She's a perfect example of how the right thing can come out the wrong mouth.
She's like the dudes always harpin on and on about submission. Basically if u worthy of it, you'll get it. She ain't gettin it so that's a problem with HER, not necessarily the community.
I'm traditional too. No amount of hating and shaming is gonna change that. I don't split bills with men. When I lived with my ex, I put in about $200 towards rent and bought groceries. He paid rent/cable and internet and utilities.
Why? Because as a female, (and this is fact) if I'm worth a damn, it's axiomatic that I am going work harder in that relationship than the male is. That's traditionally WHY men wanted to be be married. A helpmate is exactly that---a helpmate. Nobody is going to keep house like me. No male is dusting, making sure our floors aren't sticky, changing the sheets, sweeping, mopping, folding laundry, washing the skid marks out ur drawers like me. Ur not washing the ring around that tub out or scrubbing the soap scum off tiles like men Likewise, a guy might fix a meal every now and again, but u aren't cooking consistently, preparing meals AND cleaning up afterwards. You aren't managing the bills, mail, and I didn't even mention if u have children or elderly.
A woman's work is literally never done. So him taking care of fhe bills is appreciated. My money will go towards emergencies and rainy days and vacation for us as well as shyt around the house we need, groceries, and misc. Actually to be honest, this becomes less of an issue the longer u are with someone b/c it really depends on who will control the finances. Money is pooled. Relationships are communist. Lol! And most dudes I've been with haven't had a problem with this. And if I meet a guy who is better with moolah than I am, I totally don't mind him handling my money and his money and throwing me an allowance.
The real issue here is whether she wants to be honest with herself---is she worthy of that treatment and willing to do her part to maintain that type of lifestyle? She's using a legit issue as an excuse for her own personal romantic failures. I dun told ya'll about these types. Lames can't be spokesmen for concerns b/c they make a caricature of legitimate issues. This bytch as lame as they come trying to hide her unattractiveness and thinly veiled c00ning under the banner "finances in the black community". Just be real and say u want a white dude b/c u gotta stereotype of them having good credit.
This has nothing to do with traditional roles and finances in relationships. That's the front. The REAL name of this article is: "
Justifications for Dating White Supremacy and How I've Been Mind Raped into Thinking Non-black=Stability"
Meanwhile I bet my student loans none of those alleged non-blk dudes tryin to fund her mediocre ass thru life either.
SO tired of people lying all the damn time. If u "real" and "bold" enough to insult ur own, be "real" enuff to take honest inventory of why u really ain't poppin too.
I didn’t even read past the title of this thread. These heauxs talk about how they want a man and not trying to raise a child, but if I’m paying all the bills, than bytch YOU are my child. FOH, I’m looking for a partnership, these chicks looking for sponsorship
You make a sound argument.