"Why I Do Not Want to Split Rent or Mortgage With My Man"

SadimirPutin

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It's just hilarious to me how cooking, cleaning and the such are considered as some kind of slaving when women do it, but if a man was a stay at home dude who only had to cook three meals and keep the house clean while the woman was at work all day and paying all the bills, he'd be considered some kind of leech or loser who is lazy and "isn't a real man".

Man you see the jig too
 

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I swear to god i fukkin hate people

Its 2017.

What the fukk do you people expect?

You do know the economy is in shambles? the lower/middle class is dying, faster than ever? High paying blue collar jobs (which is the highest level of qualification most Americans can work) are GONE. Only available in small numbers.

Its laughable. The sheer ignorance of buying into the idea that somehow a generation of men just woke up one day and decided they weren't going to be shyt. No motherfukkers, we got screwed. By our politicians. By the Oligarchs.

This antiquated idea that men SOLELY are somehow going to be making a comfortable cost of living for a family (which is about 100k after taxes in 2017 dollars)...and wifey just is going to play domestic goddess is ludicrous. Nowadays it takes special, above average, individuals who tend to be born into AT LEAST upper middle class to gain that lifestyle. Thats how far gone we are.

shyt is beyond frustrating. Because the second it finally hits home that wealth inequality is so big that its eradicated traditional gender roles? People will finally start doing shyt to fight it.

But people, like your friends, are ignorant fukks so its not going to happen.


There are engineers in San Francisco clearing 100k that need two roommates to keep a roof over their head

This idea of how the world and compensation works has these broads very confused
 

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if you can't pay all the bills on your own. i mean mortgage ,food ,lights car notes. i mean all the bills

you can't afford a wife:sas1:

if you can't survive comfortably on half your income i.e. pay all your bills with only half your check

you can't afford a wife and kids:sas2:

its really that simple

honestly it really is that simple

wives and children are not for broke men:hubie:

i can tell a lot of yall is young

because when you get older you will see dudes fucc up there life by taking on the expense of wife and kids:mjcry:

but not have the money to pay for it:scust:

a successful marriage is a lot of hard work

struggling to pay your bills ain't going to make it any easier :camby:

here is the roadmap

education - solid career - home ownership - marriage - children

your just asking to get fucced off doing it out of order
:snoop:

:ehh: Pretty much!!
 

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What type environment were most of you raise in? :hhh:


There have been healthy arrangements of all kinds.

-Your fathers most likely paid the mortgage.
-Your father and mother mostly both paid the mortgage
-Your mothers most likely paid the mortgage.


It's understandable that people who grew with single mothers who think the woman should pay the mortgage.
But don't project your insecurities on others who choose do the opposite.

People who grew up with fathers don't project your rules onto other who choose to do something that may work for their lifestyle.
 

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Truth to note. I am not currently married or engaged. However, I do date and I have gained an interesting perspective from my interracial, same race and various income level dating experiences.
The other million words are null and void:camby:
 

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if you can't pay all the bills on your own. i mean mortgage ,food ,lights car notes. i mean all the bills

you can't afford a wife:sas1:

if you can't survive comfortably on half your income i.e. pay all your bills with only half your check

you can't afford a wife and kids:sas2:

its really that simple

honestly it really is that simple

wives and children are not for broke men:hubie:

i can tell a lot of yall is young

because when you get older you will see dudes fucc up there life by taking on the expense of wife and kids:mjcry:

but not have the money to pay for it:scust:

a successful marriage is a lot of hard work

struggling to pay your bills ain't going to make it any easier :camby:

here is the roadmap

education - solid career - home ownership - marriage - children

your just asking to get fucced off doing it out of order:snoop:
I take care of my wife, 5 children and basically support my bm too



But this lady, these feminist, and people like them want cake and eat it too.... There is a reason they are single and will stay single until they become man hating lesbians or data Cacs who only want them for fetish research:hubie:
 

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It all boils down to this

If one person is paying the mortgage and bills............what is happening with the money from that second income?

And if there is no second income.....why is that?

If the couple in question does not yet have kids what is the other person doing?
 

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It's a very old mindset that she has, in post-Recession salaries and careers for American Black Men aren't hitting 6 figures or close to it (which is what you need to live middle class with kids and a mortgage).

Being a stay-at-home spouse is lazy and actually embarrassing for anyone that is an adult.

And since we are keeping it real, the kind of man who could pull that kind of scratch and allow his woman to chill at home and do nothing isn't going to be checking for a 40-year old woman.

He is going to get a 22-year old foreign joint to build a family/legacy with. The OP needs to change her ways, otherwise she is gonna be cat lady.
 
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What type environment were most of you raise in? :hhh:


There have been healthy arrangements of all kinds.

-Your fathers most likely paid the mortgage.
-Your father and mother mostly both paid the mortgage
-Your mothers most likely paid the mortgage.


It's understandable that people who grew with single mothers who think the woman should pay the mortgage.
But don't project your insecurities on others who choose do the opposite.

People who grew up with fathers don't project your rules onto other who choose to do something that may work for their lifestyle.

I grew up in a two parent household. So in our household, it was both 1 & 2, since pops made the majority of the income. I do see what your saying, and I agree.
 

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I don't think it's embarrassing IF you can afford it. If your wife is staying home to taking care of the kids, it's not a problem.

After your kids reach a certain age, they can fend for themselves for the most part. I was home during the day at 9 watching my younger brother because I was too old for daycare and we did fine. There's no reason for anyone to be a stay at home spouse imo.

As far as this topic goes, the thought of someone paying everything is extremely selfish. This isn't the 50s anymore where a man could buy a home, car and support his family with his check. If your spouse isn't willing to help with overhead or bills, I'd like to know what's happening with their income because I'm not going to go broke and penniless while you save for yourself.
 

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if you can't pay all the bills on your own. i mean mortgage ,food ,lights car notes. i mean all the bills

you can't afford a wife:sas1:

if you can't survive comfortably on half your income i.e. pay all your bills with only half your check

you can't afford a wife and kids:sas2:

its really that simple

honestly it really is that simple

wives and children are not for broke men:hubie:

i can tell a lot of yall is young

because when you get older you will see dudes fucc up there life by taking on the expense of wife and kids:mjcry:

but not have the money to pay for it:scust:

a successful marriage is a lot of hard work

struggling to pay your bills ain't going to make it any easier :camby:

here is the roadmap

education - solid career - home ownership - marriage - children

your just asking to get fucced off doing it out of order:snoop:

Stop having kids. I'm talking to thw women too. Women think that they entitled to children just cause the government will bail them out.

Some women need to get neutered ans live life sterile.
 
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