I'm feeling having a code of ethics for sure...a code of standards and practices for personal usage. And to apply in business related situations.
The Self-improvement thread.
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bigmac
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What would some examples be?
Hmmm
Conducting oneself in a professional manner at all times...
This is actually a very good question,
I'm gonna have to think about this write it down and come back to this thread later.
I recall a MMA fighter Josh Barnett saying that a person should challenge themselves in all aspects of being a human. Even if they don't like it having that knowledge of that and knowing that is a lesson it itself.
I need to be in full monk mode until about Memorial Day Weekend.
Need to get alot of shyt in order. Should've started jan 1st like i wanted but hey.....got sidetracked like always.
It's time tho....Time to prove to myself .. and others...that i can be great out here.
Need to get alot of shyt in order. Should've started jan 1st like i wanted but hey.....got sidetracked like always.
It's time tho....Time to prove to myself .. and others...that i can be great out here.
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GoGetMyDamnBelt_
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People usually dismiss me when I disclose my age but if they knew my experiences I think they would have a better understanding.
1. I want to learn about myself, my wants, my needs, my limits. I want to learn how to forgive myself and let go of grudges. I got married at 18, thought I was in love only to find out I wasn't. I mean, I love buddy, I do but I feel like being IN love consist of entrusting your whole being into someone else. That person could make or break you. Emotionally, he's broken me more times than I can count but I'm still whole, I'm still here. When I realized I lost the fight within to continue to keep wanting to fix what I have with him, is when I realized I wasn't in love. For one, love doesn't fade, at least from what I've witnessed from others, it doesn't. No matter how much damage that person does, the love just doesn't float away. Mines did. And after cussing at myself and hating myself and thinking "how can I feel like this in a marriage, marriage is all about working & fixing," was when I realized... I don't love myself. As cliche as it sounds it's true, you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. I don't love myself nor do I trust myself. Especially with me still battling depression pretty hard. I don't know myself because if I did, I wouldn't have gotten married knowing that wasn't the best choice at the moment. If i knew myself enough, I would of known he wasn't the man I was destined to spend my life with (i'm 21 now, in the process of divorce). So that's my #1 goal, I need to discover my inner beauty and love myself.
2. Also money. I have a nice, government job but I was living the life of having 2 incomes. Now with him out of the picture, I feel like I'm drowning in what's left behind to me. (He brought money in as well but everything is legally in my name). But I know I could do this, I just got to budget accordingly. I'm aiming to be back on my feet in 3 months time. I'm also aiming to purchase a house before I'm 23.
3. Lastly (I think I should of made it number #1 actually) I want to get closer to God. I want to learn how to trust him and turn my problems over to him because with what I'm dealing with, my mind is a war zone right now that I'm scared to lose in..
1. I want to learn about myself, my wants, my needs, my limits. I want to learn how to forgive myself and let go of grudges. I got married at 18, thought I was in love only to find out I wasn't. I mean, I love buddy, I do but I feel like being IN love consist of entrusting your whole being into someone else. That person could make or break you. Emotionally, he's broken me more times than I can count but I'm still whole, I'm still here. When I realized I lost the fight within to continue to keep wanting to fix what I have with him, is when I realized I wasn't in love. For one, love doesn't fade, at least from what I've witnessed from others, it doesn't. No matter how much damage that person does, the love just doesn't float away. Mines did. And after cussing at myself and hating myself and thinking "how can I feel like this in a marriage, marriage is all about working & fixing," was when I realized... I don't love myself. As cliche as it sounds it's true, you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. I don't love myself nor do I trust myself. Especially with me still battling depression pretty hard. I don't know myself because if I did, I wouldn't have gotten married knowing that wasn't the best choice at the moment. If i knew myself enough, I would of known he wasn't the man I was destined to spend my life with (i'm 21 now, in the process of divorce). So that's my #1 goal, I need to discover my inner beauty and love myself.
