humminbird
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like someone else said I wouldn't pay for sex
there's gotta be a place where single mid 30's people hang out
hopefully someone can name that spot
Women and Cold Approaching
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there's gotta be a place where single mid 30's people hang out
hopefully someone can name that spot
YaThreadFloppedB!
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there’s your first step, breh. Gotta take care of the weight
you don’t have to join a gym to lose weight either. you can do calisthenics at home and for cardio just go on extended walks in your neighborhood or local park. Then work your way up to jogging.
for diet, look into intermittent fasting. Also cut the soda and juice out. They provide zero nutritional value. You can substitute juice for healthy smoothies from time to time. But water is key.
The weight will shed
You’ll gain confidence as well.
I'd hate to entice anyone to pick up vices but a shot or two of alcohol or hitting a couple of puffs of a blunt should mellow you out and calm your anxiety. When I attend high stress events or have to see high stress clients, I do the same.
I would find a Toastmasters Club near you to work on your communication and build your confidence there.
And didn't you tell me you lived near a college campus? Look up events there and attend and just work on starting conversations with people (take a shot or two or hit a blunt before you do) and see how that works out. Eventually, if you start attending more events and socializing, you will build up the confidence and not need any of the vices. Also, college campuses have loads of kids with social anxiety as well so you would be in good company practicing with them.
As for being a virgin. If it bothers you so much, then that's what escorts are for. There is no shame in it. We all have our different paths. From a religious standpoint, there is virtue there but that's another conversation.
I would find a Toastmasters Club near you to work on your communication and build your confidence there.
And didn't you tell me you lived near a college campus? Look up events there and attend and just work on starting conversations with people (take a shot or two or hit a blunt before you do) and see how that works out. Eventually, if you start attending more events and socializing, you will build up the confidence and not need any of the vices. Also, college campuses have loads of kids with social anxiety as well so you would be in good company practicing with them.
As for being a virgin. If it bothers you so much, then that's what escorts are for. There is no shame in it. We all have our different paths. From a religious standpoint, there is virtue there but that's another conversation.
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SnowflakesByTheOZ
Sorry, that's another B
Just pay for an escort bro, trust me. The fact that you're a virgin in your 30's means you ain't in the top or middle tier ranking of desirable men (sorry if that sounds harsh but it it what it is better you accept it and move accordingly). Detach yourself from wanting female validation completely, look into MGTOW.
As I said, if you want some cheeks, go pay for it and get it over with. From what you've told us of your situation women are either going to use you or you're going to have to jump through a million and one hoops to even get a kiss.
I want you to win bro
As I said, if you want some cheeks, go pay for it and get it over with. From what you've told us of your situation women are either going to use you or you're going to have to jump through a million and one hoops to even get a kiss.
I want you to win bro
Kyle C. Barker
Migos VERZUZ Mahalia Jackson
Easy short term fix
Plenty of fish.
In safer times, local dive bars can be easy pickings
You may not find quality in either but even the best of us have to step into the slow pitch batting cage before moving back to the big show.
Long term fix
Work on yourself. Make a better version of yourself in the weight room and in a fulfilling career and you'll gain confidence naturally.
What's your work schedule like @Dave24 ?
Plenty of fish.
In safer times, local dive bars can be easy pickings
You may not find quality in either but even the best of us have to step into the slow pitch batting cage before moving back to the big show.
Long term fix
Work on yourself. Make a better version of yourself in the weight room and in a fulfilling career and you'll gain confidence naturally.
What's your work schedule like @Dave24 ?
Goat poster
KANG LIFE
Cold approach is NOT going to go to well for you as a virgin with social anxiety.
YOU NEED TO FIND YOUR LANE.
What are your interest? Are there any groups or organizations with women you can join?
also be realistic, you don’t go from being a 35 year old virgin to smashing IG models unless you win the lotto.
Try to find a nice chick that’s into some of the same things you are.
YOU NEED TO FIND YOUR LANE.
What are your interest? Are there any groups or organizations with women you can join?
also be realistic, you don’t go from being a 35 year old virgin to smashing IG models unless you win the lotto.
Try to find a nice chick that’s into some of the same things you are.
DJ Paul's Arm
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Practice by talking to female workers at stores. Asking for help but really you don’t need it. Don’t come off creepy. Just talk about the product y’all are looking at.
blues_funk_reggae
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No. Please don't do this, man. Some creepy dude (nothing to do with his appearance, everything to do with his body language) cold approached me in the market last week while my fiancée was an isle over, and he got himself doubly humiliated when he refused to admit it was a simple mistake. It was a cringeworthy experience for all involved.
Go join a club or attend some social activity - I'm talking festivals, concerts, galas. You're not going to be well received if you're interrupting someone on a singular mission like buying cereal lol
. If you're a professional, join professional orgs. You can join Black orgs too. shyt I met my fiancée through a black professional org. Orgs and clubs establish that you've got something in common. You're anxious because you're not used to interacting with women as people. Which we are
. You're at an age where women your age are actively seeking long-term relationships, so you're in luck in terms of finding long-term companionship when you're ready. You should go and explore your options though. However, go interact with women without the aim being getting your dikk wet. You need to see it as a possible side effect of your interaction. Once you interact with them as people and don't let their womanhood distract you, you'll start making connections. Trust me when I say that lots of women are willing to overlook social awkwardness and such when they like you for who you are.Also, go get in shape. You'll feel a lot better about yourself when you're taking care of your body.
What celebrity do you resemble ?
How tall are you?
What's your favorite outfit you own?
What's your favorite color?
How tall are you?
What's your favorite outfit you own?
What's your favorite color?
This is ur issue....u need to socialize more with those who have similar issues. Plus u gotta gain more confidence and self-esteem. U need to gain more experience talking to women and people in general. U need to work on reducing the awkwardness and be with folks who have ur best interest. U would be more comfortable if u had more friends and associates who have ur best interest.
Do women and others consider u attractive? Are u physically healthy? U work out? U dress nice and becoming to ur body shape? Is ur hygiene sufficient? Those things matter too. But u need to work on ur socializing and people skills. Don't feel bad because I notice many people lacking social skills nowadays. Maybe see a counselor or self help group.
my only advice I can give you if you are socially awkward then cold approaching is not going to work for you lol.
i don't have answers on what will work, but i can confidently say that cold approaching won't. it rarely even works for dudes with the most confidence. most women in 2021 gonna think you a creep.
i don't have answers on what will work, but i can confidently say that cold approaching won't. it rarely even works for dudes with the most confidence. most women in 2021 gonna think you a creep.
OP you ain’t gonna do shyt. You’ve made this thread before and the year before and the year before. Said you was gonna lose weight but didn’t. Said you was gonna try to talk to girls but didn’t
Stop making the same thread every year fakkit. Not trying to be rude. You ain’t gonna do a damn thing. Next thing you know you will be 45 making this same thread
Edit: someone just replied two posts above me saying the same thing
Stop making the same thread every year fakkit. Not trying to be rude. You ain’t gonna do a damn thing. Next thing you know you will be 45 making this same thread
Edit: someone just replied two posts above me saying the same thing