Why is it so hard for women to just chill and not feel the need to "do something"??

[Standing on business]

Bumping this thread. Literally bout to lose my mind with this shyt right here man. Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more. Currently stressed out at work and working OT, was told I would be getting a raise and promotion, but now they saying end of the year, and trying to find a new job and she's hitting me with we haven't gone on a date in a while and saying it dosent have to cost money we can go to a Salsa class. I said you know damn well if we do that you gonna want to get Sangraia and shyt after wards she laughed and said you right . Nagging continued so I said, okay we can go shopping next week. That calmed her for a little, till Wednesday, I come home stressed from work and this mf starts talking about she wants to buy mad furniture and draws etc literally talking about it for hours. So now I'm thinking oh great more money to spend.

Typing this before I hit the bar or try to find a late night gym cuz I don't know if I can be here tonight. We go out today for this block party shyt, she talking about her birthday (she turns 30) her b day is 2 days before mine, and asking me what i'm getting and what she wants. I said okay just send me a list. We go to a bar, she keep talking about fukking Mexico City and she had a good time, i said I don't want to go but fine i'll go. She says well you never plan anything and we haven't taken any trips this summer. It took nearly everything in my body to not to do vintage Chris Brown.

Social media has done a number on this new gen. I imagine she's looking at IG stories and seeing everyone always on vacation and always out and about, she feels like she's missing out. They feel like failures if they aint taking vacations every quarter

 

[MajesticLion]

Bumping this thread. Literally bout to lose my mind with this shyt right here man. Plan to propose in August, Literally have limited savings now because we moved in and the rent is more. Currently stressed out at work and working OT, was told I would be getting a raise and promotion, but now they saying end of the year, and trying to find a new job and she's hitting me with we haven't gone on a date in a while and saying it dosent have to cost money we can go to a Salsa class. I said you know damn well if we do that you gonna want to get Sangraia and shyt after wards she laughed and said you right . Nagging continued so I said, okay we can go shopping next week. That calmed her for a little, till Wednesday, I come home stressed from work and this mf starts talking about she wants to buy mad furniture and draws etc literally talking about it for hours. So now I'm thinking oh great more money to spend.

Typing this before I hit the bar or try to find a late night gym cuz I don't know if I can be here tonight. We go out today for this block party shyt, she talking about her birthday (she turns 30) her b day is 2 days before mine, and asking me what i'm getting and what she wants. I said okay just send me a list. We go to a bar, she keep talking about fukking Mexico City and she had a good time, i said I don't want to go but fine i'll go. She says well you never plan anything and we haven't taken any trips this summer. It took nearly everything in my body to not to do vintage Chris Brown.

Send that toddler back to the daycare from whence she came and


walk
away
NOW.

 

[JA_Carter]

Social media has done a number on this new gen. I imagine she's looking at IG stories and seeing everyone always on vacation and always out and about, she feels like she's missing out. They feel like failures if they aint taking vacations every quarter

Literally, taking your girl overseas for her birthday used to be a big deal but now it’s the ‘bare minimum’. I love travelling but it seems once you start with them the more they expect. This even applies to ‘good women’. Honestly, I’m starting to think a girl that doesn’t consume Tik Tok/instagram is the best woman to settle with, but that’s so rare especially if she’s under 30 and remotely fine

 

[3rdWorld]

All of this
I got into it with my chick because she wanted me to drive her to her appointment just so she can say we did something together. Her appointment is an hour away and we been driving around all weekend. I tell her I thought about it and decided not to go and she made it seem like I broke a 30 year promise to her.

This appointment had zero to do with me and I make sure to do shyt with her. They are very fukking selfish with how they think you should spend your time. Anything that isn’t doing something with them is you wasting your life away, it’s like you can’t just have fun doing nothing without them because they have no fukking hobbies other than social media and talking on the phone

Had this exact discussion yesterday with friends..that you should never make the mistake of coming home from any event and revealing to your lady you had a great time..

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

What do yall want from a relationship? Steady sex, and a her to be your maid, and chef? Women like wearing nice clothes, and doing stuff WITH YOU. This is why y’all get called boring, but think she wants a street dude who does drive bys. They want the experience of the activity WITH you. Doing things together gives you memories, and more things to talk about (yes, she said that to me when I asked why we had to do stuff). Where are y’all meeting women if you don’t do anything but work, and sit around the house? This is why “male lonliness” exists. Most of the time when I’m out, I see other couples, and groups of women. Meanwhile, y’all are in the house complaining about women not wanting to sit around and watch movies and play video games. Relationships are about compromise. There are all kinds of things I don’t want to do, but I do them because wants to. Everything doesn’t have to be expensive. Local festivals, trade shows, running errands together and getting Chipotle, are all normal things couples do. At least once a month, take her somewhere nice, and the other weekends chill, or do something simple.

