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[dora_da_destroyer]

You’re not as much as an outlier as you think and those women you described are playing themselves/probably not women you want to be with if they’re college educated chasing bums

Lol @ chasing bums (and income, or lacktherof, isn't what makes someone a bum). You stay with an excuse to everything so ok. Sure, never in life does a stable person ever deal with someone still working to establish themselves...and the ones that do suck. Got it

And yes, my earnings and education put me outside the average. That's why I said I'm an outlier. You're not going to meet too many people who went to the schools I went to who are willing to deal with someone with no direction and shyt earnings, especially not at 30+. People who went to average schools, make average money, and have average expectations will be more flexible - I've seen it personally, the difference in expectations my HS friends had for a partner vs those my college and bschool friends have.

My girls from HS are good women, and one basically stared with her husband while he was in that same type of situation, they built together. This year they'll hit 10 years married, two kids, a house, and both make 50-70k apiece

One of the deans at my undergrad also was married to someone broke/struggling, went back for reunion the other year and he's working comfortably within his field and has a stable income.

 

[shagnificent belafonte]

My first priority is my inner peace and happiness. (God)
My second priority is family.
My third priority is my securing the bag.
Fourth priority is dealing with women on MY terms.

Simple yet complicated, im not going to break it down right now but if you follow this list things tend to work out

Nothing comes before your peace and happiness

 

[Diondon]

Being up on game should enable to make better decision and move smarter.
Why avoid relationships? A bird in hand is worth two in the bush.

 

[MooseMouthMthafuga]

one, this is such a pessimistic, negative view to have of relationships. And what do you mean by having your time wasted? What are you putting out there to these women? Are you showing you're worth them being serious with? And if this is about relationships that end in a break up, that's life. Why act like it's the end of the world?

Still get screwed over? Again, seems like y'all are looking for shyt to go awry or you're messing with terrible women if you feel like the majority of them are screwing you over.


But that's cool, jaded pessimists are better pulling yourselves out the serious dating/relationship game cuz you'll end up being nothing but frustration or heartbreak for someone with a brighter outlook on love and life

This is a good point.You gotta let people live by their own concepts

 

[winb83]

Well the first step is, to stop dating women with social media.

Which is like 5% of women or less.

How would one even account for her social media accounts? She doesn't have to tell you about them anyway.

The evolution of society with social media has made the long term marriage and relationship lifestyle very difficult. There's just too many options and no real worked required to explore them. People face temptations the previous generations never had to deal with.

 

[MaxPain]

How would one even account for her social media accounts? She doesn't have to tell you about them anyway.

The evolution of society with social media has made the long term marriage and relationship lifestyle very difficult. There's just too many options and no real worked required to explore them. People face temptations the previous generations never had to deal with.

True

 

[Serious]

I'm in a relationship right now and I feel the same way OP does.

I see the padagrim of society and female sexuality. How women are turned on by committing a taboo (and if you're her man, anyone else becomes that taboo). The way both genders lie and sneak around. How accepted it is and the way friends or 3rd parties assist deception. My own experiences was a lot but the internet dropped the entire curtain and now people are not able to keep the lie going anymore. the more you look at it, the more being a good dude/loving boyfriend/being in relationships is an L.

It's like, if I'm living in a world where a boyfriends #1 and 2 are common...why would I ever want to be boyfriend #1 if I had the choice? And I do have the choice.


Why would I wanna be the one spending up my money of a chick when I could just as easily be the one meeting her up in a parking lot twice a week to just fukk?

Why would I want to let a woman get close enough to the point where regular little things may cause her to resent me when you can pipe chicks and retain an everlasting new car smell as a serial dater?

A padagrim like this completely destroys the game. To be fair I feel like us men as a whole poisoned this well a long time ago.

I expressed all these sentiments to my girl early on. I've never been cheated on to my knowledge but I never wanted to be some nikka playing detective. Stalking my girl phone and social media. It wasn't just lame to me, it's a shytty way to live. And I won't wait till I'm sure it happens or until it's blatant. If I'm not feeling right in this relationship I'll drop it.


I'm surprised at how understanding she is about it. When we met I was already in the mindset that I was gonna be single forever and I planned to enjoy my time with women until the sun sets on that chapter of my life. I was accustomed to dating/sexing women and doing nothing whatsoever to keep them. I was good at it too but I was getting worried I might end up being too jaded to start a family. That's how I ended up warming up to the idea of a relationship now. Chicks still wanted to be my girl the entire time. I just wasn't hearing it

My girl does a lot and makes an effort to make me happy. I try to keep that into perspective and not take her for granted, I think that's the most important thing for relationships these days. People don't appreciate who they have once they got em.

Exactly....

 

[ORDER_66]

Women cannot take rejection ... you denying another woman access to your time and resources is "bad for women"


Your feelings and thoughts aren't considered at all. They want to see you under the control of a woman

Under the control of a woman?!!? ME?!!?!? Never that fam...

 

[Cynic]

Under the control of a woman?!!? ME?!!?!? Never that fam...

 

[Da King]

#GMB have to be the most misinformed bitter nikkas on the planet

Being in a loving relationship is the GOAT :spurs:

 

[TransJenner]

I just see women as women, they can be here today and gone tomorrow

I know that lifestyle
Been there done that , it gets old after awhile tho


Maybe I'm just different

 

[Balla]

Is it? Idk when I get rejected by a girl who is just ok, I get mad like bytch you should be happy someone "think you look good enough to talk to." They be having attitudes too.

How did you get over that and start cold approaching?

Yeah i do. It aint ur ego its fear. Lose it

 

[JT-Money]

Taking advice from a woman who posts on a message board full of men, bragging about how good she believes her vagina is, and how she fantasizes about getting trains ran on her, isn't a smart move.

Would you want your woman doing that? The mother of your children doing that, talking to strangers about those things? How would they feel if they found out their fiancé was posting on a message board full of men, about taking multiple dikks and being smutted out? Maybe some men would like that, maybe some wouldn't.

But you should observe.

Anybody got a Link?

 

[seabreeze80]

Cheating definitely isn't exclusive to women. Choose a woman with the qualities you desire. Stop chasing based on looks and start looking at her personality and heart.

 

[Inf1ne]

Learn to see ppl places and things as disposable and interchangeable