"Why I Do Not Want to Split Rent or Mortgage With My Man"

[Doobie Doo]

stop posting bait articles

What the fukk is a "Bait" article? Ya'll nikkas love making up false narratives cuz u don't agree with shyt.

 

[philmonroe]

If a MARRIED woman is taking care of the cooking, cleaning, the kids, being loving and supportive, staying in shape, fukking on the regular, and the man makes a living in which they can be comfortable, I don't see a problem with her not working.

BUT

If they're just living together, making modest salaries that just cover the minimum cost of living in that area, and especially no kids


On the other hand, a lot of brehs on this site want to complain about black women, and think white women are better partners. A lot of the fine white women are being taken care of by their husbands. A woman who stays home has an easier time maintaining the house, her weight, and doesn't have the stress of the work environment.

Then again, a lot of those white women are miserable, unfaithful (I know from past experience, unfortunately) , strung out on pills and alcohol, and end up snapping one day from pretending to be happy, and smile all the time.

Take that white chick pandering for daps shyt elsewhere. If you wanna call out a certain poster for doing that cool call them out otherwise you just out here pandering when that isn't the topic fam.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

Take that white chick pandering for daps shyt elsewhere. If you wanna call out a certain poster for doing that cool call them out otherwise you just out here pandering when that isn't the topic fam.

I didn't even read the entire article, but when I saw black women black men, I knew it was going to be some fukkery. We don't need to be divided like that.

 

[philmonroe]

I didn't even read the entire article, but when I saw black women black men, I knew it was going to be some fukkery. We don't need to be divided like that.

I agree thought you was on that bullshyt. My bad

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

I agree thought you was on that bullshyt. My bad

Understandable, and no prob

 

[StickStickly]

If you are dating and living together, you can pay some bills

 

[tater]

I see what she’s saying, but it’s 2017.

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

Y’all can laugh and refuse to read all you want. The facts, are still the facts.

Women need men to provide them with security. Period. If a woman has to work two jobs, or even one job she hates to split the rent with her “man”, that woman will not respect him. Period. And she’s not happy!

She may come home and smile in your face and tell you it’s okay, but it’s not! And 9 times outta 10. She’s cheating on you ! (Women really cheat. A lot. And men are oblivious.)

I see this right now with my home girls. I’m married and had a son several months ago. Currently staying at home. I’ve never been so happy and submissive in a relationship, and it’s because I have security. I married a man 11 years older than me. A single father who has a 9-5, and also owns a barbershop. Very hardworking. West Indian.

I see the envy from my friends. It doesn’t upset me, because I feel sorry for them. They are always Wishing they had a husband like mines. Telling me how much they hate their baby fathers, live in boyfriends & husbands. How they are disgusted with them, and don’t want to have sex with them. And it’s because of The lack of security. All they do is cry about how marrying/committing to that man is the biggest mistake they made, now they can’t leave cause it will hurt their kids. THEY ARE ALL CHEATING!


I blame my friends for not telling their men the truth & expecting them to read their minds. but never the less.. men should know.

Women do not respect men who cannot take care of them! And it’s not just black Women either! Women. Period!

The low emotional intelligence men have about this needs to stop being an excuse. Usually, women do at least 70% of the House work and child care... so if she’s working a full time job, and splitting the bills. Who’s doing more?


Don’t expect a woman living like that to be happy with you, and enjoy having sex with you. She doesn’t.

And let me say this again in case you missed it before.

SHES PROBABLY CHEATING ON YOU.

Why? Because women don’t respect men who NEED them financially. And if your asking you WIFE for her half of the rent...

Good Luck.

 

[Carlton Banks]

Women like this have no idea why black men aren't trying to get married in droves

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

She's a perfect example of how the right thing can come out the wrong mouth.
She's like the dudes always harpin on and on about submission. Basically if u worthy of it, you'll get it. She ain't gettin it so that's a problem with HER, not necessarily the community.

I'm traditional too. No amount of hating and shaming is gonna change that. I don't split bills with men. When I lived with my ex, I put in about $200 towards rent and bought groceries. He paid rent/cable and internet and utilities.

