Why is it so hard for women to just chill and not feel the need to "do something"??

[Drew Wonder]

No disrespect, but that's ridiculous. Me ex-wife was always in me to "do something". Now that something is starting over in her new city. With her attitude...yikes...

I mean I’ve been with ol girl for 3 years and it was just something fun to do. I enjoyed it. It really wasn’t that serious bruh

 

[TripleAgent]

I mean I’ve been with ol girl for 3 years and it was just something fun to do. I enjoyed it. It really wasn’t that serious bruh

Along with the theme for the thread, also, that length of time, she should be comfortable in her own skin and with you. They always have to make something a goddamn show, it's the worst. You know her much better than I, but I wouldn't get married, period, having done it before, and for sure you shouldn't marry a woman with those silly type of requirements. Look at this situation as a barometer to see how she gets down. Then, imagine 40 plus years of the shyt, or getting your pockets destroyed in a divorce. Act accordingly.

 

[G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman]

No disrespect, but that's ridiculous. Me ex-wife was always on me to "do something". Now that something is starting over in her new city. With her attitude...yikes...

When those type of broads take their exit out your life they're doing you a favor. You might not recognize it at the time but you will once you see you have more money on hand and more time doing shyt that YOU actually like to do with YOUR time.

 

[G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman]

Staying indoors driving em crazy

 

[mag357]

My fiancée was getting angsty yesterday so we had a date night in. Ordered some food and we both dressed up. Kind of corny but it worked

I mean... if that's something u wanted to do, then cool.
If that was you bending and doing some shyt u really wasnt feeling then

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

women who say then need to be entertained are boring and have no hobbies

they hate their own company

I avoid them religiously.

 

[MikelArteta]

Staying indoors driving em crazy

cant manipulate men into free dinners anymore

 

[TripleAgent]

Also....nothing worse than a woman that feels that she's missing something when she stays in the house on the weekends.

This usually is the case with women society deem attractive like 8's to dimes. They look on IG and see others taking trips and feel they gotta do the same.

It's no coincidence that attractive women travel more...it's because men are more willing to sponsor that shyt. Like Jay-Z said "Got damn she fine but she parties all the time".

When those type of broads take their exit out your life they're doing you a favor. You might not recognize it at the time but you will once you see you have more money on hand and more time doing shyt that YOU actually like to do with YOUR time.

These are facts. My ex would hate on her friends, randoms, whoever, and look at me to make her life some glamorous shyt. She had the nerve to tell me I need to work harder and make more money to improve her life, and had no kids. I'm like "what are you doing"? I just wish I cut my losses earlier. She made me feel wack until I realized she would never be satisfied and I stopped that shyt. Either I invented some shyt and got rich, hit the lottery, or had to hear that bullshyt. Out she went

 

[ThrobbingHood]

women who say then need to be entertained are boring and have no hobbies

they hate their own company

I avoid them religiously.

Those boring women try and treat men like a PlayStation whilst bringing nothing but their p*ssy to the table. No personality, no intellect but expect us to carry the conversation.

 

[G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman]

cant manipulate men into free dinners anymore

shyt don't hit the same when they get them Applebees takeout offers from dudes that want to eat that shyt in the house together where they can't be seen and there's close proximity to the bedroom

 

[Drew Wonder]

I mean... if that's something u wanted to do, then cool.
If that was you bending and doing some shyt u really wasnt feeling then

I probably should’ve added more context but I literally took a shower, put jeans on and a button down and ordered food on Caviar lol. She had cooked for me the past few nights while I was working from home so it was something to switch it up.

I ain’t trying to fukk up the vibe in this thread though so I’ll bounce

 

[G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman]

These are facts. My ex would hate on her friends, randoms, whoever, and look at me to make her life some glamorous shyt. She had the nerve to tell me I need to work harder and make more money to improve her life, and had no kids. I'm like "what are you doing"? I just wish I cut my losses earlier. She made me feel wack until I realized she would never be satisfied and I stopped that shyt. Either I invented some shyt and got rich, hit the lottery, or had to hear that bullshyt. Out she went

Happens to the best of us breh...shyt only makes you wiser tho. And just remember...

 

[mag357]

Going out every weekend to eat at some random spot or dance at some loud ass club or just shop just to shop is draining

It'd be nice if she can have hobbies and go do things, outside of me, without bothering me to come along EVERY time.

I cannot be your source of entertainment. If only they could see how we feel through our efforts

I as an introvert have to continuously step out of my comfort zone (comfy home) to go plan something that I'm not really interested in to drive down and wait (she's still getting ready) to pickup and drive an easily bored extrovert to an unknown pricey place during which I'll have to keep her entertained and then obviously pay or else it means I'm boring/stingy or not into her.

It's just a lot. And as I become more content on my own, I start wondering why it gotta be like this?

It's a cruel game.

You either enjoy being by yourself and miss out on a great wife/life or Go out dating to find that wife, get jaded and realize they're nowhere to be found if not dating morons who caught them first

Where are the women who look good and have their lives together not needing you to fulfill their social lives?

That bolded tho....

I've started asking that question some years ago.
And when u find the answer, you know that women are built wit a serious flaw.

Can a beautiful women (or any women for that matter) not want search for attention.
And the more attractive the woman is, does she seek more attention?

All you gotta do is just go outside and get ur answer

 

[mag357]

I probably should’ve added more context but I literally took a shower, put jeans on and a button down and ordered food on Caviar lol. She had cooked for me the past few nights while I was working from home so it was something to switch it up.

I ain’t trying to fukk up the vibe in this thread though so I’ll bounce

Nah... why u say that?

If u have an opinion that's different, I think the board should hear it.

When I was in a relationship, ages ago... i would do different things like that. Things that I thought was cool, no problems.

But still females definitely have a hard time just chillin for long periods of time lol

 

[Drew Wonder]

Nah... why u say that?

If u have an opinion that's different, I think the board should here it.

When I was in a relationship, ages ago... would do different things like that. Things that I thought was cool, no problems.

And she wasnt heavy on being entertained. So those females exist, albeit, a very small percentage.

I hear you, I’m not in the mental space right now for online debates, but I’ll say this. Before this relationship the longest I’d been with someone was a few months, mainly for the reasons mentioned in this thread. I’d get annoyed easily, preferred being on my own and get tired of having to think of shyt to do all the time

The reason why things are clicking for me this time around is I’m with someone who is way more emotionally intelligent as far as knowing when to give me space and when to just chill. Helps that she can cook her ass off too. But, I’ve learned to compromise a lot more and be mindful of things that she needs while she’s mindful of what I need. It’s good to be comfortable but every now and then you gotta switch it up, do something spontaneous to keep the spark going. I thought initially that the “spark” thing was purely for women but nah, I need that too, especially having never been in a serious relationship before this one. I’m very reactive when it comes to relationships so when I feel like she’s bored or disinterested I start feeling the same toward her.

Obviously you shouldn’t be with some one who wants to always do shyt and isn’t comfortable just chilling but if she’s reasonable (by your standard) then there’s nothing wrong with switching things up every now and then.

Now if you can’t tolerate going out at all, ain’t nothing wrong with that either but I’d advise not being in a relationship then.