Women if you got a man, why would you need to be in contact with other men

[NotaPAWG]

All I'm saying, if a chick is going to screw you over it's always the friend or the dude that's around her that she's stepping out with. The same for a female dating a man. If I'm dating and exclusive with a woman I'm not going out for lunch with my female friend, or watching netflix with her on her couch.

It doesn't matter how trustworthy someone might be its the environment, I'm sure you wouldn't be ok with a guy you are dating hanging out with his ex who are just friends now. Of course you can't control someone and if they gonna cheat they gonna cheat but there are environments someone who is in a exclusive relationship with should not be.

I rememebr I was dating a girl and her best friend was a guy, I was like whatever, until she dropped how in the summer he goes to the cottage with her and they share a bunk bed

im like ,

and she expected me to be cool with this arrangement

i agree with all this, actually...

that's why i said it depends on the context

 

[Rusty Kuntz]

This is true but we gotta be realistic though. If two adults are spending time together and developing a "friendship" somebody likes somebody. There are plenty of members of the opposite sex and family members that one can share interests and/or feelings with. I think you misinterpreted my question. How would two adults who aren't attracted to each other even start spending time together to develop a friendship? People don't just walk up to unattractive people like "Hey let's hang out". They usually aren't very receptive to invitations to do so from unattractive people either.

1) Work
2) Through mutual friends

 

[FTBS]

It's possible, but rare.

Thats all I am saying. A lot of stuff is possible but that doesnt mean u can count on it.

 

[Born2BKing]

Keeping my options open.

 

[Born2BKing]

Its always good to keep a few cars in the garage when your main whip starts acting up.

@R.O. Double

 

[FTBS]

This thread is about CONTACT. Yes, you will and can have alone contact with a person of the opposite sex through school or work.

I've gone out to lunch, coffee/tea, and etc (we paid for our own food) with plenty of fellow male graduate students without others being present. Life must be very uninteresting, unproductive, and overall lame if the only reason to have a conversation with the opposite sex is to eventually have sex. People who are actually trying to do something in life and world are going to come into contact and build bonds with all types of people.

Everything u are talking about is for business/school not friendship. Friends hang out for no reason at all. All bonds arent friendship.

 

[FTBS]

1) Work
2) Through mutual friends

So you hang out alone with everyone u work with and/or every friend of a friend?
People gravitate towards people they are attracted to no matter what the circumstance.

 

[Rusty Kuntz]

So you hang out alone with everyone u work with and/or every friend of a friend?
People gravitate towards people they are attracted to no matter what the circumstance.

Of course not.... I hang out with people with similar interests, many of whom I met through work or through a mutual friend. While they may have started as colleagues/associates, they turned into friends because of some initial interest we had in common (dance, working out, etc.). Some of these hangouts were one-on-one, many were in a group.

I can generally tell if I'd vibe with a person pretty quickly and if I don't, then I don't. In regards to people of the opposite sex being friends, I can't control a male friend's intentions, but they know not to go there with me. There is no ambiguity on my part in my relationships with others.

 

[KOOL-AID]

Keeping my options open.

where do I send my resume'

 

[KenyaDoll]

Everything u are talking about is for business/school not friendship. Friends hang out for no reason at all. All bonds arent friendship.

The thread specifically refers to contact with the opposite sex.

Secondly, you asked the following and I answered it, but I will answer it again:

How would two adults who aren't attracted to each other even start spending time together to develop a friendship?

Again, that is an easy question to answer. Two adults can start (or may HAVE TO start) spending time with each other because they are classmates or coworkers or any number of activities that put you in close proximity to random people you would normally never talk to. After some time, you can (depending on personality and shared interests) develop a friendship. You may start off as just classmate/coworkers/members of the same organization and then become friends. I mean, unless someone comes up to you and asks for your phone number, that's usually how friendships (regardless of gender) start.

 

[R.O. Double]

@R.O. Double

I keep a few extra pairs of shoes incase the pair I got get ran over by a car from a garage or some shyt.

 

[Born2BKing]

I keep a few extra pairs of shoes incase the pair I got get ran over by a car from a garage or some shyt.

 

[philmonroe]

, Men know how other men are , its disrespectful for a girl you are committed for to even be around other guys like that



again your speaking for yourself, there is a saying in life stop ignoring and actions and trusting words. By actions you are judged, you can't sit and here and say you'd be ok with your guy hanging around a bunch of girls with liquor flowing etc.




the ol flip of the script, Majority of MEN with balls are not comfortable or will be ok with a female they are committed to and dating hanging around a bunch of men. Many men are to coward to say anything for fear of upsetting their girl but sorry biscuit it doesnt work that way.

shyt regarding bold that's both sexes. Majority of chicks ain't going for that shyt either. I think in certain cases you can be friends with a chick. You're not attracted, shes your boys ex/current, you're moreso acquaintances (that go out, have a certain hobby, etc) than real friends (like with your boys). Outside of those reasons I think its hard to be real genuine friends with people of the opposite sex as you get older. Most of the chicks I'm close with I grew up with or met in college.

 

[Dada]

It's not that serious. I don't know if it's because I grew up with a lot of brothers and being around other trustworthy males but that type of thinking makes me cringe. I wouldn't wholesale swear off platonic friendships.

 

[Ashley Banks]

What have you become?

im just joking.