Women if you got a man, why would you need to be in contact with other men

[MikelArteta]

Not the "i" word

and some women wonder why they are always single.

No guy wants to date a girl who has a bunch of male vultures (friends) around her

 

[KenyaDoll]

Alone though? A group setting is one thing but you hang out with dudes that you have no attraction to that have no attraction to you one on one on the regular (family not included) . Hanging with somebody period, let alone in a group doesn't make you friends. You can't develop bonds like that. Most adults, especially guys, aren't looking to develop bonds that aren't sexual.

This thread is about CONTACT. Yes, you will and can have alone contact with a person of the opposite sex through school or work.

I've gone out to lunch, coffee/tea, and etc (we paid for our own food) with plenty of fellow male graduate students without others being present. Life must be very uninteresting, unproductive, and overall lame if the only reason to have a conversation with the opposite sex is to eventually have sex. People who are actually trying to do something in life and world are going to come into contact and build bonds with all types of people.

 

[Killer Instinct]

M/F friendships can happen, just not common at all.
Frankly, most men aren't kicking it or seriously hanging around women they wouldn't sleep with if the opportunity came up.
I had and have one female I'd call a friend that goes all the way back to elementary with me.
Friendship was strictly platonic and she had been "gay," since middle school, but one night in high school we still somehow ended up with our tongues down each other throats.
Anecdotal evidence but I've never seen true m/f "friendships" work without a hitch.
One party and sometimes both will give in to human nature eventually, and if they don't, one of the pair is definitely thinking about it.
I'm 22, though.

 

[Born2BKing]

and some women wonder why they are always single.

No guy wants to date a girl who has a bunch of male vultures (friends) around her

nikka plotting on how he can eventually fukk her one day, waiting on you to slip up one time. She thinks he is really just a friend, who cares about her.

 

[AntiHero]

my best and only guy friend, is a guy who met his girlfriend, my best friend.. through me, so nah.. and he never showed any interest in me, ever.

i don't have many guy friends, or friends period.. just acquaintances who are friends with those two.

even when I did have a boyfriend, the only males i hung around with were his friends, together with him.

I'm sure they would've smashed to if they had an opportunity .

If you're not a guy, you're not going to understand how our brain functions when we see an attractive girl.

 

[Diondon]

Most of yall wifey got an office husband to keep it real though

 

[NotaPAWG]

I'm sure they would've smashed to if they had an opportunity .

If you're not a guy, you're not going to understand how our brain functions when we see an attractive girl.

but maybe he isn't attracted to me? ......

 

[AntiHero]

but maybe he isn't attracted to me? ......

That's also true.

If both friends aren't attracted to each other than it's possible to be friends.

I meant attractive girls with guy friends, i should of said that from the start .

 

[NotaPAWG]

if you're worried about your girl around other dudes, that means either a. you don't trust her or b. you're insecure

i've never cheated on anyone, ive dated. i've also hang around guys i've been friends with for years while in a relationship. innocently. most of the people i know play music, on weekends they invite people over to chill, while they DJ, or have a few bands play in there basement and everyone downs beers, converse about dumb shyt. it's a lot of guys..i haven't hooked up with any one of them or tried to. if im not trying to hook up with someone while im single, im not going to try and do it while im in a relationship.

it's not about a lack of respect on MY part, it's about a lack of TRUST on YOURS. you don't trust the females you date.

people in here are bringing up the "there's no such thing as 'guy friend', you 'guy friends' would fukk you if they could" but THAT'S ON ME TO DRAW THE LINE IF THEY DID EVER TRY AND DO SOMETHING AND END THE FRIENDSHIP.

i'm not a child, i don't need a guy im dating to control me and tell me what i can't or can't do because he doesn't trust me and then twist it around to "it's about respect". no, it's about you not trusting me. be real with yourself.

 

[MikelArteta]

When a girl says "lets hang out" we automatically assume she wants to fuk.
These stuck around her a lot so it's obvious that they were waiting for the chance to strike.

Honestly, this chick used to spend nights at my house with my sister and i've seen her do some pretty crazy shyt when she's drunk. I think she led them on and they took the opportunity to try and get some.

I'm a guy, majority of my friends are guys obviously.

pretty much women are naive to think a guy actually wants to hang out with them without getting something in return.

