Why is having female friends looked down upon on the coli?

[#SOG_soldier]

i dont have female friends because i dont relate to women TBH



my only hobbies inlcuding smoking weed and popping xanax and watching boxing. How many women you know indulging in such activities?




i legit have never met a woman and thought "i would like to be your friend" if that makes me a chavuinstic (what ever that means) pig then so be it :ghghgh:

 

[42 Monks]

how would this dynamic work though? let's say i see shawty dancing at the club and i have wingwomen how would i get her to distract shawty's friend while i take on shawty

Tell your wingwoman to meet you at the club, then just do your own thing. Its really that simple. No need to over think any of it. I'm not exaggerating - shyt will fall perfectly into your lap all you have to do is keep your eyes open and know what to watch for.

The sooner you move away from the club scene the better though. Easily the most fake atmosphere you'll ever encounter in life.

 

[philmonroe]

I'll admit this CAN happen but more often than not it does not and will not happen. Lets keep things real please.

This you better off being that dude instead of leveraging other females. I mean think about it how many of the guys that people think are a ladies man or getting girls like that have a bunch of girls as friends on some chatty patty shyt? I think when this thread comes up every other week we need a definition of what "friend" really is before having a discussion.

 

[TEH]

This you better off being that dude instead of leveraging other females. I mean think about it how many of the guys that people think are a ladies man or getting girls like that have a bunch of girls as friends on some chatty patty shyt? I think when this thread comes up every other week we need a definition of what "friend" really is before having a discussion.

That's the first thing that we need to sort out.

 

[philmonroe]

Alot of men on here will say having female friends is stupid because they automatically assume that you've been friendzoned. Women and men can be friends without it being some type of attraction even if one or the other is attractive. Don't let these men folks on here keep you from making friends with women because their logic is silly.

Why do you say assumed you've been friendzoned? What else would it be? As others have said before who really going out of their way to find "friends" of the opposite sex esp for the cats outside of college? In college is the last place you can really pull that and it see somewhat normal. Also nobody said you can't be friends with somebody attractive but its rare esp when they vibe with you too. Nobody never really explains this but like you will say its silly. How many of y'all actually out here looking for friends in general but claim looking for opposite sex friends is cool.

 

[42 Monks]

That's the first thing that we need to sort out.

its literally the exact opposite of simping.

a lot of people saying "i can't be friends with a woman" are just you don't need to be bffs and go shopping to have a girl in your phone that you ain't actively trying to knock down. duh

didn't think this was a foreign concept but maybe i'm fukking wrong

 

[philmonroe]

its literally the exact opposite of simping.

a lot of people saying "i can't be friends with a woman" are just you don't need to be bffs and go shopping to have a girl in your phone that you ain't actively trying to knock down. duh

didn't think this was a foreign concept but maybe i'm fukking wrong

Did you quote the wrong person fam?

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

That's the first thing that we need to sort out.

People are legit equating friend to talking on Tinychat every night. I mean by those standards I guess there can be male-female friends, but being a real friend is deeper to me than that. Like I would trust my child with this person type of deep.

 

[TEH]

its literally the exact opposite of simping.

a lot of people saying "i can't be friends with a woman" are just you don't need to be bffs and go shopping to have a girl in your phone that you ain't actively trying to knock down. duh

didn't think this was a foreign concept but maybe i'm fukking wrong

Well explain it to us like were 5 because friends and acquaintances have different roles. When I hear 'friend' I think hanging out and doing things together.

 

[philmonroe]

People are legit equating friend to talking on Tinychat every night. I mean by those standards I guess there can be male-female friends, but being a real friend is deeper to me than that. Like I would trust my child with this person type of deep.

Yeah I definitely think this is the disconnect. Some dudes are sooo thirsty for females on their team they will include chicks on here as friends when you get that nah mudda fukker from me on that note. I have about 2/3 real friends like you said even the I don't have kids lol but dudes got plenty of females like this? Gotta throw the challenge flag on that. Dudes got chicks they go out with to happy hour and that's their "friends"

 

[42 Monks]

Well explain it to us like were 5 because friends and acquaintances have different roles. When I hear 'friend' I think hanging out and doing things together.

You are thinking waaaay too hard on it.

In a life where you go out and hit multiple spots on your day to day, you should have a woman you know that's willing and happy to sit down with you at most of those spots if not all. Library, a couple of lunch spots, work, gym, whatever - and if you ain't putting any energy towards trying to fukk her specifically, that makes her a friend.

shyt, most women I know think a dude is weird as fukk if they never see him around a woman so I'm kinda to a lot of responses in this thread.

 

[TEH]

You are thinking waaaay too hard on it.

In a life where you go out and hit multiple spots on your day to day, you should have a woman you know that's willing and happy to sit down with you at most of those spots if not all. Library, a couple of lunch spots, work, gym, whatever - and if you ain't putting any energy towards trying to fukk her specifically, that makes her a friend.

shyt, most women I know think a dude is weird as fukk if they never see him around a woman so I'm kinda to a lot of responses in this thread.

I hear you but why waste this time with female "friends" when you could be with females who are more than friends or at least fwb.

 

[42 Monks]

I hear you but why waste this time with female "friends" when you could be with females who are more than friends or at least fwb.

Like men and women cant both waste your time equally

 

[N711oir]

I think western mentality with media overly saturated with images and messages imof sex. Got dudes thinking you got to fukk everything on sight

I mean you're freinds with your parents it's a lot of people you are friends with of the opposit sex or could be. It just possibly more work to convert your mind over or to exercise restraint especially if she happens to be attractive. But when you're cool with them they actually become like or you see them as sisters aka people not conquest or sexual objects. With so much limited time on this earth it's unfortunate that some limit close friendship with just males or females vice versa. A lot can be learned either way from different perspectives

 

[philmonroe]

I think western mentality with media overly saturated with images and messages imof sex. Got dudes thinking you got to fukk everything on sight

I mean you're freinds with your parents it's a lot of people you are friends with of the opposit sex or could be. It just possibly more work to convert your mind over or to exercise restraint especially if she happens to be attractive. But when you're cool with them they actually become like or you see them as sisters aka people not conquest or sexual objects. With so much limited time on this earth it's unfortunate that some limit close friendship with just males or females vice versa. A lot can be learned either way from different perspectives

Come on nikka friends with your parents are you fukking serious? Anyway I think y'all need to explain how you cats that I only see mainly online talking this shyt go about having alllllllllllll these female friends off gp esp if you're not in HS or college.