why is it the meaner you act to a female the more she wants you
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truer wrods have never been spoken
i did this rookie mistake not too long ago with a girl i wanted to hook up...
i fukked it up giving the impression i was too clingy and the girl thought i was falling in love with her and shyt...
.she was kinda wrong though, i was just curious as to why she stopped calling or messaging me...
the thing is that it's in my nature, whenever i am interested in something i give all my undivided attention and energy to that thing or subject...and she took it as that i was falling for her, and she wasn't ready for it...to the bushes...
Im the same way.. I hit a bunch of chicks... but I have to fight against urges.... if im really interested.
lol, i had this discussion with my girl. she told me my views on woman were screwed up. the rest of the conversation went like this:
me: before we started dating, you had a selection of guys that you could choose from right?
her: yes, isn't that normal?
me: out of those guys, i was your top pick. you always had time for me, you immediately texted me back, and you regulalry texted me first, right?
her: yes.
me: you didn't do this for the other guys though, did you? you flaked on them, you took your time responding, and you only texted them when you were bored, right?
her: well, i liked you the best.
me: so those other dudes were your fall back guys, right?
her: well, i wouldn't call them that...
me: they were the guys you entertained, in case me and you didn't work out
her: well... maybe... i mean, they were nice and all, but i liked you the best.
me: well, then why did you keep talking to them?
her: well, they kept hitting me up.
me: they were really nice to you, weren't they.
her: yes, of course, they liked me.
me: that didn't get them any further though, did it?
her: no, because i liked you the best.
me: you knew you had those guys in your pocket already, right?
her: well, kind of yes, but i was just more interested in you.
me: was i nice to you?
her: no, you were a total a$$hole!
me: why would you say that?
her: well you never texted me, and you laughed at me, and you were the only one i had to chase after, all the others chased after me. i never knew if you liked me at all.
me:
her: remember when we met for drinks st this bar? i tried everything to get you to take me to your place, but you got drunk and send me home.
me:
her: you didn't even walk me home, you just said bye and left. i thought you were either gay or had another girl waiting for you. but a gay guy would have had the decency to walk me home.
me: but i was the most interesting.
her: well, yes..., you were just different...
me: because i wasn't nice
her: i mean yes, but not only that
me: and i never chased after you
her: maybe
me: and you wanted to make me like you
her: obviously
me: even though the other guys were much nicer, and chasing you, and trying to make you like them. you didn't try to make them like you.
her: i didn't have to make them like me, they already did.
me: case in point
mate you just hit the nail in the head with my current situation, the only difference is that in time I became one of the nice guys you mentioned..seeing the amount of attention I got, i said that i'm already in, but i was wrong...right now i know it is already too late to change back my situation, but I'm trying seeing that i am still interested in her... atleast i'm not showing her all that much attention..... but she ain't showing either, so it is a lost cause...to the bushes maybe and on to the next one
i didn't, so I fukked up...but hey, atleast some valuable lessons to be learned from this situation
Jone2three45
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Nice guys finish last or even most of the time never make it to the finish line.
All females ain't the same.
Some like 2 be treated like dog shyt and it make they honey cave wett.
Some like that lovey dovey shyt.
Sayin' all bytches like nikkas 2 treat em' like shyt like saying all nikkas love fried chicken n watermelon.
Some like 2 be treated like dog shyt and it make they honey cave wett.
Some like that lovey dovey shyt.
Sayin' all bytches like nikkas 2 treat em' like shyt like saying all nikkas love fried chicken n watermelon.
"Girls only say I hate you to the guys that they love" 
A girl I have been off and on talking to for a while, I flaked on according to her 3 times this summer, yet she still puts up with me. Still likes all my new insta post and only replies to my comments on her pictures when I call her a thot
. While you have another 5 guys telling her how beautiful she is, she completely ignores. Be nice to women in 2014 brehs 
I have never had any relations with a girl that has called me nice. Call me a jerk, a$$hole, or "bad" and I'm in that thang
A girl I have been off and on talking to for a while, I flaked on according to her 3 times this summer, yet she still puts up with me. Still likes all my new insta post and only replies to my comments on her pictures when I call her a thot
. While you have another 5 guys telling her how beautiful she is, she completely ignores. Be nice to women in 2014 brehs I have never had any relations with a girl that has called me nice. Call me a jerk, a$$hole, or "bad" and I'm in that thang
Mr.Forte
Banned
Treat them like dirt and they stick to you like mud, women don't respect gentlemen until their p*ssy is loose .
This is why I am the way I am. I get called mean or uninterested all the time but I let them know I have a horrible attention span and if you aren't piquing my interest, this is how I respond to it. Letting them know how difficult it is to hold your attention, while simultaneously making it aware that you have other options who will make the effort creates a very primal drive to be competitive (if you are attractive enough to her). Women are just as competitive as men in that regard and it will make her want to show you why you SHOULD be interested in her. I think its healthy to create that sensation with a woman. Its usually a NEW experience for her b/c most men can't/won't do it and it keeps the energy volatile (in a good way) between you two. My responsibility is to curve her, but never too hard and to make sure I'm receptive when we go out. She will also be more willing to open up and let loose even if she normally wouldn't like the plans made and those will usually be the most fun dates you will go on because she just wants you to have fun so damn bad. Thus proving her point while also enjoying the company you provided with her in return. It keeps the sexual tension high and makes her feel like she "won" over the other women you had which subconsciously makes your time, a prize to her victory......
me: and i never chased after you
her: maybe
me: and you wanted to make me like you
her: obviously
me: even though the other guys were much nicer, and chasing you, and trying to make you like them. you didn't try to make them like you.
her: i didn't have to make them like me, they already did.
me: case in point
If you end up in a relationship, it will be healthy and fun. You two will be accustomed to trying different things and going different places. You go to new restaurants all the time, work out together, can hang with eachother's friends (mostly). It also will make her see herself as capable and strong. This will create a woman who is comfortable with the relationship and not be a jealous ass woman because she KNOWS that she showed you how great she is and won't be worried about "another woman" when you go out with friends, even another woman friend. She's confident in her worth and the relationship's worth (usually). And you don't have the added stress of a clingy, jealous woman or another dude stepping in when she has invested that energy and that you were the one who opened her up to it (you have to tell her how things are the way they are) so long as she sees the man that created that drive in her, in you.
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