"Why I Do Not Want to Split Rent or Mortgage With My Man"

[Carlton Banks]

Set yourself back?


How old are you? 18?




I’m 30. My friends are my age too.

My husband is 42.

He’s not just providing me with security. I’m proving him with it too. And helping him continue his legacy. (His child/family)

You basically just said nothing.

Yes, it is setting yourself back. Having more money for yourself > having less money for yourself. This is logic, but I shouldn't have expected that from a woman.

"Helping him continue his legacy"

bytch please he can get another bytch pregnant tomorrow who's not asking him for shyt. You not special just cuz of that.

You saying you providing him with security, how? It clearly ain't financial if he's paying everything. You just can't accept that you're basically just along for the ride and not adding any benefits to him besides "carrying his legacy" and giving him p*ssy, which he could do with anybody with less the financial demand

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

@A Woman's Opinion

You really going to ignore my question?


You answered every question but mine.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

My boss told me Black girls are the same everywhere..expect you to do things for them. From the US, to Africa to the West Indies, same same same.

They are not the same. They will be more traditional than American woman. They will also be very loyal if you treat them right as they take family perception very seriously. American women only claim to be traditional when it comes to paying bills.

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

I work with white men, Im the only black in my company, some white men here have wives who earn more than them.

This is another black men aint shyt topic but some races women do earn more

Their wives “earn more” money than them, but those men are still completely capable of taking care of their family. Right?



Do their wives love their careers?

Are they financially stressed out?

Their women make more money, but who pays the bills with theirs?

If the wife stopped working tomorrow, will they be okay, or will the husband let them drown?

Anyways..

All these things matter, and is the basis of this thread & my point!


The wives mmake more money, but can their husbands take care of them?
Will they take care of them? Because...

#WomenDontRespectMenWhoCantTakeCareOfThem








Now. I didn’t want to go here, but since y’all want to make it a race thing. Let’s do it.


I worked with a few black girls who are with white & Latino men, who make equal or less money than them.

But Believe me... somehow their fincial experiences in their relationship are completely different than my friends with black AMERICAN men.

They always had money to go out for drinks after work. They never cried broke broke. Never heard them stressing about the rent. I heard complaints about it being high, but never in the verge of being evicted, and literally having to put their thinking caps on and stress about how rent will be paid.

Never seen this with them. Even Me with a West Indian man. Born in panama. Raised in American by West Indian parents. With strong West Indian customs.

The difference?

Those men SEE themselves differently.
Even when their woman makes more money.

They SEE themselves as providers. They see it as their duty. They see it as a part of life. They don’t try to finagle they way out of it, or look for a woman to “hold it down”. It just is what it is.

Now, black AMERICAN men...




The women I’m talking about are hard working women who are struggling, and their man cannot and will not do a thing to make it better. And most importantly. They don’t see it as their responsibility to provide! And there lies the REAL problem.

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

@A Woman's Opinion

You really going to ignore my question?


You answered every question but mine.

What question. I didn’t see it.

 

[Daio]

I'm sure somebody will provide anything she needs


I'm not

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

What question. I didn’t see it.

So you’re being a true house wife correct? The whole works right? Taking care of yours and his kids ( with the ex), cooking, cleaning, sex whenever, staying in shape, managing the money with no complaints correct?

If so kudos to you. But the female writer wasn’t giving off being a homemaker. That was the main problem with her.

But if you’re being the trophy wife
Good job.

 

[Bigblackted4]

IM all for domestic wives but you must be a domestic wife. Cook, clean, all house work, very submissive, basically be my assistant and lover my support and backbone. I can see it but I also need to be making over 110,000 in Cleveland or 150,000 in DC.

 

[BoBurnz]

The second she mentioned zodiac ​

The minute I ever hear that shyt my eyes glaze the fukk over and I imagine I'm anywhere but there if I ain't tryna smash

 

[Carlton Banks]

Their wives “earn more” money than them, but those men are still completely capable of taking care of their family. Right?



Do their wives love their careers?

Are they financially stressed out?

Their women make more money, but who pays the bills with theirs?

If the wife stopped working tomorrow, will they be okay, or will the husband let them drown?

Anyways..

All these things matter, and is the basis of this thread & my point!
They make more money, but can their husbands take care of them? Will they? Because...
#WomenDontRespectMenWhoCantTakeCareOfThem








Now. I didn’t want to go here, but since y’all want to make it a race thing. Let’s do it.


I worked with a few black girls who are with white & Latino men, who make equal or less money than them.

But Believe me... somehow their fincial experiences in their relationship are completely different than my friends with black AMERICAN men.

They always had money to go out for drinks after work. They never cried broke broke. Never heard them stressing about the rent. I heard complaints about it being high, but never in the verge of being evicted, and literally having to put their thinking caps on and stress about how rent will be paid.

Never seen this with them. Even Me with a West Indian man. Born in panama. Raised in American by West Indian parents. With strong West Indian customs.

The difference?

Those men SEE themselves differently.
Even when their woman makes more money.

They SEE themselves as providers. They see it as their duty. They see it as a part of life. They don’t try to finagle they way out of it, or look for a woman to “hold it down”. It just is what it is.

Now, black AMERICAN men...




The women I’m talking about are hard working women who are struggling, and their man cannot and will not do a thing to make it better. And most importantly. They don’t see it as their responsibility to provide! And there lies the REAL problem.

