Women...How do you feel about "Dating Down"?
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Breh I've switched over to this mindset and my dating life has become so much more peaceful. I used to just chase pu$$y regardless of how the chic situation was and i put myself in some sketchy situations. But as I got out of that mode I realized that most of theses chics are really doing bad out here even the ones that make it look like they're living lavish on social media. Like alot of them are one bad day away from visiting the pay day loan place. But it is a numbers game there are more decent females out there than a solid breh that's on his square. I use that to my leverage and tell chics now that honestly you're not worth me dealing with especially if I have to elevate you up to my lifestyle that I grinded for.
The main issue with alot of the things you're saying in the beginning is none of those things really have anything to do with the man, himself.
Like it doesn't really benefit him.
The kids, the community, the woman...
It feels like as a man, we were just put here to sacrifice our lives and happiness for everyone else.
The truth is those kids only care when you're doing things for them.
That woman only cares if you can do things for her....
And they community could care less.
What does a man truly want?
For real... Take away all the shyt that other people think about what a man should want .
And be honest with yourself
WANT DOES A MAN REALLY WANT?
When I get into these convos... It's always
"Find a good woman and settle down VS Playboy/wildlife"
But that's not the only options.
And because men are brainwashed into thinking their life is for other people...
And are ashamed to be honest and say...
"I like fukking different woman sometimes"
"I like being by myself alot"
"I don't want to have to deal with a woman's bullshyt"
"fukk them Kids" lol
Once you get through the brainwashing, you realize there are more options than just Married and Playboy...
The crazy thing is I always tell my nikkaz "y'all nikkaz are playing checkers. Women are out here playing chess"
Because women got out of the brainwashing that society, their grandma's and mother's gave them...
And the finally said out loud what they want and what they don't want...
And there are unashamed and unafraid of how it looks now.
They're divorcing nikkaz at higher rates... fukking whoever they feel like.
Twerking whenever they feel like... Etc ...with no fukks given
And men are mad at them, but women are just showing their true colors...
Only men are still stuck in that old patriarchal, hoping to find a good wife and staying stuck in a miserable situation, until the kids are grown...
We gotta start playing Chess too
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Its trick poisoning. Enough simps, tricks in the inbox and believable ho cap will give a woman enough mental poisoning that she develops Cinderella syndrome. They think if they wait around long enough, Tupac in a business suit will show up and sweep them away into a life of luxury.For some reason a lot of women live in an alternate reality where even though they work as a CSR making 45k they...
* Lease a foreign with a co-signer
* Stay in a nice apartment off the strength of male assistance (child's father, simp, ect.)
* Used their tax money to get a BBL
...so in their minds (and on IG) they're a 6 figure bad bytch who looks at the 9-5 brother making 70k as a peon.
It's wild how a woman's mind can work...
Modern women forgot equality meant the same.
Women get away with living life in a manner a man would be called a loser, bum.
NOPE!
And real talk... That's a person who settles type of mentality... No disrespect.
If u didn't have the money for the lambo.... So u had to get the Honda..
You know that you're settling and it's fine... But you gonna go do what u gotta do to eventually get that lambo...
People try to front like they not settling because think they didn't have the means or the ability to get what they really want...
That's a weak mentality...
Let's use actual people and not cars...
If I got wants to be with Beyonce or saweetie or some equivalent to that. But he feels like he ain't got the look or money or whatever to get that type...
But he just gets a girl that he knows from school or work...
HE IS SETTLING
Even after setting...If he doesn't ever try to do things to put himself in a position to ever be with a Beyonce or saweetie...
Then he will forever be in a state of settling...
And this is the life of 95% of people
"Down" automatically means "Broke, in debt, 3 baby mommas, SSI, etc, etc"
Women making $150,000 don't wanna date a dude making less than $90,000 despite that being twice the average salary of black men.
I don't have a problem with it, either. Just the conversation gets to these shytty places, where "less than" a woman is bum status.
There's nothing wrong with working to get what you want, but at some point you have to be realistic. Not every kid is going to make it to the NBA, doesn't mean they can't find a fulfilling career elsewhere. You're mentality is partly why the black community is broken, you have a bunch of delusional people chasing a fantasy all the while overlooking people who could have been amazing for them.
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Some or even most women of this particular generation have a misconstrued definition of dating down and equate monetary wealth to quality over character, morals, goals. They'll even stoop as low as to fukking an ugly outta shape nikka making 6 figures or zaddys as a come up.
In essence, women that think or operate like that are the ones we over value in their opinion and date down to appease and entertain. Those women are called prostitutes and we're literally living in a generation we're both men and women are prostitutes and tricks and the essence of dating is gone.
I feel you...
But if you told people
"Nah, man...be realistic... It ain't goin to happen"
You'll never see some of the greatest things that people have accomplished....
But I get it .
Because if it wasn't for the majority, which is people with your mindset...
Then there would be no minority of people who set out and do great things because they didn't settle
And I've literally seen this type of shyt all my life...
There are some people who rather go after what they really want in life... And risk the possibility of failing miserably...
But it would hurt worse if they never tried, settled for mediocre, and average... And everyday wonder what could have been
Your take on settling is correct by definition but I still have to disagree.
I'll use jobs instead of people to explain the other brehs point of view.
You get 3 job offers for 100k, 60k and 40k. You take the 100k job which was the best offer you had. A year down the road you can't walk around saying you settled for the 100k job when it was the best you could get.
If you chose the 60k or 40k job, then you can say you settled because you had an offer for something better but declined it.
Everyone would love to be paid 1 million but not everyone has the means to get a 1 million dollar job or run a business that makes that. So we can't be walking around talking bout we settled for 100k when we know damn well we couldn't do better even if we feel we deserve 1 million.
Why would anyone pass on a better offer to settle for less if they had an option for something better? These people out here are not settling, they're taking the best they can get.
Gotcha,...
First... In your scenario...
If you had offers for jobs paying 100k, 60k and 40...
But you really wanted another job paying 200k...
You're settling if you're taking the 100k.
No matter if the 200k job wasn't the job being offered...
If you wanted it and didn't go get it....but chose the highest paid job you was offered (the 100k job) then you are settling and....
Thats where misery starts for the 5% of the population that has big dreams
That was a good analogy tho...
Cause most dudes are settling for the best thing that presents itself in life, when it comes to women....
Instead putting themselves in positions to get the women they really want.
So to sum it up ....
This is what you really want verses what options you have ...
Some people are cool with just the options..
And some people go get what they want...
Do you realize that options being presented is a way to control people to settle in life?
I'll give you an example...
With kids...
You say...
" I'll give you guys a choice... You can have chicken nuggets, frozen pizza, or hot pockets"
You make them feel like they have opinions but you controlled the choices so they have to settle for the things you don't mind cooking real quick...
What if one of those little b*stards said ..
"I want homemade chicken Alfredo"... "That's what I want and I don't want nothing else"
You should always try, work hard and risk failure , I'm not against that at all. Just saying, if you're 5'5, constantly throwing bricks despite you're best effort, couldn't make varsity team, is NBA really in your cards?
At some point you're lying to them by saying they're gonna make it. It's the same with dating.
