This is why black fathers instilling pride in their sons is so important. Very cringe read.

[reserved_one]

And let's be all the way real...if y'all females was in that position and was dating a nikka that look like Dwayne Johnson that had nothing, y'all would be quick to give him the keys to your kingdom.

 

[Gold]

And let's be all the way real...if y'all females was in that position and was dating a nikka that look like Dwayne Johnson that had nothing, y'all would be quick to give him the keys to your kingdom.

Maybe breh is the Malawian Dwayne Johnson

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

What does breh bring to the relationship?

 

[Umoja]

it's the equivalent of him saying, "thank you for investing in me and increasing my value, your reward is me, the thing of value you created"

And?

 

[Petty Crocker]

Bum must mean something different in this thread

Sleeping on a friends couch
Someone unrelated to him had to buy him his first car
Someone unrelated to him had to pay his rent for several months
He makes no mention of mental illness, disability.

How was she able to see his "potential " if he had never displayed it? Where is his work ethic when someone is doing all the work for you?

 

[Umoja]

To me a bum is someone who is not trying.

People keep saying "what if it was your daughter's boyfriend" when the answer is simple. If I valued his character, I would treat him like a son and help him get on his feet.

It's like people have lost sight of the meaning of family when engaging in relationships.

 

[Originalman]

My mom was a large part of my dads success. I didn't even realize it, until she died. My dad hasn't done as well as he was doing when he was married to her, the woman he's with now, isn't like my mom. What is that saying: behind every great man is a great woman.

Sista that saying is very very true. I would argue many married dudes who retire from the workforce and had a lot to retire with. Usually it was because they didn't have a bunch of side women they were messing with, were responsible with their money and their wives either followed a long with their husband on a financial plan or helped manage the money to grow their nest egg.

 

[Originalman]

This chick is supposedly some kind of relationship expert. I can now see why so many Black women are unhappy. @2:17 she literally advises women not to lend money to a man even if the woman is married to the man, because if he is in need he is supposed to get the money from his male relatives or a bank rather than from his woman.

If the husband needed the money for a legitimate purpose like an auto repair, then that chick just gave Black women the worst fugging advice ever. If a husband and a wife are supposedly a team then why in the Hell would any wife let her husband go around trying to borrow money from other people when she knew that she had it to loan to him? That advice is the most selfish, ignorant self centered shyt of all time. There ain't no "I in team" heifer, but if the shoe was on the other foot and the husband refused to lend money to his wife, then those same selfish ignorant ass women would be saying that the man ain't shyt.

Breh that heffa a hustler. That ain't no marriage expert. Any woman or man who would do that shyt to their spouse aint about shyt and the marriage most likely ain't gonna work in the long run.

 

[Originalman]

We have a tendency to project and assume when it comes to some things we see on social media. I think @Nerdy black guy was testing us. Great thread and great execution

People love to make assumptions on their own insecurities. Especially when it comes from social media.

 

[Kyle C. Barker]

This thread is somethin.

Let a thread pop off tomorrow detailing a six figure woman dating a broke, homeless aspiring rapper whose life is financed by said woman.

She would get DRAGGED, along with a few posters generalizing black women's "poor choice in men." shyt would turn into a whole exposé on black women dating struggles.

In here, though?

"What a black queen "

Thecoli.com

And the plot twist was that he was an aspiring rapper the whole time.

:Wowdreds:

Op withheld that info until page 9

 

[Originalman]

This is something she shouldn't be poking her nose in anyway. What married couples do in their household and the measures they take to make it work are no one else's business.

Exactly.

 

[Balla]

See where simping gets you!!

They going in on him in the comments!!

 

[DerrtySouthpaw]

Pull your own weight or don’t get in a relationship tf
Bum nikkas and bum bytches

 

[invalid]

Seeing it black and white is just
I keep trying to think of a response but Im just at a loss for words. Homeless. No car. Bought him a car. Paid his rent.
This isnt ride or die, this is insanity.

It was when she gave gave him a laptop to do his work that took me out.

And then when she gave him two businesses.

She would make a GREAT father.

 

[Bubba T]

Pride may be a sin, but there’s something to be said for letting someone control your whole life to the point you can’t function without them. Many men can’t move this way.