"Why I Do Not Want to Split Rent or Mortgage With My Man"

[AAKing23]

I answered the question very clearly.

It’s your mentality and immaturity causing you not to see the clear answer.


The man gains Security, a family and a continuance of his legacy!
You know, his life’s purpose.

Men are always going to have to work.

men are always going to have to be providers & protectors.

Men always have the financial responsibilities of their families.
Rather it be their parents (mom) as they age, or the family they start.


Just like women have to give birth and nurture babies.
What if all women said... “why i gotta have a baby”? What’s in it for me?





Again, men of OTHER races, and black men from OTHER parts of the diaspora completely understand this.

It’s black American men who thinks their life is supposed to be like a rap video!

Void of responsibilities or burdens to anyone but himself and his own ego! The shirts embarrassing!


And once again... The reason OTHER men don’t want y’all no where NEAR their white, Asian and African daughters! They don’t want them to have to live life hard with unstable, entitled men.

I'm sorry but you are such a horrible poster

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

Breh If these are the majority of the women we'll have to choose from, then I don't see marriage in my future... Might be single for the rest of my life

We’re talking about families, and providing for a wife.

And this clown is bringing up women who pose nude on websites, and how much money they make doing it, as a reason for why a man shouldn’t see himself as a provider, and want to provide Shelter for his family?

You see how twisted some of y’alls world is? I’m done!

Sistas. Run. Run away.

As far away from black AMERICAN men as you can.

They want you to bring home the bacon, and cook it too!

 

[TheBlackSun]

Women don’t give a shyt about what white Women have, or are doing

Which is why ya'll wear blonde weaves, and go to even grave lengths to put straight hair in your heads? Which is why black women are always comparing themselves to white women... Yeah

Black women don't care what white women have until they have a black man on their arms.

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

I'm sorry but you are such a horrible poster

Thank you. That means I’m bruising ego, and helping with the delusions round here.

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

Which is why ya'll wear blonde weaves, and go to even grave lengths to put straight hair in your heads?

Assimilation.

If you think black women want to be white women, and you (and other hateful black men) can’t see that black women are just trying to be what they are told is desirable and correct, because most of a woman’s worth is based on her appearance.... then you don’t understand black women at all. Nor do you empathize with their plight.


Natural haired black Women are hired less in offices, and are treated differently in the work place.

They are even treated differently, and approached less by black men(Fact)

Our natural hair is also seen as unprofessional.

I actually heard a black man say... “just because your hair grows that way, doesn’t mean you should wear it that way...” -a black man that hates weave

So y’all like pure natural hair, so long as it’s long and straight with silky edges? Even though our hair (and your hair. Which y’all also don’t wear. You cut it all off.) doesn’t grow that way?

Oh. Okay...

But you can’t understand why black Women wear weave, and change their hair color?

It’s okay tho...Lets make a deal. We can all go natural.(black Women)


But can black American men hire us for a job at a company they own free of work place discrimination?

Can they provide us with a safe environment to avoid that kind of discrimination?

Of course not.


Black American men don’t own or run anything. (But their mouths about what black women need to do)

nikkas Can’t protect or provide black women in any kind of way. But you expect us to care about what you think about our hair?


nikka. Go find some white bishes to play with.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

Noticed my question was never answered . It’s cool and all because I had some suspicions.

But still.

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

Noticed my question was never answered . It’s cool and all because I had some suspicions.

But still.

What question? You question was answered! What question?

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

What question? You question was answered! What question?

Okay this will be the last time I ask.

Do YOU ( not your friends or family) YOU SPECIFICALLY do everything that is required as a home maker?

Do you

1) Take care of yours and his kid ( he has with his ex)?

2) Cook every night ( because he’s working everyday) and make his breakfast and lunch?

3) Stay in Shape for him ( remember appearance matters for a man)?

4) Give him sex when he desires ( even if you’re not in the mood occasionally)?

5) Makes sure he comes to a clean home ( dishes, house, bath tub, etc) every night?


Without complaint?

Because your man has to work, provide security, and financial stability.

Because you highlight negativity about American black men , but ignore the fact Africans are known for cheating on their spouses. From Kenya in the East, To Egypt up north , to Ghana in the west and Zimbabwe in the south.

And the West Indies are known for domestic abuse.

It seems you’re romanticizing some parts and ignoring the negatives. But I just want to ask some questions.

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

You basically just said nothing.

Yes, it is setting yourself back. Having more money for yourself > having less money for yourself. This is logic, but I shouldn't have expected that from a woman.

"Helping him continue his legacy"

bytch please he can get another bytch pregnant tomorrow who's not asking him for shyt. You not special just cuz of that.

You saying you providing him with security, how? It clearly ain't financial if he's paying everything. You just can't accept that you're basically just along for the ride and not adding any benefits to him besides "carrying his legacy" and giving him p*ssy, which he could do with anybody with less the financial demand

The mentality of a 20 something year old black AMERICAN man.

The only person saying a bunch of nothing here is You!

Immature, and NOTHING.

