And now some are trying to advocate staying at home longer with parents as a fix. But there are studies that show we are already doing this in our community in large numbers, AND doing so actually retards future homeownership. Especially when a large percentage of our community is born in single family homes that have limited resources. Delaying adulthood won’t fix it.
Fixating primarily on female issues won’t fix it either. And that’s what a lot of venting manosphere stuff does. It’s what feminism did for women. Venting is healthy but staying in that energy won’t make you happy or fulfilled.
But at some point, we need to sit down and have a real discussion without the insults, vitriol and hurt feelings. Most of these issues are actually economic in nature. Japan is going through the same thing. It’s old reliable industries and blue collar male-oriented work is being phased out, lost or demonized, while women have entered the workforce and are making gains so things are leveling out for them. But this has a lot of men feeling lost, useless, unneeded, depressed, while women are high on newfound freedom and opportunity (but don’t get it twisted…when the high wears off, a lotta chicks have some dark days ahead). So to get a false sense of self-esteem they turn to manosphere stuff and online echo chambers to blame women. Or they deal with toxic females or bums or unhealthy females b/c they can have a sense of superiority over them in a traditional role. They like the fantasy of being able to “save” these women, but really all they end up doing is getting used and abused by these chicks and then carrying that rage/bitterness onto the next unsuspecting chick. So a chick with a good head on her shoulder, who is what they claim to desire gets bypassed, because a lotta men feel like she is too good for them. So they don’t even try. Others will try to break these chicks down.
We really need to address the needs of men and help them gain back a real sense of self-esteem and prepare them for the real world with real skills, instead of hyperfocusing on women to avoid confronting male issues.
And to be honest, as a female Imma break girl code and say, I think the women’s empowerment movement has gotten to a point where women are going to have to do the same for themselves instead of trying to blame men for everything and consolidate power through eternal victimhood. I mean, in this age, where women have more opportunity than they’ve had in centuries, many are squandering it. Badly. Still caught up in social traumas. Not taking their sexuality into their own hands. Still not protecting themselves. Still wanting benefits of old ways instead of adjusting to this new era their gender worked for. Why are chicks still tripping over approaching men? Why are chicks still not carrying weapons and protecting themselves? Still getting pregnant by accident? Still crying over silliness? I’m not saying there aren’t still issues that need to be resolved for women’s rights. But in a lotta cases, chicks aren’t making smart decisions and that kills me sometimes. Still not communicating properly. Still not being sexually satisfied but too scared to speak up. We gotta get over this stuff.
People don’t understand but humanity is fighting for equilibrium. Men and women have to learn to stand together. Beside each other. Not man over woman. Not woman over man. But beside one another. For that to work, we have to break away from a lot of false stuff we’ve been taught about men and women traditionally, while keeping the good and moving forward.
This is natural selection. The extent to which humans can work together to thrive and promote a healthy quality of life to maximize optimal conditions for procreation and raising offspring.
We either learn, adapt, or go the way of the dinosaurs.