"Why you fukking me but not helping"?....you see me doing bad but don't wanna help"

[Ya' Cousin Cleon]

Man, sounds like life just happens and people make a mountain out of a mole hill

I don't agree with this. Too many times I've heard of older women rushing into relationships, trying to have kids, and marriage. You get with a woman over 30 be prepared for those questions in a span of 3 years. Best believe it'll happen. And then there's the older women who more times than not bring more baggage aka kids and baby daddies.

If you not the type to mess with younger women, 24-27 is the sweet spot.

 

[The Realist Perspective]

You're framing it as it is FOR YOU...where YOU ARE constantly exchanging money for sex. That is not my reality by any means and not the reality of many other men in the world. I got a text in my phone right now of a chick talking about she was day dreaming about sucking my dikk. She'll spend her own gas money to come suck my dikk so what is you really talking about? You sound like one too many bytches got the best of you and now you're jaded.



I haven't read everything you’ve said in the thread so I’m sorry if you’ve already addressed this but caring for someone you’re sexually active with and supporting them are two separate things. This chick wants someone to support her and I don’t see how you could have that expectation simply because you’re sexually involved with someone.

If her life isn’t panning out properly, it’s on her to course correct not on the people she’s sleeping with.

I think the problem is you lack reading comprehension. I have women in my phone too down to do whatever I'd like as well... your point is?

Time and time again you fail to acknowledge, you've spent some money some way some how in order to get those women in your phone to move how they are moving. You took them out on a date, you got them drinks, you did SOMETHING. That was the original point. I don't know how I can make myself any more clear to you.

 

[Astroslik]

On the bright side its rare to run into these types of chicks past the age of 30.

What? They’re the most desperate ones, especially if they have kids.

 

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I agree with you actually and I think it's healthy for a woman to expect that the men she gives her body to care about her. You also summed it up when you said she's "simping with her p*ssy" I think that was eloquently put. But in the end and not to belabor the point, a woman has to earn that role and with a dude like me, it won't be through sex. If you're a ratchet hoe and every 5 minutes you're sending me nasty hoe-ish memes, always sending me ass and tit pics, always telling me you want to fukk...don't expect me to regard you as a lady worthy of protecting.

I have this ratchet chick on my roster right now and she said "Im gonna wear some thot-ish shyt around you just to see how you react" and I said "you can do whatever you want, you just won't be going out with me..." and then I hit her with the Dave Chappelle line "If you don't want people to think you're a cop, don't dress like one". If I was talking to my daughter I would give her the same advice you're giving...don't sleep or even associate with people who don't care for your well-being, I think it's great advice. BUUUUUUUUT if you want to be under the protection of a respectable man, make sure you're a respectable lady.

Yep. All of this! Times 20!

400+EXP
Caught shivers reading this.

 

[Deuterion]

I think the problem is you lack reading comprehension. I have women in my phone too down to do whatever I'd like as well... your point is?

Time and time again you fail to acknowledge, you've spent some money some way some how in order to get those women in your phone to move how they are moving. You took them out on a date, you got them drinks, you did SOMETHING. That was the original point. I don't know how I can make myself any more clear to you.

No, I get you but where we differ is why I spend the money. I spend the money to do activities THAT I LIKE to see if my guest is someone who I would like to get to know further. I could accomplish the same exact thing for free by taking the woman out for a picnic and then walk down the beach, next date to a free museum, another date to a free concert in the park and still build the requisite rapport to make things sexual. I'm not spending money to have sex, I'm spending it to court a woman, the money allows me to give experiences that may make our time more memorable. Anyone can have a picnic on the beach, it's free...but taking a hot air balloon ride in back of a vineyard you just had wine tasting at is something you will always remember. Maybe this is all semantics but I never spend money to have sex, I spend money to have good experiences...and some of these good experiences result in me having sex, some result in us parting ways.

 

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I think the problem is you lack reading comprehension. I have women in my phone too down to do whatever I'd like as well... your point is?

Time and time again you fail to acknowledge, you've spent some money some way some how in order to get those women in your phone to move how they are moving. You took them out on a date, you got them drinks, you did SOMETHING. That was the original point. I don't know how I can make myself any more clear to you.

I KNEW IT!
All that finesse you was spitting in them earlier posts.

How many chicks done fell for that shyt in your phone right now?!

HMMM....
Sittin around over you!

You ain’t foolin me! Lol
Ole “look at it this way” head ass.

Next thing you know a chick sittin on your couch in her drawers.

I’m watching you.

