Bridesmaid, 31, hanged herself after struggling to cope with seeing her friends get married...

[Ohnoits]

Not even funny...just sad...

It's a shame.

 

[semtex]

And she did it and is still with the nikka?

Dude is in his damn mid 50s too

 

[the bossman]

Dude is in his damn mid 50s too

For some nikka almost over 20 years her age???

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

How old are you?

31

 

[semtex]

For some nikka almost over 20 years her age???

Me and my mom wanted so much more for her. Dude is also a janitor As I'm typing this I'm realizing it sounds like a bad joke

 

[prettiij_me]

"However, she herself was single and lived alone with her cat"

This quote made me think that this article was fake simply because it seems as though the author was trolling...like seriously? How inappropriate and insensitive is that? They basically stereotyped her as a lonely cat lady with that quote...are the really that glib about suicide in the UK?

 

[prettiij_me]

in those 5 years since her last relationship, im sure dudes probably hit on her all the time.

She probably turned down every guy who hit on her. I bet she was expecting some brad pitt. bytch, you aint worth it. good riddance

really?

 

[:-)]

It be like that sometimes. I don't think people realize the pressure you feel as a woman to "settle" down and the stigma associated with it not happening according to society's timeline. It can be very difficult because as a woman, that's really all you're expected to do in life. You could be a neurosurgeon and the first thing you'll be asked is "When are you going to settle down and have kids?"

Very true and I hate that so much. I've been asked 2 times this past weekend by family members because I'm not married and I have no kids. That's never been a top priority for me. I've always, since I was a little girl, to travel the world and own businesses and get into entertainment. My parents have always stood by me and encouraged me to do my own thing before ever settling down. Once you become a parent those babies come first. I hate the fact that folks only see us as baby makers and nothing more.

 

[prettiij_me]

I'm lost as to how hanging yourself could be an accident?? All the steps it takes to do so are pretty deliberate...also hanging yourself is almost always fatal in most cases unless you hang from something weak...its not like taking a bunch of pills in which you may or may not die...sounds like her family might be in denial like the people from that documentary "There's Something Wrong With Aunt Diane" the whole family is in denial about the amount of alcohol in her system at the time of the accident. They refuse to belive she was drunk...smh

 

[FeloniousMonk]

Women are more likely than men to initiate divorces they've been found to  initiate
69 percent of all divorces, compared to 31 percent for men.

GMB strike 1

A ground-breaking examination of 27 different studies of suicide, conducted by the Samaritans organization,
confirmed this grim trend is worldwide: “The majority of studies suggest that men are at a greater risk of suicide
than women in the aftermath of relationship breakdown.

GMB strike 2

North American men going through divorce are eight times more likely than divorcing
women to commit suicide, reports Augustine Kposowa, of the University of California, Riverside.

GMB strike 3

Do you think people of color where thought about when this study was conducted?

Or

Is it just generalizing based on class structure in America?

 

[Jahmal]

1. If she would've hung in there, she would've met the right guy.

I see what you did right there

 

[CarbonBraddock]

Me and my mom wanted so much more for her. Dude is also a janitor As I'm typing this I'm realizing it sounds like a bad joke

@Art Barr is dating your sister?

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

The point I was getting to was that for some people, their identity is vested in their careers and/or superficial things.

Think about it from a certain perspective, I wake up every morning and go to work. I make my employer thousands upon thousands of dollars for my labor, they're definitely getting the lion's share of the rewards of my productivity but I make a very reasonable wage. Day after day, it's the same routine.. 12 hour days, on call, etc.. Something's missing, I'm happy in my career but I feel it's not enough. I see my friends.. They're marrying, they're in sustained relationships.. there's a warmth that comes from them now that is strange to me but I feel that joy, I want it for myself but how? I've been in school for so long, working so long to get to the top that I really don't know how to really establish myself within a relationship.. I'm frustrated but I am OK, I guess.

If I think about it, I've devoted myself to my work but when think about the thought of me laying in my deathbed and I think of the people I've impacted.. Will they come to comfort me in my last hours? Will the company that I've devoted years of my life to, made hundreds of thousands of dollars for..will they give a damn? Of course, my kin are always there but the thought of descending into the grave without leaving a tangible legacy would terrify me. No children, no spouse.. None to carry my memory or blood beyond my death. I'm speaking in hypotheticals but imagine getting older and wanting this but being frustrated by your inability to accomplish this for whatever reason.. Desperation can sometimes become inescapable.

This is why I ask folks what is it that you want to do on this Earth, what do you want to leave behind? Beyond a career and security.. What else is there? Money get spent, tombstones get whited to a point where names fade. Do you want to die alone or with no one (such a child, spouse, etc..) to fully cherish and/or pass off your memory to their kids?

I just saw your response.

Honestly that thought never really bothered me. I guess it's because (and this may sound pretty bad) I never thought of myself as important enough to warrant a legacy. I don't see myself making some huge impact on anyone. Of course it would be great to do so but honestly, in the grand scheme of things, my life is inconsequential. I'm sure there are people out there who love me and would grieve if I die but life goes on and my life is just a drop in the bucket so why stress over such things? I can have children and I can have a husband but will they preserve anything that truly captures who I was? Maybe or maybe not. They are just the people who loved me and who I loved throughout my life. I'm going to enjoy my time with whoever happens to come into my life and I will cherish every great moment that happens.

The feeling of needing to leave a lasting impression or a "legacy" IMO creates desperation which only causes unnecessary stress. Everyone should live their lives how they wish. Seeking to live up to some unnecessary standard isn't fulfilling for me. If I can't be happy with how my life develops and feel a constant need for something more then I'm never going to be satisfied and I just don't see any good in feeling that way.

So I'm just going to accept how my life unfolds and hopefully be prepared for anything that comes.
That's just the way I see things

 

[duncanthetall]

nah, she just couldnt find nobody that she WANTED

For real. She's pretty cute real talk. RIP as well.
Not to be a dikk, but if she came round my way I doubt she would have committed that

But she's probably just crazy. And good dikk can trump most things..............except crazy. Nothing trumps crazy.

 

[duncanthetall]

Do you want to die alone or with no one (such a child, spouse, etc..) to fully cherish and/or pass off your memory to their kids?

I agree with this post, just wanted to say that this is the type of shyt I think about when I hear J Cole's "Hello". shyt fukks me up