A Black woman's perspective...

[KingHelga]

Yes, really. I don't visit those sites.

that might be why you don't see it then. ask @marcuz he's got most of those sites bookmarked.

 

[Versa]

I don't know what's more disgusting in this thread: the weak nikkas lusting over a two inch avi pic or the blacks sympathizing and siding with these weak, Anglo-saxon minded sellouts who are too lame to find them a decent black woman/man.

Talkin bout "black girls/men don't treat me right so I got me a white girl/man "

fukking pathetic. Kenya you should put that opening post in quotation marks so it's known that's not your thoughts. You're unfairly looking kinda Auntie Tom-like right now.

I would NEVER date a white woman. I'm not attracted to them 90% of the time, and even for those who happen to be undeniably pretty to me, I am far too black minded and in love with my people to be attractive to any woman who isn't black when it comes to a long term relationship. The fukk I look like talking with my wife Becky Sue, Kim Lee or Sofia Sanchez about the joke that is white privilege, powerful black history documentaries, the emasculation and destruction of black youth, our views on the newest Spike Lee or Tyler Perry project, or Erykah Badu's new album? They don't wanna hear that shyt, and I don't wanna hear their shyt either.

The reality is that for interracial relationships to succeed, one of two things has to happen - neither of which I am open to.

1. One of the people has to dumb down or completely eliminate their culture to accommodate the other race or there won't be a lot of moral, cultural, or sentimental common ground. For example, successful interracial couples usually consist of an Uncle/Aunt Tom, white-washed ass negro and a white girl/man, or a super urban, black-minded white boy/girl and a urban, black-minded black boy/girl. Both are rare because people who are in touch, in love, and connected to their people and culture have little interest in dating outside of their race. Let's keep it G, the weak minded who chase after these white girls/boys were just looking for an excuse to stop dating in their race anyway, and that person who beat them or cheated gave it to them. If you truly love your people, your race, you will stay in the game until you find a decent one. Weak.

2. Both people have to have a lack of connection with their race/culture to the point where both are only black/white/asian/hispanic in skin tone and that's it. They are so far removed from their culture that neither would have a problem accodomating one another's personalities and views because they are indoctrinated on being something general like "American" or "Human" rather than Black or Asian. Decultured Americans =

fukk all that. Give me a sista who can look me in the eyes and understand exactly where I'm coming from when I speak from a black perspective and vice versa. No hate on any other races though. I have plenty of friends from many different religions, colors, and backgrounds. I just don't fukk with them on the level that I fukk with my own people due to a lack of common ground.

And fukk Scandal.

 

[Richard Wright]

I think it all just comes down to circumstance. For example, I went to a really prestigious magnet school in hs. Im tall, confident, good looking and well read. My mom raised me to only date black women. Black girls would always be into me until I displayed my manners and intelligence. A lot of black women just seem to want a bummy type of guy.

And to anyone saying they dont want an intelligent, educated, woman, youre fronting. There is nothing that pisses off a smart man more than a dumb woman.

My girlfriend is white, but I dont love her because she looks different on the outside. I love her because she has the same ambition, intelligence, and values as me on the inside.

 

[#1 pick]

I think it all just comes down to circumstance. For example, I went to a really prestigious magnet school in hs. Im tall, confident, good looking and well read. My mom raised me to only date black women. Black girls would always be into me until I displayed my manners and intelligence. A lot of black women just seem to want a bummy type of guy.

And to anyone saying they dont want an intelligent, educated, woman, youre fronting. There is nothing that pisses off a smart man more than a dumb woman.

My girlfriend is white, but I dont love her because she looks different on the outside. I love her because she has the same ambition, intelligence, and values as me on the inside.

You probably lack swag or personality. You are probably boring.

 

[DaRealness]

that might be why you don't see it then. ask @marcuz he's got most of those sites bookmarked.

For clarity...did you mean to say how often do I visit sites that actually discuss or analyse the reasons why bw date out, or sites that cater or accommodate to bw who date out? It was the way you phrased it.

 

[DaRealness]

And to anyone saying they dont want an intelligent, educated, woman, youre fronting. There is nothing that pisses off a smart man more than a dumb woman.

I seem to hear this accusation against black men all the time, but I've never known a single dude in my life who didn't want an intelligent woman. Maybe it's my locality.

 

[SouthernBelle]

@ this thread

Right. I thought I woke up to 3 pages of thoughtful answers to the OP (which surprisingly there are some. The coli has made me proud ).