 

[deep]

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[Secure Da Bag]

I have personally only had sex with three black men my entire life. And I knew each of them for more than 4 years of was in a serious relationship with 2 out of the 3 before I ever became intimate with them.

I’ve tried this shyt before. I know what it’s like to get horny and be like “lemme try the dikk out”. But It don’t work for me and the sex isn’t even satisfying. I’m not set up to just fukk people I don’t care about who don’t care about me.

You've had sex with 3 black men in your entire life, but had a few more booty calls.... with who? You out here accepting members like the UN?

She’s alone and wants love and affection and is hoping for some type of Full Metal Alchemist type transmutation of a bussdown situation becoming a family dynamic.

Dudes know this shyt and just keep leaving nuts behind in these types of chicks raw and everybody in the equation wrong as hell.

This here is gawd-body prose.

 

[Saltmoney]

Yeah when I was down bad and broke I just stayed single. And worked on myself. It’s irresponsible to look for love / sex while broke.

I wouldn't necessarily say that it's irresponsible to look for love/sex while being broke as those things are basic human needs that one is trying to fulfill.

The expectation to find someone to save them is what's wrong with lots of people nowadays. The motivation should be to find someone who cares about you personally and go from there.

I just reject the idea that you as an outsider can come on the scene and be allowed in close proximity to someone's kids, while your whole intention is just sex and then don't even have the decency to outsource the location.

Women who invite guys over to their place just to fukk and without truly knowing the guy they're giving their and her kids address to are scum!

She tried to make plans for me to help her mount some TVs without asking me to help her out prior. I immediately checked her, said dont make plans for me. I have no problem helping her, just ask a nikka that's all

She said verbatim: "I figured since you're the man I'm fukking, it wouldn't be a problem if I made plans for you. And if I can't then why am I fukking you then "

After that exchange, I fell back from her immediately.

shyt high-key changed my entire perspective of her, and this a woman over 30, with this outdated mentality.

Alot of women think they can use sex as currency instead of acting like decent humans who communicate what their expectations are.

What's outdated about that mentality?

Men treat and accept sex as currency as well; The posts on here complaining about a women not giving it up after a date even though the guy paid for the date are plentiful!
They're mad about women not holding up their part of the "deal" aka, "I take you out so you let me in!" [/QUOTE]

 

[mamba]

I don’t know when it became cool for women to call dudes nikkas and cuss up and down like dudes. shyt is just smh.

I was watching the boxing match last night and the loudest person in the spot was a woman who was talking just like a man.

Our women sound very masculine in their language nowadays.

It’s not sexy at all.

 

[ÆTHER]

The chick in the OP obviously wants something beyond just sex. So she doesn’t need to have sex with men who only want to have sex with her.

You and others have overcomplicated this because many want to support a culture where they get want they want with minimal effort.

If she was cool with sex for sex, I wouldn’t even care. But obviously she’s not, and expressing that she isn’t so she and any other woman who wants more should move differently with men who care about them.
And of course money doesn’t necessarily equal care, but so do take care of financial needs for those they care about. Some take pride in doing so.

She should get that instead of fukking with a dude who doesn’t give a damn about her...and then crying about him not caring about her.

But the point has never been that she should be having sex with guys for the sake of having sex with them or sex in exchange for sex. I never said that guys shouldn't put in effort or should get what they want with minimal effort.

You fancy a strawman and you'll drag it out as long as possible so you can shift the original subject to something that fits your argument. It's not going to work here because I'm not the type to forget about what I said to defend an imaginary argument I didn't make.

What I said and I repeat is that she should have her financial affairs in order. She sounds like a bum that needs to learn to take responsibility of her own life. How does a man get a woman whose finances are in order with minimal effort? You don't think there wouldn't still be demands? You don't think she wouldn't have expectations? You don't think she wouldn't still have preferences that would most likely disqualify the majority of men anyway and by extension Coli posters? Wouldn't limiting financial dependency make it harder for men? Even if she still wants a partner to spend on her wouldn't that raise the bar in terms of what people spend their money on in order to court her? Wouldn't that help with her self esteem?

As far as I'm concerned she shouldn't be fukking at all because she's barely an adult, she comes off as a loser and the path she's on is one where she'll end up with losers because she's under the impression that sex is a get out of jail free card from learning actual fundamental skills for navigating life such as budgeting and saving.

