online means she's talking about you personally. Pretty sad stuff.

Well in our discussion you did talk as if you were referencing me personally.

I would advise you to re-read our convo and see how you turned it into personal accusations against me.

This post especially

But they label themselves as nice guys and they are the main subject of the thread. I'm using quotation marks for a damn reason. More than that, as I said before, most men who identify as "nice guys" are bustas. Being nice is the bare minimum of social decorum. How that make anyone special? Can you play guitar? Do you speak multiple languages? Trying to improve yourself? Can you make art? Is there anything interesting about you beyond the nice-ness? That's why a lot of girls fukk with so-called bad boys. Because they're interesting. I don't see you dating the quiet nerdy girl in the library, do you? Why do you think that is? Now use that comparison in relation to why women go for men with more colorful personalities.

 

[StickStickly]

Indeed. A lot of men get jealous and pidgeon hole other guys into these neat little categories when they don't know shyt. That said, sometimes they're right. But I find it funny how guys who are anything but the type of guy to kiss a girls butt is labeled as a "bad boy". shyt is infantile and hilarious in its ignorance. So many men want to blame other men for the fact they're not getting with any women, instead if concentrating on working on themselves. As @Roberto Dinero said, they come off as insecure, and women can smell insecurity a mile away.

Yeah to me it's like they try to claim that victim status because the hot girl won't date them. It's the victim thing that gets on my nerves the most. Everybody wants to be a victim. Then when you say women like nice but confident men, they get upset. Lack of confidence isn't an attractive trait for anyone. Are these guys going after the insecure women? Probably not because it's not sexy and is very exhausting.

 

[The Electric Lady]

Well in our discussion you did talk as if you were referencing me personally.

I would advise you to re-read our convo and see how you turned it into personal accusations against me.

This post especially

It wasn't a literal you. Sorry for the confusion.

 

[Blackout]

It wasn't a literal you. Sorry for the confusion.

Oh ok then it's all good miss

 

[The Electric Lady]

Yeah to me it's like they try to claim that victim status because the hot girl won't date them. It's the victim thing that gets on my nerves the most. Everybody wants to be a victim. Then when you say women like nice but confident men, they get upset. Lack of confidence isn't an attractive trait for anyone. Are these guys going after the insecure women? Probably not because it's not sexy and is very exhausting.

I actually know plenty of guys who have dates insecure women. p*ssy drives some dudes crazy.

 

[Caca-faat]

When the time is right.

So you want a thug to fukk you raw and pull your hair?

 

[The Electric Lady]

When the time is right.

Girl, better he not slap it than do that wimpy ass tap some guys do. If you slap my butt and don't leave a mark on my ass you

Butt slaps

 

[Blackout]

I think you made a good point here. Men tend to lump all kinds of types into the umbrella term of "bad boy ". Depending on where you are and who you're around, a bad boy could be a nerdy but cocky guy, a thug, or a jock/meathead. There's just too many types of bad boy and I think everyone is getting stuck on the thug type. Either way guys usually judge other guys on how they act with men. They think the jock is an a$$hole because he has to flex in front of every one, but when he's with a girl he's probably very sweet or doing something to keep her around. I had a friend who dated a cocky nerd. If you went to one group of people they'd tell you he was too cocky and rude and she needed someone nice. If you went to another group he was a big dork and too nice. One mans jerk is another mans nice guy I guess.

I'm a cocky nerd

 

[StickStickly]

I'm a cocky nerd

 

[Blackout]

Girl, better he not slap it than do that wimpy ass tap some guys do. If you slap my butt and don't leave a mark on my ass you

Butt slaps

What about cumming in your face?