Black Engineer advice to young men: Don't date seriously until you're 30

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

brehs....live your life and do your thing....

when the right woman comes along....snatch her up

 

[DJSmooth]

Yep cause its all about time. Most folks who are married either met their spouses when they were young, in college or at work.

In school this will be the only time in your life that you will meet folks your age doing the same shyt you are doing. You will also have time to find out everything about them.

When you are out of school and in the real world with real responsibilities you basically have very little time to date or find out about folks. In school you have tons of free time. In school you take classes with folks and know about all the gossip on people. Any information on a female you can find out in a day or two. Now try that shyt in the real world. shyt it may take 6 months or more to find out info on a person.

Put it to you this way. When you are out of school working you will work say 8 hours a day if you don't have to do OT. Then say 1 hour each way to commute to work. That leaves 10 hours out of each day just for work.

Thats why its so hard for adults to date and why often times they date folks at work.

Man I miss college some days. I meet quality women now on paper but it's hard to do a background check.

In college a chick give me her number at the club my homeboy would lean over and be like "She a thot man she done slept with half my frat brothers!"

 

[Family Lives Matter]

I'm 29 30 in February.
I own my home have progressed to a point where I'm happy with my career and now a serious relationship is next on the agenda.

But thoughts like this always simplify something to be simpler than it is. Don't act like the pool of good women hasn't reduced by this age unless you on that peado wave

 

[Shorty K]

Why's it so many broke dusty nikkas with nothing but bullshyt in their names in here talmbout when all the good ones getting snatched up

 

[Rekkapryde]

The young dumb chicks getting knocked off by savvy men such as yourself don’t magically turn into good women when they get old.

That’s exactly who’s left by 30. The ones with a lot of baggage.

By 30 most good women have come across a man who’s noticed she’s a good woman and tried his best to hold on to her forever.

My nikka

 

[Mr.bocario]

The bipolar mentality of this site amazes me sometimes

One minute nikkas wanna be playas next nikkas wanna be family men, I mean pick a damn lane


Afar as snatch a good girl up before their taken, what kind simp shyt is that?

That kind of mentality of handcuffing turns women off, we know it

Be a quality nikka with goals in life, and if you got a good one before you’ll get a good one again

 

[Serious]

I think a lot of yall don't realize how your thinking is just like women's

Please don't take it as me trying to dis you, but that thinking is not necessarily true for men. It can be, but it doesn't have to be, it's really your choice. Even if you get a chick who is 30, you know how many chicks don't have kids at that age? IDK where yall get this notion chicks fall off at 30. If anything they get better. I don't like chicks under 25 because they haven't proven themselves yet. By 30, most women have some sort of foundation, and as a man you have a good idea who you are dealing with. You won't know her 100%, but if she has her life together by then(even if she has a child) you know you won't have to go through a lot of bullshyt young chicks will bring to you, they still are living fantasy at the young ages, they haven't done anything yet. They also tend to have bullshyt people around them which makes the situation worse, older women tend to keep most of those people away(if she is about something)

It's the same for women, I know I love older women as well, but the difference is if I get a young chick, put my game down, there is a good chance she wants to be with me, and have a family, or at least be serious for a minute. How many young men are willing to do the same? Not many

Double edged sword dealing with 30+ women. Sure they may have no children, but they may have a ton emotional damage like a mistrust issues from a prior cheating ex.

Same could be said of men. My philosophy now is not to have any standards, that I wouldn't want my partner to have.

 

[kdslittlebro]

Any brehs who got that pass notification for the PE this week, congrats

 

[Reece]

Be 30 stuck with scraps cause you let all the good ones get snatched up brehs

Basically

Imma take one of these young wifey types from one of these young nikkas though

 

[rico_85]

He's right.

Dr. Francis Cress Welsing said something similar but that was in regards to marriage.

Your 20s is to grow and figure out what you want to do in life, and make a few mistakes. By the time you're 30 you should know how you want to live your life, and working on establishing yourself.

Dr. Welsing IS A REAL ONE

 

[ig88]

He is right.

You don't get to experience the "college experience" unless you want to fail in engineering. I mean you can have a girlfriend but she has to understand school is the priority and if she is in an easier major, she may need to get used to that.

For me, I went back to school for my degree at a later age so that wasn't really an issue, but you really have little time for anything else.

Eh.. i dont know if thats true. Depends. I never studied. Ever.

People who become engineers usually aint party animals/womanizers anyway. I am one but a lot of engineers i meet are super lame. Just a fact and part of it ive learnt to deal with.


Prolly why some people think im a complete savage at work.

I mean my life was a mess when i was doing that but its not like like engineering is some super power that requires more concentration. Then again. Idk anyone like me.



