This is why black fathers instilling pride in their sons is so important. Very cringe read.

[theGoldmangod]

Y'all nikkas bitter and mad that y'all never found a woman who believed or cared enough about y'all to help you reach a dream

It's bitterness. Why do y'all care what some couple in Africa does to uplift each other? I thought y'all was ADOS?

No other group of people so hard on their own men. If brehs on their grind and need support, they should date out. Cause nikkas in this thread don't care about black men like they say they do.

nikkas wonder why nikkas get money and dipped from the community. Cause y'all give no support but expect nikkas to come save them

Y'all really projecting negative american black male stereotypes on a couple who never even been here

Y'all don't even know they situation

Definitely not ADOS. And I'm not sure why you desperately keep throwing "American black" this and "American black" that out when nobody but you is on that shyt.

I'ma ask you the same thing I asked the other nikka who is mad nikkas aren't cosigning his plot to come up off a broad's labor: What does "support" and "help reach a dream" look like when its a man doing it for his woman?

Getting with a fat chick and building her up in the gym till she's thin?

Getting with an ugly chick and investing in her surgery to fix her face?

Getting with a chick who is on "hard times", and moving her in, paying her bills and debt, buying her a car, and getting her a job?

Or better yet, getting with a chick who made a bad choice in life and had a kid or two and is a single mother, and wifing her and building a family with her as a single childless breh?

Which one of the above things are you going to lie about agreeing with to make your trash posts in here look less trash?

 

[Samori Toure]

I’ll address the bolded.

So I can’t assign 50% of the blame towards black men for diminishing marriage rates, but y’all are supposed to be leaders? Leaders, much like football QBs (for example) have to carry a large part of the burden. You can’t expect all of the glory, but neglect all of the responsibility to get there.

I swear I’m not trying to down BM, but what market have black women priced themselves out of? We’ve been so understanding of how racism impacts black men, that we have collectively neglected our own best interest. And if every other ethnic group, including non ADOS, have higher incomes & wealth than ours, how can you possibly call their mates more practical? It would seem like the women in those communities require more, if we’re specifically talking about financials.

BM/WW pairings also lead all groups in divorce statistics, so what did you really gain?

The first answer is that you can not lead when a person on your team does not want to follow. Much like in your football example, that is why star wide receivers (Black women) are traded all the time, but the quarterbacks are kept. If the quarterback is going to take the blame then he needs weapons that will work with him. The wide receiver that is all about "I" worrying about her stats, but not about whether the "team" wins is not accepting her responsibility to help the team become winners is almost always traded (dumped).

Black American women priced themselves out of the market way back when they started talking that "on their level shyt." They basically reduced Black American men down to the value of a commodity. That is some sick crap on some kind European slave standard, which reduces the price of humanity down to some kind of fugged up monetary value. The thing that pisses Black women off is when Black men do the same thing to them and reduce them down from a woman to a bytch or a hoe; because hoes have value too and they even tell you what it costs.

 

[Prynce]

Definitely not ADOS. And I'm not sure why you desperately keep throwing "American black" this and "American black" that out when nobody but you is on that shyt.

I'ma ask you the same thing I asked the other nikka who is mad nikkas aren't cosigning his plot to come up off a broad's labor: What does "support" and "help reach a dream" look like when its a man doing it for his woman?

Getting with a fat chick and building her up in the gym till she's thin?

Getting with an ugly chick and investing in her surgery to fix her face?

Getting with a chick who is on "hard times", and moving her in, paying her bills and debt, buying her a car, and getting her a job?

Or better yet, getting with a chick who made a bad choice in life and had a kid or two and is a single mother, and wifing her and building a family with her as a single childless breh?

Which one of the above things are you going to lie about agreeing with to make your trash posts in here look less trash?

I keep bringing up this american black shyt because every reason a person gave as to why this woman is stupid is based on a black american perspective and outlook on life
You got brehs talking about black women on section 8 raising black men and risking losing it lmao (does africa even have section 8?)

Let me get this straight ...
A black man who is on his grind is a bum? I'm not talking about a breh who smokes weed all day and plays 2k in his 30s
I'm talking a breh genuinely down on his luck. Is it wrong for a woman to love him and help him back on his foot?
Is a man only valuable when he is doing good and prospering?
Should a woman bush a man if he has everything going for himself and hits a rough patch?

It seems to me that's what you are saying

Also to answer your question. If I love somebody and see potential in them I have no problem providing help. Isn't that what a relationship is about? You finding somebody that can help you and enjoy the fruits of life y'all build together?