2. Also money. I have a nice, government job but I was living the life of having 2 incomes. Now with him out of the picture, I feel like I'm drowning in what's left behind to me. (He brought money in as well but everything is legally in my name). But I know I could do this, I just got to budget accordingly. I'm aiming to be back on my feet in 3 months time. I'm also aiming to purchase a house before I'm 23.
3. Lastly (I think I should of made it number #1 actually) I want to get closer to God. I want to learn how to trust him and turn my problems over to him because with what I'm dealing with, my mind is a war zone right now that I'm scared to lose in..
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I'm trying to teach myself how to make gifs today/tonight....
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Good morning everybody. Time to update this thread.
Now, in another thread, I was accosted by a poster who questioned my motives when it came to getting in shape. The thing that was absolutely ridiculous, laughable and pathetic about it was he (and this is the fukking audacity of the coli people) was trying to explain MY reasoning for getting into shape! As if he knew my journey!
PATHETIC!
But let me take you back to 2010.
I was in college and stressed out. I had a moment where I contemplated suicide and attempted it. Instead I admitted myself into the western psych ward and stayed there for 8 days. After that I was prescribed risperdone for depression/anxiety/BD (bipolar disorder). The medicine made me slow and sluggish. I gained 60 pounds and ballooned from 175-260. I went from a size 32 waist to 40. I did not feel like me. I even got more depressed because the weight gain made me feel ugly.
So, with that in mind, I went on a mission from hell from 2011-2012. I enrolled back in college for my last semester in school. I signed up for PE classes (water aerobics, aerobics, weight training), I signed up for yoga classes. I signed up for kickboxing. My goal was to get into the best shape of my life.
I took a pic by pic of my progression as I excercised which inspired be to go forward as I was actually seeing results.
I did EVERYTHING in the gym. Leg weights, pecs, abs, triceps, biceps, cardio, treadmill, freeweights, dumbells. I would spend 3 hours in the gym a day. I did this for five days a week for 42 weeks straight. IT got to the point where I would go from my PE classes then go do yoga at nights. I had the great balance between the mind soul and body. The yin and yang. I actually got so immersed into yoga, I wanted to become an instructor (I had to do 100 hours of it, which I did, but I had to take a two month seminar that cost $2000 which I did not have so I had to stop there). I still do. The bottom line is, I worked my ass off to get to the best shape of my life, and I'm still here.
With that said, not every journey you take is going to be easy. There will be hardships along the way. Moments of self-doubts. Times where you will feel like giving up. But PRESS ON! The most important thing is to prove to yourself that YOU can do it! and the only person you need to satisfy...is YOU!
Now, in another thread, I was accosted by a poster who questioned my motives when it came to getting in shape. The thing that was absolutely ridiculous, laughable and pathetic about it was he (and this is the fukking audacity of the coli people) was trying to explain MY reasoning for getting into shape! As if he knew my journey!
PATHETIC!
But let me take you back to 2010.
I was in college and stressed out. I had a moment where I contemplated suicide and attempted it. Instead I admitted myself into the western psych ward and stayed there for 8 days. After that I was prescribed risperdone for depression/anxiety/BD (bipolar disorder). The medicine made me slow and sluggish. I gained 60 pounds and ballooned from 175-260. I went from a size 32 waist to 40. I did not feel like me. I even got more depressed because the weight gain made me feel ugly.
So, with that in mind, I went on a mission from hell from 2011-2012. I enrolled back in college for my last semester in school. I signed up for PE classes (water aerobics, aerobics, weight training), I signed up for yoga classes. I signed up for kickboxing. My goal was to get into the best shape of my life.
I took a pic by pic of my progression as I excercised which inspired be to go forward as I was actually seeing results.
I did EVERYTHING in the gym. Leg weights, pecs, abs, triceps, biceps, cardio, treadmill, freeweights, dumbells. I would spend 3 hours in the gym a day. I did this for five days a week for 42 weeks straight. IT got to the point where I would go from my PE classes then go do yoga at nights. I had the great balance between the mind soul and body. The yin and yang. I actually got so immersed into yoga, I wanted to become an instructor (I had to do 100 hours of it, which I did, but I had to take a two month seminar that cost $2000 which I did not have so I had to stop there). I still do. The bottom line is, I worked my ass off to get to the best shape of my life, and I'm still here.