Why? Because as a female, (and this is fact) if I'm worth a damn, it's axiomatic that I am going work harder in that relationship than the male is. That's traditionally WHY men wanted to be be married. A helpmate is exactly that---a helpmate. Nobody is going to keep house like me. No male is dusting, making sure our floors aren't sticky, changing the sheets, sweeping, mopping, folding laundry, washing the skid marks out ur drawers like me. Ur not washing the ring around that tub out or scrubbing the soap scum off tiles like men Likewise, a guy might fix a meal every now and again, but u aren't cooking consistently, preparing meals AND cleaning up afterwards. You aren't managing the bills, mail, and I didn't even mention if u have children or elderly.
A woman's work is literally never done. So him taking care of fhe bills is appreciated. My money will go towards emergencies and rainy days and vacation for us as well as shyt around the house we need, groceries, and misc. Actually to be honest, this becomes less of an issue the longer u are with someone b/c it really depends on who will control the finances. Money is pooled. Relationships are communist. Lol! And most dudes I've been with haven't had a problem with this. And if I meet a guy who is better with moolah than I am, I totally don't mind him handling my money and his money and throwing me an allowance.

The real issue here is whether she wants to be honest with herself---is she worthy of that treatment and willing to do her part to maintain that type of lifestyle? She's using a legit issue as an excuse for her own personal romantic failures. I dun told ya'll about these types. Lames can't be spokesmen for concerns b/c they make a caricature of legitimate issues. This bytch as lame as they come trying to hide her unattractiveness and thinly veiled c00ning under the banner "finances in the black community". Just be real and say u want a white dude b/c u gotta stereotype of them having good credit.

This has nothing to do with traditional roles and finances in relationships. That's the front. The REAL name of this article is: "Justifications for Dating White Supremacy and How I've Been Mind Raped into Thinking Non-black=Stability"

Meanwhile I bet my student loans none of those alleged non-blk dudes tryin to fund her mediocre ass thru life either.
SO tired of people lying all the damn time. If u "real" and "bold" enough to insult ur own, be "real" enuff to take honest inventory of why u really ain't poppin too.

 

[Crispy]

Y’all can laugh and refuse to read all you want. The facts, are still the facts.

Women need men to provide them with security. Period. If a woman has to work two jobs, or even one job she hates to split the rent with her “man”, that woman will not respect him. Period. And she’s not happy!

She may come home and smile in your face and tell you it’s okay, but it’s not! And 9 times outta 10. She’s cheating on you ! (Women really cheat. A lot. And men are oblivious.)

I see this right now with my home girls. I’m married and had a son several months ago. Currently staying at home. I’ve never been so happy and submissive in a relationship, and it’s because I have security. I married a man 11 years older than me. A single father who has a 9-5, and also owns a barbershop. Very hardworking. West Indian.

I see the envy from my friends. It doesn’t upset me, because I feel sorry for them. They are always Wishing they had a husband like mines. Telling me how much they hate their baby fathers, live in boyfriends & husbands. How they are disgusted with them, and don’t want to have sex with them. And it’s because of The lack of security. All they do is cry about how marrying/committing to that man is the biggest mistake they made, now they can’t leave cause it will hurt their kids. THEY ARE ALL CHEATING!


I blame my friends for not telling their men the truth & expecting them to read their minds. but never the less.. men should know.

Women do not respect men who cannot take care of them! And it’s not just black Women either! Women. Period!

The low emotional intelligence men have about this needs to stop being an excuse. Usually, women do at least 70% of the House work and child care... so if she’s working a full time job, and splitting the bills. Who’s doing more?


Don’t expect a woman living like that to be happy with you, and enjoy having sex with you. She doesn’t.

And let me say this again in case you missed it before.

SHES PROBABLY CHEATING ON YOU.

Why? Because women don’t respect men who NEED them financially. And if your asking you WIFE for her half of the rent...

Good Luck.

a lot of truth in your statement




men have provided women with a home for thousands of years

to think they mindset changes in a few decades is silly

a lot of women judge they life off of other women

they out here killing them selves at a 9 to 5

while they homegirl sitting in a fat house wit no job instagraming baby photos and vacation pics

and homegirls man is paying for it all

and that shyt burns they soul

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

Women like this have no idea why black men aren't trying to get married in droves

Why? Are black men out looking for women to split bills with them they would already have?

