Hey.... I'ma ask both of y'all this question... Because you guys are coming at it from different perspectives...
And are having a serious conversation...
Why is "having a woman" a thing ...?
Like if you got your shyt together, like treblemaker is saying...
There is no need to have like a real girlfriend or wife.
So why is it that people are always telling men to get a woman.
There's another thread with the same question but it's getting derailed badly...
What added value does a woman bring to a man that has his shyt together????
Its completely unnecessary unless you desire children. Children are the only reason any man would do that. I am not convinced of this soul mate true love nonsense though I would like to have my mind changed.
If you desire children then the responsible thing to do if you can is to establish the holy grail.
2 parent household.
aka marriage.
The Effects of Family Structure on Children
1. A solid, intact family structure can have a significantly positive impact on a child’s present and future wellbeing and offers countless benefits for both adults and children.
2. Children growing up in homes where two parents who have been married continuously are less likely to experience a wide range of problems (academic, social, emotional, cognitive), not only in childhood but later on in adulthood as well (Amato; Howard & Reeves,).
3. In two parent families, for example, children typically have access to more of the economic and community resources because parents are able to pool their time, money and energy; children tend to be more of the focus of the home.
4. Family intactness has also been shown to have a consistently positive influence on earnings for prime-age males and is one of the most important factors (or shared the place of greatest importance) for females and children in determining an area’s dependence on welfare programs that targets poverty.
5. Research also shows that family intactness has a beneficial influence on reducing out of wedlock births, increasing high school and college graduation rates, and even has long-term benefits such as higher employment rates.
6. Children living with married parents are more often involved in community activities such as soccer or other sports, take part in academic pursuits in local schools and other academic institutions that can lead to college, and eventually, a career.
7. Family intactness increases high school and college graduation rates, as well as high employment rates
8. Overall, intact families tend to be more stable; parents tend to be more involved in their children’s lives and are more highly invested in their children’s success.
9. Fathers of intact families spend, on average, more time with their children. They also enjoy greater family cohesion than peers with adopted children or stepchildren (Lansford, et al.). In summary, children living with both biological parents in a low-conflict marriage tend to do better on a host of outcomes than those living in step-parent families.
10. Children living with both biological parents are 20 to 35 percent more physically healthy than children from broken homes (Dawson).
11. Research shows that family structure is related to preschool children’s cognitive development skills. For example, a study by Kinard and Reinherz found that children from two parent homes had higher scores on verbal reasoning than those from single parent homes.
12. A study by Ginther and Pollack found that children growing up in intact families (traditional nuclear families) were more likely to graduate from high school and complete college compared to those who were raised in blended or single-parent homes.
13. Manning and Lamb found that adolescents in intact families had higher levels of academic achievement and were less likely to exhibit problem behaviors in school compared to peers living in homes where single mothers lived alone or with a cohabiting partner.
14. Following
divorce, children are 50 percent more likely to develop health problems than two parent families.
15. In homes with stepfathers, peers were more likely to have been suspended or expelled from school, more likely to have engaged in delinquent behavior, to have problems getting along with teachers, doing homework, paying attention in school, and have lower grade point averages than those living in intact homes.
16. Children of divorce are at a greater risk of experiencing injury, headaches, speech defects, and other health concerns than children whose parents have remained married (Dawson).
17. Clearly, children do best in a stable family environment where well-adjusted parents have established consistent routines for the home. On the other hand, an environment of turmoil where continual conflict, multiple school or parental employment changes are linked to lower levels of child well-being (Teachman)
18. Being raised in a married family reduced a child’s probability of living in poverty by about 82 percent.
19. The decline in two parent families has accounted for the three-fold increase in single parent homes, most often headed by single moms.
20. According to Pew Research, over half (57 percent) of those living with married parents were in households with incomes at least 200% above the poverty line, compared with just 21 percent of those living in single-parent households.
21. According to the U.S. Census, the poverty rate for single parents with children in the United States in 2009 was 37.1 percent. The rate for married couples with children was 6.8 percent. Rector called marriage one of the greatest weapons against child poverty.
Some one that wants a Lamborghini Gallardo but can only afford a Honda Accord isn't settling, that's all they can afford. 
