Why is having female friends looked down upon on the coli?

[N711oir]

It's a hyperbole just to express and show restraint is possible and always there it's just whether we choose to exercise it or not what I mean is you can be friends with anybody despite age race education class or sex? It's just whatever Hang up you choose to use to shut and close you off from another individual. And for real life scenarios I think everyone navigates it differently. Me I don't get in between female friends relationships but if they ask I give male point of view try to always put positive spin on it. Like a lot of females really don't understand strip club situation. How a dude can go in a strip club and it actually mean nothing a lot of women's minds aren't wired that way. But instead of having a blow argument with they s/o or have another cackling female tell them they man ain't shyt they can get an unbiased second opinion from a trusted source who really has no horse in that race nor reason to lie. And that's valuable

 

[The M.I.C.]

I dont have any males I consider friends. I got brothers and I know how fukkboys think. I might hang out with them but if he's not gay, he isn't to be trusted as a true friend.

Of course my nikka likes this way of thinking.

And this is where we turn the tables.

How many other women think like this? A lot. I generally stay away from women who usually have gay men around them like ornaments and for two reasons:

1.) Most females usually have gay friends to help address their own insecurities and/or failings dealing with straight men and need some type of reassurance that cannot be given from real dudes or girlfriends . I don't have time for such extreme frailties in a personality and I don't want the risk of there being a "subversive" mouth in her ear via her jealous man-pet.

2.) This reinforces the negative connotation that comes with men being too close of friends with women. I rather not be looked at as possibly being or on some lonely hearts shyt. I'm fairly aggressive and basically say what I feel up front..my time is my most valuable asset, I'm not gonna play games with a woman. You not feeling me? Cool. On to the next one, not going to waste my time being the cool side of the pillow for you. Funnily enough, after cutting a few off...they actually try to slide back in..my current relationship started off this way.

 

[re'up]

I can be cool/friends with girls I am attracted to, and we don't have to sleep together, or anything else, though it happens, as long as we are on the same page.. I cannot really be close friends if it's a girl I am like in love with, and she doesn't feel the same, though I'll always be cool to them....it is a and hateful kind of mindset that many have where you manipulate someone into sleeping with you, and then cut them off, a lot of my close friends (not women) really do not respect or like women outside of sex they have no value....I'd rather be cool with someone, and if we hook up later, then thats fine....I heard something in a psych class that relationships can always move forwards but never backwards....having a relationship with quality women someone is more important to me then sex with girls I don't care about....

 

[42 Monks]

And this is where we turn the tables.

How many other women think like this? A lot. I generally stay away from women who usually have gay men around them like ornaments and for two reasons:

1.) Most females usually have gay friends to help address their own insecurities and/or failings dealing with straight men and need some type of reassurance that cannot be given from real dudes or girlfriends . I don't have time for such extreme frailties in a personality and I don't want the risk of there being a "subversive" mouth in her ear via her jealous man-pet.

2.) This reinforces the negative connotation that comes with men being too close of friends with women. I rather not be looked at as possibly being or on some lonely hearts shyt. I'm fairly aggressive and basically say what I feel up front..my time is my most valuable asset, I'm not gonna play games with a woman. You not feeling me? Cool. On to the next one, not going to waste my time being the cool side of the pillow for you. Funnily enough, after cutting a few off...they actually try to slide back in..my current relationship started off this way.

You watch too much TV

 

[The M.I.C.]

You watch too much TV

A very simple response from an obviously simple mind. I would expect more of a "constructive" response but knowledge is a faculty most folks don't retain. This is related to MY real life experience and if you can't summarize a retort better than that bullshyt than don't address me.

 

[N711oir]

 

[42 Monks]

A very simple response from an obviously simple mind. I would expect more of a "constructive" response but knowledge is a faculty most folks don't retain. This is related to MY real life experience and if you can't summarize a retort better than that bullshyt than don't address me.

Defensive as fukk over the smallest comment

says a lot

 

[The M.I.C.]