If you can’t understand that there is security on a deeper level with a strong family, and in a relationship with a woman who loves you, and RESPECTS you...

You are a moron! And extremely immature. Keep living.

Go knock up a bytch just to have a kid.

So you can be on YouTube crying about child support, and the system holding black men back.

In the future, other niccas playing football with your son and all....

All because you can’t fathom the idea of doing anything, for anyone, but yourself.

All because providing shelter for your family, and paying a bill is beneath you.

I mean, like you said... You could be spending all that money on yourself, and paying for p*ssy.


Most men grow up dreaming of being a 40-50 year old family less man. In the club with Jordan’s on and braids with grey hair.


It’s the black AMERICAN man dream.

Don’t dare bring up 50cent and Diddy, because they are known for taking care of ALL of their women.

 

[joeychizzle]

Moment I saw Capricorn
There are plenty of level headed women out there who are willing to split the bills. This hoe probably gonna make her man pay all the bills then wonder why he can't shower her entitled azz with gifts and vacays.

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

Okay this will be the last time I ask.

Do YOU ( not your friends or family) YOU SPECIFICALLY do everything that is required as a home maker?

Do you

1) Take care of yours and his kid ( he has with his ex)?

2) Cook every night ( because he’s working everyday) and make his breakfast and lunch?

3) Stay in Shape for him ( remember appearance matters for a man)?

4) Give him sex when he desires ( even if you’re not in the mood occasionally)?

5) Makes sure he comes to a clean home ( dishes, house, bath tub, etc) every night?


Without complaint?

Because your man has to work, provide security, and financial stability.

Because you highlight negativity about American black men , but ignore the fact Africans are known for cheating on their spouses. From Kenya in the East, To Egypt up north , to Ghana in the west and Zimbabwe in the south.

And the West Indies are known for domestic abuse.

It seems you’re romanticizing some parts and ignoring the negatives. But I just want to ask some questions.

I’m very good to my husband. That’s why he married ME and not the others.

Also, he was dead set on never marrying an American woman, because of stereotypes. Even though he himself admits he’s met/had plenty of good ones, but sabotaged it. Cause he didn’t want to marry an American.

I changed his life! And he changed mines.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

I’m very good to my husband. That’s why he married ME and not the others.

Also, he was dead set on never marrying an American woman, because of stereotypes. Even though he himself admits he’s met/had plenty of good ones, but sabotaged it. Cause he didn’t want to marry an American.

I changed his life! And he changed mines.

Okay that’s nice you’re good to your husband BUT do you do everything on the list? Because I hear women who promote traditional values but when you lay them out ( like I did) asterisks starts to get place hear and there.

And the second part is irrelevant.

 

[SchrodingersStrapped!]

Dipped after the astrology shyt, like most sensible brehs

Cant take these dysfunctional bytches seriously

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

"Security" in a serious relationship or marriage can be defined in many aspects.





TRANSLATION: I'm an entitled leech & expect men to pay the majority or all of my bills along with any extra incidentals I may require/can't afford while I take my own personal earnings & selfishly spend them on my specific needs & wants.






And real Men also don't "respect" self-centered, delusional women who claim they want social & gender equality but are unwilling or incapable of pulling their weight financially
(if necessary or needed) within a meaningful relationship/marriage & solely depend on men as a meal ticket.

Furthermore, there may be some cases in which the man who once was the solitary provider within the relationship or marriage has lost his job due to company downsizing, loss/decline of financial investments or a slump in business that couldn't be anticipated.

So what good is having a incompetent, self centered woman that has little to no financial accountability or acumen to help support her man/family during possible hardship if necessary?










at this narcissistic, narrow minded point of view. If both parties (man & woman) are earnest & truly committed to making each other happy, then a true partnership definitely shouldn't be validated based on calculating who does the most in a dedicated relationship/marriage.









I hate to inform you, but women ALSO cheat regularly in healthy relationships or marriages even when the man is the main or sole breadwinner & a good provider.





Fixed!





Why should the wife receive the benefits of having 50% ownership stake of the home while the husband is obligated to pay 100% of the mortgage?







At this rationale!

Like I always say black Women.

Mention any standard you have, and watch black men spaz out like rabid animals. I don’t know what it is, but black men can’t stand black Women with standards. It’s like they take it as a personal attack.



Mention bills or responsibilities, and watch black men get defensive and uncomfortable as hell.

And this is something exclusive to black American men. I’ve never seen men of other races, on other forums do this COLLECTIVELY.
A few bitter nut balls here and there, but as a collective... no. And the few who do are quickly called out.

Why? they see themselves as providers.

Even if they can’t provide. They don’t try to deny the role, or Try to “gas light” women into believing they are crazy for expecting them to work and provide.


These are behaviors exclusive to black American men

 

[Turbulent]

Why are people so deadset on making other people subscribe to their relationship style? I think people end up finding their match until they don't match anymore. Gold diggers will find simps. Battered wives will find wife beaters. Bottom bytches will find pimps. It's just the way it goes.