So no I'm not expecting her or women like her to give sex for nothing in return because I'm saying that her main priority should be fixing her life and not attempting to leverage sex for quick fixes. If she chooses to spread her legs for someone then she shouldn't be expecting people to manage her life for her just because she decided to sleep with them. You came in here to rail on men taking advantage of women like her who don't have their shyt together and saying these are the women we turn into baby mommas and shyt whilst arguing with people who've all said that she should have her shyt together independent of a man which would mean that they'd have nobody to take advantage of . So apparently Coli predators are putting themselves out of work with their statements in this thread.

The way you've been talking actually makes me wonder if you bothered to read any of the posts (except for the OP) which preceded yours in this thread or if you're just dizzy because you wanted to project yourself all over her situation.

Either way I'll let you have the last word.

 

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You've had sex with 3 black men in your entire life, but had a few more booty calls.... with who? You out here accepting members like the UN?





This here is gawd-body prose.

I tried the booty call life with one of the three. Fukk you Megan Thee Stallion! Only thing you make is cappin music. Ain’t no hot girl summer over here! #squarechickwintergang

I can’t fukk a beautiful man who makes me laugh, is intelligent, sweet to me and not be in my feelings! I’m not bout that life.And ain’t gotta lie to anybody or prove shyt to anybody for the internet. Some chicks can and are ice cold wit it. But not I. If we even get that far it means I’ve known you for a LOOOOONG ass time and if u in my life like that chances are I’m feeling u heavy. If a chick take these Coli bro babble advice, they’ll be outchea looking crazy as hell like that chick in the OP.

Nikkas be deep stroking, lookin u in yo eye and doing shyt. I’m only human! I know my limitations! I’m too emotionally open for shyt like that.
This whole thread is why some of ya’ll got stalkers right now! Keep your good dikk and your promises away from me!

Ya’ll just wanna add chicks to your rosters and have em cryin over you!

 

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But the point has never been that she should be having sex with guys for the sake of having sex with them or sex in exchange for sex. I never said that guys shouldn't put in effort or should get what they want with minimal effort.

You fancy a strawman and you'll drag it out as long as possible so you can shift the original subject to something that fits your argument. It's not going to work here because I'm not the type to forget about what I said to defend an imaginary argument I didn't make.

What I said and I repeat is that she should have her financial affairs in order. She sounds like a bum that needs to learn to take responsibility of her own life. How does a man get a woman whose finances are in order with minimal effort? You don't think there wouldn't still be demands? You don't think she wouldn't have expectations? You don't think she wouldn't still have preferences that would most likely disqualify the majority of men anyway and by extension Coli posters? Wouldn't limiting financial dependency make it harder for men? Even if she still wants a partner to spend on her wouldn't that raise the bar in terms of what people spend their money on in order to court her? Wouldn't that help with her self esteem?

As far as I'm concerned she shouldn't be fukking at all because she's barely an adult, she comes off as a loser and the path she's on is one where she'll end up with losers because she's under the impression that sex is a get out of jail free card from learning actual fundamental skills for navigating life such as budgeting and saving.

So no I'm not expecting her or women like her to give sex for nothing in return because I'm saying that her main priority should be fixing her life and not attempting to leverage sex for quick fixes. If she chooses to spread her legs for someone then she shouldn't be expecting people to manage her life for her just because she decided to sleep with them. You came in here to rail on men taking advantage of women like her who don't have their shyt together and saying these are the women we turn into baby mommas and shyt whilst arguing with people who've all said that she should have her shyt together independent of a man which would mean that they'd have nobody to take advantage of . So apparently Coli predators are putting themselves out of work with their statements in this thread.

The way you've been talking actually makes me wonder if you bothered to read any of the posts (except for the OP) which preceded yours in this thread or if you're just dizzy because you wanted to project yourself all over her situation.

Either way I'll let you have the last word.

You can have your financial issues in order and still need help. ESPECIALLY in times like this. And to be honest, I don’t care what it was. If somebody need help, they need help and there’s nothing wrong with wanting the person you are intimate with to care about you enough to give it when you need it.

As for your other statements, I also agree that she shouldn’t be having sex at all as well. Which is why I initially mentioned her lack of self-esteem and how she messed up for not communicating these needs to her partner before having sex with him. But all of that was obscured by dudes getting uber sensitive as soon as anybody calls them out for dealing with these types in the first place for easy sex.

 

[Astroslik]

You've had sex with 3 black men in your entire life, but had a few more booty calls.... with who? You out here accepting members like the UN?





This here is gawd-body prose.

Only had sex with three black men, which means she mostly sleeps with no black men, yet she dikk polices brehs.

y’all going to learn about this chick

 

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Yall read this. Might as well shut most of this forum down right now because this take pretty much solves 90% of the issues posted about on here.