 

[MikelArteta]

if you're worried about your girl around other dudes, that means either a. you don't trust her or b. you're insecure

, Men know how other men are , its disrespectful for a girl you are committed for to even be around other guys like that

i've never cheated on anyone, ive dated. i've also hang around guys i've been friends with for years while in a relationship. innocently. most of the people i know play music, on weekends they invite people over to chill, while they DJ, or have a few bands play in there basement and everyone downs beers, converse about dumb shyt. i haven't hooked up with any one of them or tried to. if im not trying to hook up with someone while im single, im not going to try and do it while im in a relationship.

again your speaking for yourself, there is a saying in life stop ignoring and actions and trusting words. By actions you are judged, you can't sit and here and say you'd be ok with your guy hanging around a bunch of girls with liquor flowing etc.

t's not about a lack of respect on MY part, it's about a lack of TRUST on YOURS. you don't trust the females you date.

people in here are bringing up the "there's no such thing as 'guy friend', you 'guy friends' would fukk you if they could" but THAT'S ON ME TO DRAW THE LINE IF THEY DID EVER TRY AND DO SOMETHING AND END THE FRIENDSHIP.

i'm not a child, i don't need a guy im dating to control me and tell me what i can't or can't do because he doesn't trust me.

the ol flip of the script, Majority of MEN with balls are not comfortable or will be ok with a female they are committed to and dating hanging around a bunch of men. Many men are to coward to say anything for fear of upsetting their girl but sorry biscuit it doesnt work that way.

 

[MikelArteta]

That's also true.

If both friends aren't attracted to each other than it's possible to be friends.

I meant attractive girls with guy friends, i should of said that from the start .

one for the most part will have attraction

 

[Supercoolmayo]

I swear some of ya'll support the NSA because they tracking all your girl's texts\calls

 

[NotaPAWG]

, Men know how other men are , its disrespectful for a girl you are committed for to even be around other guys like that



again your speaking for yourself, there is a saying in life stop ignoring and actions and trusting words. By actions you are judged, you can't sit and here and say you'd be ok with your guy hanging around a bunch of girls with liquor flowing etc.




the ol flip of the script, Majority of MEN with balls are not comfortable or will be ok with a female they are committed to and dating hanging around a bunch of men. Many men are to coward to say anything for fear of upsetting their girl but sorry biscuit it doesnt work that way.

i wouldn't be entirely comfortable with it.. but there's clues. if he doesn't invite me, acts shady about it etc etc etc.. it depends on the context. but what it comes down is, i date people who i feel and think are trustworthy and that's why im selective about dating.

im not flipping the script.

i just see it different through MY experiences and MY friendships.

this is thecoli, where there's long ass threads about how to avoid cheating and another thread about "kicking game" to girls and plenty of men on here who admitted to lying to get girls or fukk them. sorry, i don't take the opinion of men on here too serious when it comes to dating and "respect" and "trust worthiness" when a lot of them see untrustworthy themselves.

 

[MikelArteta]

i wouldn't be entirely comfortable with it.. but there's clues. if he doesn't invite me, acts shady about it etc etc etc.. it depends on the context. but what it comes down is, i date people who i feel and think are trustworthy and that's why im selective about dating.

im not flipping the script.

i just see it different through MY experiences and MY friendships.

this is thecoli, where there's long ass threads about how to avoid cheating and another thread about "kicking game" to girls and plenty of men on here who admited to lying to get girls or fukk them. sorry, i don't take the opinion of men on here too serious when it comes to dating when a lot of them see untrustworthy themselves.

All I'm saying, if a chick is going to screw you over it's always the friend or the dude that's around her that she's stepping out with. The same for a female dating a man. If I'm dating and exclusive with a woman I'm not going out for lunch with my female friend, or watching netflix with her on her couch.

It doesn't matter how trustworthy someone might be its the environment, I'm sure you wouldn't be ok with a guy you are dating hanging out with his ex who are just friends now. Of course you can't control someone and if they gonna cheat they gonna cheat but there are environments someone who is in a exclusive relationship with should not be.

I rememebr I was dating a girl and her best friend was a guy, I was like whatever, until she dropped how in the summer he goes to the cottage with her and they share a bunk bed

im like ,

and she expected me to be cool with this arrangement