With that said, not every journey you take is going to be easy. There will be hardships along the way. Moments of self-doubts. Times where you will feel like giving up. But PRESS ON! The most important thing is to prove to yourself that YOU can do it! and the only person you need to satisfy...is YOU!
Thinking positive in the midsts of negativity.
This is something I have been thinking about lately, because I've been feeling better about life as of late. I realized in the past I let myself become hoplessly consumed by negativity. It was almost comforting
Then I realized, if I was going to progress in life, I really had to do away with the negativity and focus on the positivity. And I've been doing that now. So now, with that focus, my goals and achievements become that more recognizable and the journey towards them becomes more easier to traverse.
The constant is negativity though. At times it's unavoidable. It's a part of life. But you got to have positivity on the other side to balance it out...the ying and the yang.
Being on the coli, I realize that this place can be an ungodly manifestation of negativity and posters project it onto one another. I realized I did this at times to because I was unhappy and discontent with where I wanted to be in my life.
Rather than dwell on that negativity, I allowed myself to focus on the positive. I focused on my strengths rather than my weaknesses. This helped me to actualize my goals.
And I feel that's why my 2015 was epic.
And this year will be even more epic.
This is something I have been thinking about lately, because I've been feeling better about life as of late. I realized in the past I let myself become hoplessly consumed by negativity. It was almost comforting
Then I realized, if I was going to progress in life, I really had to do away with the negativity and focus on the positivity. And I've been doing that now. So now, with that focus, my goals and achievements become that more recognizable and the journey towards them becomes more easier to traverse.
The constant is negativity though. At times it's unavoidable. It's a part of life. But you got to have positivity on the other side to balance it out...the ying and the yang.
Being on the coli, I realize that this place can be an ungodly manifestation of negativity and posters project it onto one another. I realized I did this at times to because I was unhappy and discontent with where I wanted to be in my life.
Rather than dwell on that negativity, I allowed myself to focus on the positive. I focused on my strengths rather than my weaknesses. This helped me to actualize my goals.
And I feel that's why my 2015 was epic.
And this year will be even more epic.
Also, let me just acknowledge what I just said, and say it again for the people out there.
If you want to change ANYTHING about yourself...do it for YOU! When you do it for others, it becomes insincere. I'm a grown ass man. I don't buckle to peer pressure. I don't watch TV or go out and see movies. I focus on my clothing business and my blog. I make enough money from both where I can pay rent and not work a 9-5. It's awesome. I'm swayed by nobody's thoughts or opinions. It's actually poison to give into them.
Because then we undermine our own strengths as individuals and as human beings. IT's cool to be influenced by others and take little bits and pieces here and there, but the moment you become a slave to the thoughts and opinions of other people you lose your identity in the process.
Why do you wear the clothes you do? Cause you like them? Or because other people do?
why do you listen to the music you do? Cause you like it? Or because others do.
I'm not a people pleaser...no one's in my ear telling me to do this and that, I'm 31 I'm too good for that shyt.
And it's a liberating feeling to know that you are truly living for yourself and not for others.
If you want to change ANYTHING about yourself...do it for YOU! When you do it for others, it becomes insincere. I'm a grown ass man. I don't buckle to peer pressure. I don't watch TV or go out and see movies. I focus on my clothing business and my blog. I make enough money from both where I can pay rent and not work a 9-5. It's awesome. I'm swayed by nobody's thoughts or opinions. It's actually poison to give into them.
Because then we undermine our own strengths as individuals and as human beings. IT's cool to be influenced by others and take little bits and pieces here and there, but the moment you become a slave to the thoughts and opinions of other people you lose your identity in the process.
Why do you wear the clothes you do? Cause you like them? Or because other people do?
why do you listen to the music you do? Cause you like it? Or because others do.
I'm not a people pleaser...no one's in my ear telling me to do this and that, I'm 31 I'm too good for that shyt.
And it's a liberating feeling to know that you are truly living for yourself and not for others.