Why is it so hard for women to just chill and not feel the need to "do something"??

[Diondon]

I dunno. nikkas being in the house all day is a fairly new phenomena.
Growing up, you was never in the house.
Hiking, being outdoors I'm with all that cause I'm an active person. My only caveats are if she's a club rat
Been tired of that shyt.

 

[Wild self]

It def stems from Social Media.These modern day hoes are so programmed by social media that it shows in practically everything they do. They can't sit they ass down because they always feel like they're "missing out". They can't stop scrolling on they phone because they'll think they're "missing out". Their nervous systems have been manipulated too much.

Oh and every bytch is basically the same bytch now too because of it. They all love the same shyt. Traveling, Issa Rae, Makeup, Jordan Peele, Music Festivals, rinse repeat.

I won't even fukk with a broad seriously if she's active on Social Media these days.

That female peer pressure

Social media done wiped out being comfortable being in your own skin.

 

[Ghost Utmost]

Men and women are very different

The key is to uderstand exactly where she is coming from

Even if you don't agree or want to get her to do something different, it all begins with knowing where she is now

The fix here is to actually make a plan ahead of time and try to satisfy her need for entertainment. If you can't go out every week, make sure you take her out every month, then fill in with a couple of free/cheap adventures (park, dollar movie, sightseeing, run a 5K). And also see if you can include one weekend of cold chilling where you just stay home

Whatever you do, you have to keep an adventurous mood. Change up the order, the spot, the activity.

But yeah. They get bored fast

 

[FukyourFort]

I can't hate on them for wanting to do shyt. I noticed this too but I understand that if you are in a relationship you have to compromise. WHen I'm single I do all my introvert shyt but I try to compromise if I'm fukking with someone.

 

[Coco Loco]

Worst part is even so called introverted women also need to be entertained these days.

As a homebody, it's one of the main reasons why most of my relationships don't last longer than a couple of months. shyt is so mentally taxing.

As an introvert, I love chill days but I also need fresh air sometimes. What I won’t do is bug a man to go out with me. If he’s not feeling it, fine. I’ll go by myself. It’s never that serious.

 

[blues_funk_reggae]

Some of the brehs have mentioned FOMO. I've literally seen women sit at a dinner table with their phone next to their plate scrolling with their pinky because their other fingers are greasy from their food. Just so they wouldn't miss out. You see them live streaming during dinner or having their hair done or going to a nail appointment. It's a wild time right now.

 

[mamba]

Right on. And yes, men are susceptible to the same effects as well. The effects work at a subconscious level. You can know it's bullshyt and still fall victim to it's effects. That's why I'm no longer on social media, and it's the best decision I've made in a long time. Being unplugged is freedom. It's modern-day idolatry and I recommend we all revert back to a more nautral way of socializing.

I unplugged as a daily scroller back in 2012 and haven't looked back.

I log in from time to time to check in on relatives. But, other than that, I try to stay away.

 

[DatBoiHawk]

if they were spending their money they'd want to stay in

End thread

 

[Cobalt Sire]

Seems like women that work for a living don't need to go out all the time.

 

[mamba]

Some of the brehs have mentioned FOMO. I've literally seen women sit at a dinner table with their phone next to their plate scrolling with their pinky because their other fingers are greasy from their food. Just so they wouldn't miss out. You see them live streaming during dinner or having their hair done or going to a nail appointment. It's a wild time right now.

In their natural state, they are restless and want to do stuff. That's totally understandable. They need to be entertained, as they are typically incapable of entertaining themselves for extended periods of time the way men can.

But, the rise of social media and excessive FOMO have created a situation where they get anxious if they are not doing something whenever there is down time.

Even if your girl isn't like that, she likely has friends that are like that and will suck her in due to peer pressure.

 

[Weaver31]

Seems like women that work for a living don't need to go out all the time.

True....the women I dated who worked full time didn't need to go out all the time...but they still needed entertainment.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Not to be toooooo combative but gaming is definitely as much of a hobby as those others. Anyway. none of that shyt is exactly special. I've been on so many dates with women who say a mixture of those exact hobbies. Don't matter what you make or do. You all apparently share 99% of the same hobbies brehettes.

No one said they’re special

Unless you’re into shyt like cliff jumping and deep sea diving, most hobbies are common, especially for people with a traditional 9-5. A hobby is simply how you fill your free time, it’s not meant to “wow” people.

 

[Dameon Farrow]

Women can't handle boredom. Just the way it is. I literally tell them, boredom is a chance to relax. Nothing wrong with winding down at all. We need that. World is crazy and times are crazier. Wind the fukk down.

Smartphones have made it worse. People really start thinking their brain needs 24 hour engagement. That shyt is not mentally healthy. We'll see the effects when the smartphone era folks get to be retirement age and up.

 

[Wild self]

True....some want that Real Housewives, BBall Wives and Love and Hip Hop lifestyle where u got them dolled and GQ'ed up in trendy outfits going to clubs, bars and social events all the times with drinks and tons of excitement and drama.

Thats jumpoff material. Not even something worth dating. I cant recall a single successful relationship or marriage where the woman is ALWAYS going out.

 

[Wild self]

And y'all see why they go for the dope boys..
These niggsz got all kinds of time and fast money to do a bunch of retarded shyt.
Yall niggsz need to learn to stop writing these females up...
Ask yourself, how the fukk does doing that help me... how?

Yep, unless you do dirt or a successful (legal) busness owner, no humanely possible way for you to have huge sums of money AND time. For the undisciplined person, that will lead to uncharted territory in terms of fukkery. Hell, a newly wealthy person with loads of time and money available will probably become a vigilante like Batman if they truly give no fukks