 

[Rayzah]

What do yall want from a relationship? Steady sex, and a her to be your maid, and chef? Women like wearing nice clothes, and doing stuff WITH YOU. This is why y’all get called boring, but think she wants a street dude who does drive bys. They want the experience of the activity WITH you. Doing things together gives you memories, and more things to talk about (yes, she said that to me when I asked why we had to do stuff). Where are y’all meeting women if you don’t do anything but work, and sit around the house? This is why “male lonliness” exists. Most of the time when I’m out, I see other couples, and groups of women. Meanwhile, y’all are in the house complaining about women not wanting to sit around and watch movies and play video games. Relationships are about compromise. There are all kinds of things I don’t want to do, but I do them because wants to. Everything doesn’t have to be expensive. Local festivals, trade shows, running errands together and getting Chipotle, are all normal things couples do. At least once a month, take her somewhere nice, and the other weekends chill, or do something simple.

I get that you are speaking to extremes and dudes that don’t like to do shyt
But I’m speaking from the standpoint of the average guy, we can go out 5 weekends in a row and if there is something she wants to do or a nephew has a birthday on weekend 6 she will except you to do that shyt to. And because it’s family it doesn’t count. They are only cool with you chilling if they ain’t got shyt else to do aswell.

I get it there are some dusty ass dudes that never want to go out but at the same time a lot of us don’t want to be out all the time. And as soon as we get together to vent someone comes in and tells us to get over it

 

[beenz]

I’m in Cali with my girl and I’ve spent over $700 just doing “stuff” because she can’t sit still. I just left Malibu sweating bullets at this expensive ass restaurant because she just kept ordering. Tab was $200 for some lil ass food.

I just wanted to chill with my folks out here. Smoke and eat in and out burgers and walk the strip.

sometimes I be like fukk this shyt yo

it's the WORST when u take them to a restaurant and start ordering hella drinks on top of paying for a meal. there's a reason I NEVER order alcohol from sit down restaurants. its cuz two drinks cost more than your entire meal. plus those cocktails ain't gonna even have me tipsy. my girl LOVES to order 2 or 3 drinks each time we go out, I'm like

we can have a drink later when we get to my crib, where the alcohol is already purchased and free.

 

[beenz]

I remember I started dating this chick I went to college with like a month before the covid lockdown.

that was low key phenomenal because for the first time EVER, there was no pressure to have to go to this place and take her out to that place, cuz everything was closed

yeah everyone eventually got bored, but it was a nice change to not always be having to plan something to do.

 

[Diunx]

The worse its when they start whinning about going out on a weekday in a fukkinh city that still have traffic jams at 9 pm

 

[International Playa]

I enjoy going out on dates 1-2 a month.

I cant be with a woman who ALWAYS wants to be out doing something or always want to go on vacation, going on 3-5 vacations a year, just so she can have content to post on social media

My lady is happy with 1-2 dates a month, chilling at home or doing free stuff like picnics in the park, walk, days out at the beach etc

 

[The ADD]

I get that you are speaking to extremes and dudes that don’t like to do shyt
But I’m speaking from the standpoint of the average guy, we can go out 5 weekends in a row and if there is something she wants to do or a nephew has a birthday on weekend 6 she will except you to do that shyt to. And because it’s family it doesn’t count. They are only cool with you chilling if they ain’t got shyt else to do aswell.

I get it there are some dusty ass dudes that never want to go out but at the same time a lot of us don’t want to be out all the time. And as soon as we get together to vent someone comes in and tells us to get over it

Cut your loses and move on with a chick that doesn’t like to do as much. Life is too short to be miserable.

 

[Rayzah]

Cut your loses and move on with a chick that doesn’t like to do as much. Life is too short to be miserable.

No that’s not the point smh.

 

[badboys11]

I remember being young and in love but broke and my girl wanted to go out and do things 7 days a week. We didn't have the money. I ended up getting left at home by myself while she goes out drinking at 21+ for men, 18+ women spots, clubs I couldn't even get into. Sent her back home to her parents.

Later on I start making money, best times I had was with girls who at the least would come pick me up and take care of driving. I'm paying for everything else. It's hard when your girl wants to just take take take and u already hit the p*ssy 100+times. Yes u wanna go out constantly cause u never pay for anything

As the years have gone on the girls have gotten more like children. Doesn't matter the career, they never pay for anything unless it's to prove a point and they all have money problems. I know a girl who went to Europe and was on national TV going to the best yachts+resorts but got stranded and ran out of money begging people to pick her up from a random airport. She needed a place to stay cause she couldn't afford her mortgage and was renting her house out. Makes 200k a year and was dead broke with nowhere to go

The amount of men I've seen lose control cause they wives won't stop spending money and going places when they working. It's easier to stack money single by yourself and not care about the women u fukk and that's a sad state of affairs

 

[The ADD]

Go on @Rayzah

 

[NobodyReally]

Sounds like y'all are just choosing incompatible partners. People who like to do stuff should be with people who like to do stuff. If you like to sit on the couch and are a homebody, there are plenty of women who like to do that too. I guess the real problem is how do you meant homebodies if they aren't out or willing to go out? lol. So maybe they need a homebody app just for that crowd.