Defensive as fukk over the smallest comment

says a lot

Your comprehensive skills are lacking as the summary of my response was in regards to the lack of content in your post. Why would I be defensive since you presented a comical response in regards to my real life dissertation? You can't be taken seriously, either debate my points or shut the fukk up.

 

[Swirv]

Ive had female friends all my life. You need a woman's persepctive on a wide range of matters sometimes. They have valuable insight especially when it comes to dealing with a woman or how to get things done in a more subtle way professionally and personally.

 

[42 Monks]

Your comprehensive skills are lacking as the summary of my response was in regards to the lack of content in your post. Why would I be defensive since you presented a comical response in regards to my real life dissertation? You can't be taken seriously, either debate my points or shut the fukk up.

What point? the anecdotal bs?

saying "most women got a gay friend" is right up there with "all black women that I KNOW are obese" and "all nikkas like sports".

you're typing all this out trying to come across educated but you're pushing a life experience on top of preconceived bias as a 'point' - where they do that at?

talking about 'frailties' and shyt when you're scared that you might look for talking to a girl



TEXTBOOK insecurity

 

[Mountain]

Yall got it confused. There are two types of nikkas.

Theres the well adjusted type that keeps a few females around around just so he can link they freinds or because they happen to be exceptional women.

And then theres the type thats got bytch tendencies that stays around a bunch of females they gossip with, follow all the time, complain about other men to, whilst constantly trying to get their approval.

Theres a big difference, If you're on some playa sht or you're dealing a chick that special to you thats cool, but if you're a bytch ass nikka thats “one of the girls” and you basically share their mentality then you're the type of nikka that the coli looks down on.

 

[Crayola Coyote]

No point being friends with a chick if she is not getting me other women or allowing me to fukk her in the mean time of me getting other women.

 

[HE_Pennypacker]

Calm down, breh. I don't know why you're being so defensive from the outset. You have female friends? Good for you, who doesn't? Just means you have some social skills.

Only thing I will say is I find it when I meet a straight dude with 0 guy friends. I know he's likely to be a funny style dude filled with bytchiness.

 

[NewWaveEra]

This guy gets it.

Its about being that playboy...mr popular.

Ive always wanted to be that giy that women want to be around. Thats how you do it. Being slick...having your own "charlie's angels" so to speak.

Fly nikka shyt. Women see you with women
..they wanna know whats up with that nikka.

They interested now. If he has a bunch of women talking to him he must be somebody!

Alot of these dudes is doing it wrong. Or dont really have experience with more than one type of woman.

How can you speak of Charlie's angels, if they — your angels — are not attracted to you and you are not fukking? Female preselection is good, but hanging around women, who don't see you as a sexual being or not worthy to give their p*ssy to is NEGATIVE PRESELECTION. If they don't want you — why should other women want you?

Some people here don't want to see the truth. They rather flip all kinds of mental gymnastics.

Btw, your playboy and popular trope come off as needy and in search of validation through others. I rather be the lonesome wolf with a aura of mystique doing the fukk I want to do than that clown making people laugh and feel good. Because that is in no way sexy. That's the attitude of a servant: your dealing positive emotions to other people for free. Fukk that shyt.

 

[Unknown Poster]

How can you speak of Charlie's angels, if they — your angels — are not attracted to you and you are not fukking? Female preselection is good, but hanging around women, who don't see you as a sexual being or not worthy to give their p*ssy to is NEGATIVE PRESELECTION. If they don't want you — why should other women want you?

Some people here don't want to see the truth. They rather flip all kinds of mental gymnastics.

Btw, your playboy and popular trope come off as needy and in search of validation through others. I rather be the lonesome wolf with a aura of mystique doing the fukk I want to do than that clown making people laugh and feel good. Because that is in no way sexy. That's the attitude of a servant: your dealing positive emotions to other people for free. Fukk that shyt.

You say this as if I legitimately care about your opinion. No offense. Focus on yourself and not others. Your life will be more gratifying because of it.