Would You Let @Another Man Tell You When You Can See Your Kids?

[ThrobbingHood]

I don’t see the issue. It takes a village, right?

And you’re the village idiot.

 

[DapMeUp!]

Ok, so you dont like the language he used because you feel its disrespectful, ok i can agree there. But the premise of what he is stating is not wrong.

And yes, if the kids live with me, then you do need permission to see them or take them somewhere.

You think someone should be able to just show up at your house any time they want to see the kids? So you and the family chilling watching a movie at 8pm and this nikka can just show up and join in unannounced?

No I will discuss shyt with my child's mother. I haven't got shyt to discuss with a step dad nikka I don't even know you

 

[JordanwiththeWiz]

I would hope the mother of my child would know not to play with me and she would play mediator because I don’t got no issues with dude and idc who she fukk. Long as he don’t harm my kids or try to come in between us. We good, if he break one of them two rules it’s up.

 

[The_Sheff]

-As a father whose BM got married I can tell you I didn't check in with him about shyt. Once we got into it I didn't speak to breh outside family functions. If the dad's in their lives & doing his thing stepdad needs to fall back & understand he has a contract with the wife, not the kids father.

-The only thing you need to know is that they're with their dad. That man has no obligation to tell you shyt cause you decided to wife his ex. This isn't your sister picking up YOUR kids, this is a man picking up HIS kids.

You dont have to tell the step-dad anything directly. I hasnt been stated anywhere in this topic that must take place.

But i do need to know from someone, most likely my wife, before you come to my home and ask about anything. So you show up looking for kids, and she hasnt told me anything about it, then before i open the door to let you in please believe she gonna get a call. Your kids being in my home does not correlate to you having free access to it.



Some folks in here are triggered because they reading a whole bunch of stuff that isnt there.

 

[Still Benefited]

How old are you?

36.

 

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

Funny thing is a 'step dad' like this would 100% end up with a man getting custody of his children though. My dad was a step dad to my two oldest brothers and he would have never tried to dictate when their biological dads could see their sons like that because he knows he wouldn't have been cool with someone trying to do that to him.

Old boy sounds like he tryna punk you out of your kids life or something, which is why I said he gonna get his ass beat and if he a hoe who scared to fight he can have a conversation with my 9.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

I think people are being a bit emotional here.

If kids are living under my roof i should know where they are. You as the biological father may think only you and the mother are the only ones that need to be concerned but as my wife, she should respect me as the head of the household enough to know i need to be informed of where people im legally responsible for are located.

I dont see how its not reasonable to expect that when someone comes to pick up someone from your home to expect to know where they are going. If my sister comes to pick up my kids im going to ask where they going.

You can’t be a father saying this
No man walking the face of this earth
Has a right to my daughter or my parenting skills to her
The only person that has any rights or bearing is the mother of my daughter
Now if my ex decides to get remarried (like I did)
We all sit down and talk about how this parenting thing is going to go
We set boundaries and effectively communicate amongst each other
But I be damn if some nikka comes say some fukk ass shyt like this to me when I’m picking MY daughter up
You call it EMOTIONAL
I call it DISRESPECTFUL and a quick way to fukk around and find out
Statements like this is why nikkas get fukked up out here for habitual line stepping
If you are going to be a stepfather to a woman with an ACTIVE father like me
Watch ya fukking mouth
Your opinions don’t mean shyt to me on how I raise my daughter
As long as we have a mutual respect and understanding but nothing in his post was respectful to his hypothetical wife, child or father
Some of y’all nikkas with no children need to tighten up on your opinions
Board filled with commitment phobic ass nikkas got a lot of nerve I tell you

 

[BobbyWojak]

And yes, if the kids live with me, then you do need permission to see them or take them somewhere.

Yeah, from the mother If she were to pass away who do you think is getting custody? You?

 

[ReturnOfJudah]

This is how you get your jaw broken trying too hard to be step daddy.

Bruh showing up to the next PTA like

 

[The_Sheff]

Funny thing is a 'step dad' like this would 100% end up with a man getting custody of his children though. My dad was a step dad to my two oldest brothers and he would have never tried to dictate when their biological dads could see their sons like that because he knows he wouldn't have been cool with someone trying to do that to him.

Old boy sounds like he tryna punk you out of your kids life or something, which is why I said he gonna get his ass beat and if he a hoe who scared to fight he can have a conversation with my 9.

Never had to because there was most likely an amicable relationship of respect between households.

That is not always the case.

My best friend has a clown ass kids father. This nikka would find out when her and her new husband were planning on taking the boys on a vacation and he would show up demanding to have his son for those exact same days. Has the whole damn year to get that boy but only bothers when the step-dad wanted to do something special with him. Thats clown shyt.

 

[Stuntone]

Dudes still dating and marrying single moms in 2023??

 

[Still Benefited]

You dont have to tell the step-dad anything directly. I hasnt been stated anywhere in this topic that must take place.

But i do need to know from someone, most likely my wife, before you come to my home and ask about anything. So you show up looking for kids, and she hasnt told me anything about it, then before i open the door to let you in please believe she gonna get a call. Your kids being in my home does not correlate to you having free access to it.



Some folks in here are triggered because they reading a whole bunch of stuff that isnt there.

People arent thinking of all the scenarios. Plus triggered by the "you need to see me as a father" part. No,I dont need to see you as a father,but I do need to see you as the baby sitter at least. And if your dating a woman with a child,and the childs father shows up to take them. Technically,you should not just let them take the child


Its not your child to give away,when theyve been left in your care. Which is why you are NOT the father. But on the other hand,its not your child to get killed over either. So it would be wise for the childs mother to communicate with you.

 

[The_Sheff]

Yeah, from the mother If she were to pass away who do you think is getting custody? You?

Women dont make decisions in a vacuum bruh, especially when she laid up with a whole husband.

So whether you like it or not, yeah you getting permission from the man. Now if it being indirect helps you sleep better at night, so be it.

 

[Coco Loco]

I saw this and people were in the comments agreeing. This is a good way to get fukked up

 

[Umoja]

Up there with "I hope you're taking good care of her".

Looking to get a fat lip talking like that. Communication between adults who are responsible for a child is a given, but trying to flex your authority will rightfully earn you an ass whooping.