Still ducking and dodging the question of what a man benefits from being in a relationship with a woman asking him to pay for everything. Yet putting other men on a pedestal cuz they do it. Maybe black American men are the ones who got it right? All these white/Latino "providers" are gonna be so sick when they get divorced and put on child support when the relationship ends. You think it's a man's duty to provide for a spoiled bytch that has just as much opportunity and ability to provide for herself? bytches can make more money than most men just by posing naked on sites like camsoda... The fukk she need someone to provide for her so much? So she can keep her own money and spend it on herself? Y'all bytches so delusional man, I'm done. Good luck tho

 

[AAKing23]

Still ducking and dodging the question of what a man benefits from being in a relationship with a woman asking him to pay for everything. Yet putting other men on a pedestal cuz they do it. Maybe black American men are the ones who got it right? All these white/Latino "providers" are gonna be so sick when they get divorced and put on child support when the relationship ends. You think it's a man's duty to provide for a spoiled bytch that has just as much opportunity and ability to provide for herself? bytches can make more money than most men just by posing naked on sites like camsoda... The fukk she need someone to provide for her so much? So she can keep her own money and spend it on herself? Y'all bytches so delusional man, I'm done. Good luck tho

Breh If these are the majority of the women we'll have to choose from, then I don't see marriage in my future... Might be single for the rest of my life

 

[TheBlackSun]

No.

“most women” simply believe if they are doing the exact same job. They should be paid the exact same money.

“Most women” believe there gender shouldn’t stop them from getting an opportunity, or stifle their freedoms emotionally or sexually.

They aren’t against nurturing. They aren’t even against submission. If that’s what they want. They are against it if it’s what they don’t want. And that should be their choice, right?

And women should have those things. ALL human beings should have those things, but many women also do not want the responsibility or the consequences of what comes with those things. Such as the subject of the military draft. Women/feminist will pull over the cover of weakness, and be submissive when it suits them. The family court, and alimony is one such prime example of this. Another prime example of this is when it comes to women getting less time than men for committing the same type of crimes. As men, and also due to both our's and societal conditioning) have to be held accountable for our actions. Women don't, or rather don't want to face the consequences of those actions.

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

Still ducking and dodging the question of what a man benefits from being in a relationship with a woman asking him to pay for everything. Yet putting other men on a pedestal cuz they do it. Maybe black American men are the ones who got it right? All these white/Latino "providers" are gonna be so sick when they get divorced and put on child support when the relationship ends. You think it's a man's duty to provide for a spoiled bytch that has just as much opportunity and ability to provide for herself? bytches can make more money than most men just by posing naked on sites like camsoda... The fukk she need someone to provide for her so much? So she can keep her own money and spend it on herself? Y'all bytches so delusional man, I'm done. Good luck tho

I answered the question very clearly.

It’s your mentality and immaturity causing you not to see the clear answer.


The man gains Security, a family and a continuance of his legacy!
You know, his life’s purpose.

Men are always going to have to work.

men are always going to have to be providers & protectors.

Men always have the financial responsibilities of their families.
Rather it be their parents (mom) as they age, or the family they start.


Just like women have to give birth and nurture babies.
What if all women said... “why i gotta have a baby”? What’s in it for me?





Again, men of OTHER races, and black men from OTHER parts of the diaspora completely understand this.

It’s black American men who thinks their life is supposed to be like a rap video!

Void of responsibilities or burdens to anyone but himself and his own ego! The shirts embarrassing!


And once again... The reason OTHER men don’t want y’all no where NEAR their white, Asian and African daughters! They don’t want them to have to live life hard with unstable, entitled men.

 

[O.G.B]

Women need men to provide them with security

"Security" in a serious relationship or marriage can be defined in many aspects.

Women need men to provide them with security. Period. If a woman has to work two jobs, or even one job she hates to split the rent with her “man”, that woman will not respect him. Period. And she’s not happy!

TRANSLATION: I'm an entitled leech & expect men to pay the majority or all of my bills along with any extra incidentals I may require/can't afford while I take my own personal earnings & selfishly spend them on my specific needs & wants.

Women do not respect men who cannot take care of them! And it’s not just black Women either! Women. Period!

And real Men also don't "respect" self-centered, delusional women who claim they want social & gender equality but are unwilling or incapable of pulling their weight financially
(if necessary or needed) within a meaningful relationship/marriage & solely depend on men as a meal ticket.

Furthermore, there may be some cases in which the man who once was the solitary provider within the relationship or marriage has lost his job due to company downsizing, loss/decline of financial investments or a slump in business that couldn't be anticipated.

So what good is having a incompetent, self centered woman that has little to no financial accountability or acumen to help support her man/family during possible hardship if necessary?

Usually, women do at least 70% of the House work and child care

... so if she’s working a full time job, and splitting the bills. Who’s doing more?

at this narcissistic, narrow minded point of view. If both parties (man & woman) are earnest & truly committed to making each other happy, then a true partnership definitely shouldn't be validated based on calculating who does the most in a dedicated relationship/marriage.

I see the envy from my friends. It doesn’t upset me, because I feel sorry for them. Telling me how much they hate their baby fathers, live in boyfriends & husbands. How they are disgusted with them, and don’t want to have sex with them. And it’s because of The lack of security. All they do is cry about how marrying/committing to that man is the biggest mistake they made, now they can’t leave cause it will hurt their kids. THEY ARE ALL CHEATING!


I blame my friends for not telling their men the truth & expecting them to read their minds. but never the less.. men should know.

I hate to inform you, but women ALSO cheat regularly in healthy relationships or marriages even when the man is the main or sole breadwinner & a good provider.

They are always Wishing they had a husband SIMP like mines

Fixed!

And if your asking you WIFE for her half of the rent...

Why should the wife receive the benefits of having 50% ownership stake of the home while the husband is obligated to pay 100% of the mortgage?







At this rationale!

 

[AAKing23]

I mad it to "I'm a Capricorn" and threw the rest of the article in the bushes.

I stopped when she said "I don't want the stress"