When does a black man have value? When does a man deserve some help?

 

[theGoldmangod]

most dudes ain't GMB. shyt I got 3 BLACK nephews 25 and under who are married and married their BLACK wives after graduating college.

The biggest reason they get married at higher rates and we dont is because I laid part of it out in what you quoted. Second their parents actually encourage marriage and don't say dumb shyt like wait till after school to get married which is one if the dumbest things you can tell a kid. Oh look pass up all these eligible people your age in college. So you can date when you work 10 hours a week and most the folks at your job married.....brilliant!

Unlike bitter defeatest woman. My nephew wives actually came up with the amazing concept of looking for a spouse in college. And didn't do the woe is me all these men are dogs horse and pony show.

So right now I have about 10 professional married kats that I went to college with that I still keep up with. Every last one of these kats are married to a sista. The same sista that they dated in college.

Hell me myself married my college sweetheart. Guess what her sister married her college sweetheart who is actually one of my boys from college. We were dating two sisters in college that ended up being our wives.

Next as a black professional most of the black people I deal with are married...brace your self....to other black people. Not only that but most of the young black professionals 25 to 35 are married also to other black people.

shyt I can't count how many black male engineers I mentor whose weddings I been to the last 8 years. shyt one kat I mentor is getting married this year and he is 28 oh and his fiance is black also...amazing black men marrying black women. I would never think this existed. But I also don't spend my life on social media.

This is also all trill talk.

All of my homies that are about shyt are married to Black women. I'm talking doctors, engineers, IBers. Nah they didn't have their chicks paying their bills, but they both stuck by each other when they were young while each got their shyt together. Thats what building is. nikkas talking that build shyt nowadays though, are talking about it being a one way street where they take take take and pretend if their woman asks for reciprocation she ain't supportive. Don't get me wrong though, I know plenty of bytch ass nikkas who went outside in my profession, but they are also the cats who are completely disconnected from black people and was tokens in college too.

I always tell the young cats I mentor, get you a chick while you are in college and hold on to her. Try your hardest to do right by her and not fukk other bytches. If you really can't fight the urge to hoe around, its understandable at that age. But you gotta let her go. And while you enjoying that stage of your life, make sure you're building yourself. Don't be out here like a lot of nikkas, hoeing through their 20s and early to mid 30s and then looking for a bytch to work with them when that hairline starts pushing back and reality starts setting in. Chicks are going to want the finished product when you're that age, and ain't shyt wrong with that.

 

[southern.girl]

most dudes ain't GMB. shyt I got 3 BLACK nephews 25 and under who are married and married their BLACK wives after graduating college.

The biggest reason they get married at higher rates and we dont is because I laid part of it out in what you quoted. Second their parents actually encourage marriage and don't say dumb shyt like wait till after school to get married which is one if the dumbest things you can tell a kid. Oh look pass up all these eligible people your age in college. So you can date when you work 10 hours a week and most the folks at your job married.....brilliant!

Unlike bitter defeatest woman. My nephew wives actually came up with the amazing concept of looking for a spouse in college. And didn't do the woe is me all these men are dogs horse and pony show.

So right now I have about 10 professional married kats that I went to college with that I still keep up with. Every last one of these kats are married to a sista. The same sista that they dated in college.

Hell me myself married my college sweetheart. Guess what her sister married her college sweetheart who is actually one of my boys from college. We were dating two sisters in college that ended up being our wives.

Next as a black professional most of the black people I deal with are married...brace your self....to other black people. Not only that but most of the young black professionals 25 to 35 are married also to other black people.

shyt I can't count how many black male engineers I mentor whose weddings I been to the last 8 years. shyt one kat I mentor is getting married this year and he is 28 oh and his fiance is black also...amazing black men marrying black women. I would never think this existed. But I also don't spend my life on social media.

That’s great that your inner circle all believe in & support marriage. However, based on statistics, that is largely not the case for our community....especially before 30.

And you keep on focusing on black men marrying black women as if that was my gripe. It was not. I was responding to a poster that stated declining marriage rates were not black men’s fault b/c they are getting married to white women. I didn’t mentioned the others first. I simply responded to it.

 

[Samori Toure]

because those Black men get their shyt together, the more money Black men date, the more they are likely to date outside of their race.

I don't think that is true. A lot of rich Black men marry or were married to Black women. Lebron James, Michael Jordan, Denzel Washington, Barack Obama, Jesse Jackson, etc.