I think what this guy getting at is when you startibg, focus on masteribg ya craft before ya juggling bytches, partying like a rockstar. I was always having girls call me at work and all my coworkers looking at me like i had 6 heads for daring to answer the phone at work.


Very anti social group as a whole imo.

Also i would NEVER marry a fellow engineer. I know 3 couples of engineers. All of em loveless with no respect.

 

[FocusedDaily]

I think everyone should just do what makes them happy whether that is get married or focus on their career.

My now wife motivated me to get a better job because I wanted to be in a position where we would live a better life and I could take care of her if we ever had kids and she needed to take off of work for some time so we basically grew up together and now have good careers and support each other through it all. I been wifed up since 25. Kind of hard to believe sometimes.

Basically the same, we had each others back as we made moves in our careers. Made things easier cause we were on the same page. I could see how it'd be a distraction if you two weren't in sync like that tho.

 

[Dr. Acula]

Eh.. i dont know if thats true. Depends. I never studied. Ever.

People who become engineers usually aint party animals/womanizers anyway. I am one but a lot of engineers i meet are super lame. Just a fact and part of it ive learnt to deal with.


Prolly why some people think im a complete savage at work.

I mean my life was a mess when i was doing that but its not like like engineering is some super power that requires more concentration. Then again. Idk anyone like me.



I think what this guy getting at is when you startibg, focus on masteribg ya craft before ya juggling bytches, partying like a rockstar. I was always having girls call me at work and all my coworkers looking at me like i had 6 heads for daring to answer the phone at work.


Very anti social group as a whole imo.

Also i would NEVER marry a fellow engineer. I know 3 couples of engineers. All of em loveless with no respect.

What engineering did you study? Just curious.

Also yeah it definitely differs from person to person and don't mean to give the impression it requires super strength. However, I don't believe I'm being hyperbolic and I've had other people in other tough majors and other people support my thinking, that most engineering majors are some of the hardest programs you can be in, only surpassed by medical school if not on par. The only difference is there is less school required to be an engineer so its easier in that way. But, at my school, they posted what degree attainment was for each major and in my program only 1 out of 5 people who went into the program actually came out with a degree if not because they switched majors or didn't complete.

My point is, you can't go into engineering and slack off. Maybe I was being hyperbolic in that you'll have NO social life, but there may be a reason for the correlation for why most of the people who were in engineering at your school also were "lames". It was probably to their advantage to have a "lame" lifestyle going in to begin with to do well. You can have a girlfriend, I did, and do well and can still have somewhat of a life. But there was times I wanted to go to the school football game or do something, and had to opt out because I had studying to do and delaying gratification and fun was something I did often.

 

[ig88]

What engineering did you study? Just curious.

Also yeah it definitely differs from person to person and don't mean to give the impression it requires super strength. However, I don't believe I'm being hyperbolic and I've had other people in other tough majors and other people support my thinking, that most engineering majors are some of the hardest programs you can be in, only surpassed by medical school if not on par. The only difference is there is less school required to be an engineer so its easier in that way. But, at my school, they posted what degree attainment was for each major and in my program only 1 out of 5 people who went into the program actually came out with a degree if not because they switched majors or didn't complete.

My point is, you can't go into engineering and slack off. Maybe I was being hyperbolic in that you'll have NO social life, but there may be a reason for the correlation for why most of the people who were in engineering at your school also were "lames". It was probably to their advantage to have a "lame" lifestyle going in to begin with to do well. You can have a girlfriend, I did, and do well and can still have somewhat of a life. But there was times I wanted to go to the school football game or do something, and had to opt out because I had studying to do and delaying gratification and fun was something I did often.

Electrical. I get it. I just think like that style of work, brings about that type of people mostly. Like insaid theres a lotta things i do that people dont i just replied cuz i would have normally agreed had i not done it myself. Few people failed out tryna keep up.

I literally was working. 3 hr commute a day Had a sidepiece. A side hustle. Doing music. Not giving a fukk. Guys at work thought i was crazy. Lol. My desk stay a mess. Hair like einstein.

Never got a job out late tho

And work was mad stressed but evened out once i cut the sidepiece out.

It is very hard to have it all. A wife sure. But dating multiple girls as an engineer. Maybe in my youth. Today i cant fathom it its work in itself.

You are more right than wrong im just a mad scientist ive come to find out as i deal with the “humans” more n more. Not to try snd sound “cool”. It just irks me how i seem to only he able to communicate with like 1/10 people i work with fonpletely and the subject is always “yo these guys sre fukking weird”.

 

[TEH]

For people who have sons

And Daughters

I’m sure that this Incel-esque / mysoginistic advice is troubling....