Would You Let @Another Man Tell You When You Can See Your Kids?

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I think people are being a bit emotional here.

If kids are living under my roof i should know where they are. You as the biological father may think only you and the mother are the only ones that need to be concerned but as my wife, she should respect me as the head of the household enough to know i need to be informed of where people im legally responsible for are located.

I dont see how its not reasonable to expect that when someone comes to pick up someone from your home to expect to know where they are going. If my sister comes to pick up my kids im going to ask where they going.


Nikka said your kids are now my kids, that isn't an amicable discussion nikka is saying he is deboing your kids and you must ask him permission to see them.

If your ok with that then :mjlol:
 

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Nikka said your kids are now my kids, that isn't an amicable discussion nikka is saying he is deboing your kids and you must ask him permission to see them.

If your ok with that then :mjlol:

Ok, so you dont like the language he used because you feel its disrespectful, ok i can agree there. But the premise of what he is stating is not wrong.

And yes, if the kids live with me, then you do need permission to see them or take them somewhere.

You think someone should be able to just show up at your house any time they want to see the kids? So you and the family chilling watching a movie at 8pm and this nikka can just show up and join in unannounced? :comeon:
 

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-As a father whose BM got married I can tell you I didn't check in with him about shyt. Once we got into it I didn't speak to breh outside family functions. If the dad's in their lives & doing his thing stepdad needs to fall back & understand he has a contract with the wife, not the kids father.
I think people are being a bit emotional here.

If kids are living under my roof i should know where they are. You as the biological father may think only you and the mother are the only ones that need to be concerned but as my wife, she should respect me as the head of the household enough to know i need to be informed of where people im legally responsible for are located.

I dont see how its not reasonable to expect that when someone comes to pick up someone from your home to expect to know where they are going. If my sister comes to pick up my kids im going to ask where they going.
-The only thing you need to know is that they're with their dad. That man has no obligation to tell you shyt cause you decided to wife his ex. This isn't your sister picking up YOUR kids, this is a man picking up HIS kids.
 

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I don’t see the issue. It takes a village, right? You have got to put your ego on the back burner and prioritize what is best for your child.
 

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I think people are being a bit emotional here.

If kids are living under my roof i should know where they are. You as the biological father may think only you and the mother are the only ones that need to be concerned but as my wife, she should respect me as the head of the household enough to know i need to be informed of where people im legally responsible for are located.

I dont see how it’s not reasonable to expect that when someone comes to pick up someone from your home to expect to know where they are going. If my sister comes to pick up my kids im going to ask where they going.
It seems like you mean well, but this is a slippery slope. You’re effectively making the father jump through hoops and validate the reasoning behind seeing his own child. Your sister is picking up your kids. He’s picking up his own kids. Instead of trying to control the situation maybe you should talk to your wife and ask for some transparency and communication instead of trying to control the actions of the father.
 

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Alot of violent energy for this man. But none when that judge told you that you could only see your kids on the weekend:francis:

You have two options,pick better women for yourself and do right by them. And option two is to make your bm an offer she cant refuse:respect: #BuyYourChildBack
 

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Yeah, the new guy says its his kids until he breaks up with your baby mother now your kids have to go through the psychological trauma of losing a dad every six months. because they never remain a father to an ex step kids from a prior relationship.

imo, if the biological dad is an active father that is willing to spend time with his kids, give him the freedom to do that because they'll always be able to count on him. Their relationship is not conditional on the relationship you have with their mother like your is. Do what you can for them as a step dad without getting in the way of that,
 

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I think people are being a bit emotional here.

If kids are living under my roof i should know where they are. You as the biological father may think only you and the mother are the only ones that need to be concerned but as my wife, she should respect me as the head of the household enough to know i need to be informed of where people im legally responsible for are located.

I dont see how its not reasonable to expect that when someone comes to pick up someone from your home to expect to know where they are going. If my sister comes to pick up my kids im going to ask where they going.
You aren't legally responsible for my son... step dad.
 
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