I think what actually happens is that while Black men are struggling trying to make it; they get rejected by a lot Black women, because Black women are looking for men on their level and they ain't trying to get with no struggling broke nikkas. Society signs off on that shyt, which is present right in this thread. So Black men are typically more practical than Black women and they will just date what ever woman will date them and that is usually a Becky. The thing that cracks me up are the Black women that get mad when they see White women with Black athletes. What a lot of Black women don't realize is that a lot of those athletes were probably rejected by a lot of Black women, but Becky was raised with practical standards and if she sees the potential in that guy she is likely to go for it. Becky was probably helping that dude out financially when he was poor while they were in college so the dude just stayed with her.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Btw if she doing all that...
Then he submitting to her at the end of the day...
Don't mind me...just stirring the pot on these unrealistic expectations.

 

[Tropical Fantasy]

I can’t believe some of the responses from so called grown men in this thread

Son was a bum and needed a woman to raise him. He just listed shyt she did for him, not shyt he likes about her.

 

[southern.girl]

Btw if she doing all that...
Then he submitting to her at the end of the day...
Don't mind me...just stirring the pot on these unrealistic expectations.

Thanks for bringing this up. I meant to ask this question earlier. Is she expected to submit to this man?

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

fukk all the debates I'm trying to see more pics of her.

 

[Pressure]

Black men are still in this thread complaining that a black woman helped a black man out when he was down while also complaining about black men having to go at it alone.

The the the the Coli...

 

[Matt504]

I don't think that is true. A lot of rich Black men marry or were married to Black women. Lebron James, Michael Jordan, Denzel Washington, Barack Obama, Jesse Jackson, etc.

I think what actually happens is that while Black men are struggling trying to make it; they get rejected by a lot Black women, because Black women are looking for men on their level and they ain't trying to get with no struggling broke nikkas. Society signs off on that shyt, which is present right in this thread. So Black men are typically more practical than Black women and they will just date what ever woman will date them and that is usually a Becky. The thing that cracks me up are the Black women that get mad when they see White women with Black athletes. What a lot of Black women don't realize is that a lot of those athletes were probably rejected by a lot of Black women, but Becky was raised with practical standards and if she sees the potential in that guy she is likely to go for it. Becky was probably helping that dude out financially when he was poor while they were in college so the dude just stayed with her.

Black athletes on average aren't hurting for attention from women of any race, depending on their trajectory, they can have their pick of the litter. nikkas getting with white women because they are a status symbol, not because those women were with them while they didn't have shyt. Parents of women from other races, especially white folk, will literally cut their daughters of for dating certain types of men.

 

[Samori Toure]

Black athletes on average aren't hurting for attention from women of any race, depending on their trajectory, they can have their pick of the litter. nikkas getting with white women because they are a status symbol, not because those women were with them while they didn't have shyt. Parents of women from other races, especially white folk, will literally cut their daughters of for dating certain types of men.

So much bullshyt in your response. When you are a broke college nikka; you ain't getting much play from sistas.

 

[southern.girl]

I don't think that is true. A lot of rich Black men marry or were married to Black women. Lebron James, Michael Jordan, Denzel Washington, Barack Obama, Jesse Jackson, etc.

I think what actually happens is that while Black men are struggling trying to make it; they get rejected by a lot Black women, because Black women are looking for men on their level and they ain't trying to get with no struggling broke nikkas. Society signs off on that shyt, which is present right in this thread. So Black men are typically more practical than Black women and they will just date what ever woman will date them and that is usually a Becky. The thing that cracks me up are the Black women that get mad when they see White women with Black athletes. What a lot of Black women don't realize is that a lot of those athlete were probably rejected by a lot of Black women, but Becky saw was raised with practical standards and if she sees the potential in that guy she is likely to go for it.

Are you serious about the bolded? I attended a SEC college when the SEC was dominating the bowls year after year. I can assure you, that if a footballer ended up with a non black girl, it’s because that’s what he wanted. It had nothing to do with rejection.

And btw, a lot of dudes got play. Athletes, frats, regular dudes too. Nothing is holding black men back from black women except their insecurity (I’m speaking in general before dudes catch feelings).

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Thanks for bringing this up. I meant to ask this question earlier. Is she expected to submit to this man?

Shhhhh we'll just see how it all plays out.
But these dudes expect chicks to finance their entire lives, support them, pay all the bills, do everything, expect nothing in return and all they bring to the table is dikk and promises at the end of the day...and wanna run shyt.



"Nah story short as fukk, this nikka ain't paid a bill in 6 months!"


Edit: That nikka had a 8pm curfew!!!!!!!