Are black men expecting to lead households, and not be providers?

Are black men avoiding responsibility?

Is the world easier from your mommas basement?


I would encourage this woman, and any woman with her mindset to date men of color from other parts of the African diaspora.

This...
“I’m too good to work a 9-5 job, but expect money and success to fall in my lap, but in the mean time imma get a woman to take care of me and “hold it down...”
is the culture of black AMERICAN men.
Which is why men from “other” communities don’t want y’all near their daughters.

 

[Crispy]

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

a lot of truth in your statement




men have provided women with a home for thousands of years

to think they mindset changes in a few decades is silly

a lot of women judge they life off of other women

they out here killing them selves at a 9 to 5

while they homegirl sitting in a fat house wit no job instagraming baby photos and vacation pics

and homegirls man is paying for it all

and that shyt burns they soul

Tell me about it...

I feel like I’m a counselor everyday trying to pick my girls up crying about their money problems. And it’s difficult for me to respect their men, if they have to call me for gas money!

My friend can’t even go get her hair done, without her baby father making her feel bad. And she works two jobs! And of course... splits the mortgage.

But like I said. None of them have truly expressed to their baby daddy’s & husbands how disappointed they are in them. These men have no idea how unhappy their women are, and how much they cheat and desire someone else.
So it’s hard for me to feel bad. Women have to do better about Communicating their needs. But after reading this thread, I see why they don’t. Their going to be accused of being a lazy gold digger.

Nevertheless, this low emotional intelligence of you men have got to stop. Most of y’all are young, so let me help you learn something early...

Just like the idea that women are supposed to be virtuous & feminine isn’t going anywhere, and that will always be men’s preference. Ultimate desire.

Neither is the idea that a man is to be a provider! I don’t care how much the times/money has changed. fukk your excuses. Work harder.


And, If you have a woman who suddenly stops wanting to have sex with you, and is healthy.
SHE RESENTS YOUR ASS FOR SOMETHING!

If she has you there, her “man”, and she still has to work like a dog a multiple jobs, or one job she hates... there is no point in you being there. I’m sure her family & friends feel that way too! Especially when she has to call them for financial help because you’re broke, or stingy or make her feel like crap anytime she ask for anything!


You are there JUST so she can say she has a man. So she doesn’t look like there is something wrong with her, because Society puts pressure on women to have a man.

 

[TinFoilSnapBack]

Many people call me a Feminist but I do not subscribe to the term personally. It is true that I want equal pay in my professional life and I would like my gender not to hinder me from accomplishing the same things that my male counterpart may aspire to accomplish. However, in my personal life I happen to have a mixture of liberal/progressive and conservative ideals. Progressive because I do work, conservative because I still happen to believe that MEN are providers and Head of Household. As a woman, I do not resist being a natural nourisher. Does that mean that I will iron your clothes and pack you a dandy, handy sandwich each day for lunch and prepare you a dinner on the daily? Probably not, but it does mean that I will see to it that you are fed on the daily. I have to work remember? But somehow you want me to work, split the house note and cook your food and not deny my body to you, as your wife. For me, its all about principal. I need to feel secure, knowing that my man can take care of our monthly expenses for where we live. If I am submitting to you, that should come with piece of mind. Its the freaking principal! It’s incredibly stressful for me to know that the ship may crash and burn if I lose my job, want to quit and cannot because my household is dependent upon my wages. I much rather my partner’s earnings go towards our roof over our heads and my earnings go towards growing our longterm picture. Meaning my money is a supplement not a depended on collective primary. Sure I will pay some utilities and even buy groceries if need be. But I desire to get a bit more creative and flexible with my earnings. I want to save for a rainy day, I want to invest, I want to have the opportunity to try something different professionally if I so choose. Can I do that being depended on to pay half of the mortgage?

This is the part that jumped out at me. She wants to have her cake and eat it, too, like every other so-called professional BW.