However, I could have made yall ( @Pheonix_Knightly23 @Xtraz2 @Ill Clinton @mtu wa chuma)
another thread to post random gifs and bs if that's what y'all wanted. You could have even done what most coli men and women do and go back and forth via pm or over each other's visitor page. Please don't be mad when I derail your threads with bullshyt (I might take the time to be petty and do it too). At least when I go back and forth with someone it's still related to the topic in the OP. I'm going to especially try to mess up and troll your threads @Xtraz2 because you actually admitted that your purpose was to derail my thread. I'm happy people got back on track though.

 

[SouthernBelle]

So basically the author is female and suggests that black women hold no accountability in the deterioration of the black family and our social values

Well there is a question at the end that says, it the issue black men or black women?

 

[philmonroe]

Let me tell ya what... men like the women that go the hardest for them and give them minimal amount of problems.

A lot of cats like them white girls because they give them minimal problems in comparison to what they've experienced with black women. A lot of it has to do with the exotic factor. Black men are 10% of the population and white women don't get to see them every day, so when she does see a black man, he's a rarity to her. Couple that with that whole 'mandingo' storyline they often got playing in their minds as well as blacks having the rep for 'being cool', what was an everyday, nondescript negro to a black woman is an exotic, tasty morsel to a white woman... and thus, he gets better treatment. It's like going out of town to a city in a different region. When a woman hears your accent, you're going to get better treatment because you're different compared to cats from around the way that she hears everyday.

I agree with the majority of your post I just dont know about white women not seeing black men daily unless they live in the sticks or one of those 95% white states though. If thats where your coming from ok but living in the city or even smaller places in other states I've honestly not saw that dynamic. I'm also assuming we are mainly talking US here.

 

[Uncle Trill]

People like to go to deep into it, yeah some of it is psychological but the main reason is white girls GENERALLY look better and have a better attitude. Im not a racist or self hating because I love black women but your average white women is better looking that your average black woman.

However a beautiful black woman is better looking than a beautiful white woman.

 

[KingDanz]

People like to go to deep into it, yeah some of it is psychological but the main reason is white girls GENERALLY look better and have a better attitude. Im not a racist or self hating because I love black women but your average white women is better looking that your average black woman.

However a beautiful black woman is better looking than a beautiful white woman.

nikka please

 

[MeachTheMonster]

People like to go to deep into it, yeah some of it is psychological but the main reason is white girls GENERALLY look better and have a better attitude. Im not a racist or self hating because I love black women but your average white women is better looking that your average black woman.

However a beautiful black woman is better looking than a beautiful white woman.

 

[BillBanneker]

on interracial dating.
@Chris.B and the likes, what do you guys think of this blogger's perspective?

What is so appealing about white women? Are they “easier”? Are they nicer? Are they more willing to “work with you” and try to understand you? Do they do things that Black, Asian, Hispanic, or other women for that matter, can’t or won’t do?

I think I know the answer. I think the appeal is a deeply-rooted psychological issue that manifested about 400 years ago. When Black men were hung, beaten, or worse for simply looking at white women, something became embedded in their psyche that says “sleeping with a white woman is the ultimate prize.” I also think this psychological problem stems from the rape and sexual abuse of Black women and the subsequent bearing the master’s “mulatto” children. This phenomenon also established the need to take something from the master, his most prized possession…his white woman.

Women, in general, have always been “symbols” of power and status. Genghis Khan and his armies, slept with as many women as possible; he reportedly had 500 women at a time at his disposal. The same was the case with European slave masters. Slave owners ensured that, in addition to their wives and/or mistresses, they had a plethora of slave women. In essence, the deterioration of relationships between Black men and Black women stemmed from the enslavement and perversion (of sex) by Europeans.

To this day, Black culture is so corrupted that it can barely function. Blacks seem to be at the lowest point in every aspect of life: poverty, education, disease, family functionality - just fill in the blanks. CNN’s Black in America stated that 45% of successful Black women are single. So that raises a question, is the issue Black women or Black men?

Let me know your thoughts!

DISCLAIMER: These are not my thoughts. I got it from this site: The Ebony Tower

Going for that platinum thread I see.

 

[karim]

The fukk I look like talking with my wife Becky Sue, Kim Lee or Sofia Sanchez about the joke that is white privilege, powerful black history documentaries, the emasculation and destruction of black youth, our views on the newest Spike Lee or Tyler Perry project, or Erykah Badu's new album? They don't wanna hear that shyt, and I don't wanna hear their shyt either.

The reality is that for interracial relationships to succeed, one of two things has to happen - neither of which I am open to.

1. One of the people has to dumb down or completely eliminate their culture to accommodate the other race or there won't be a lot of moral, cultural, or sentimental common ground. For example, successful interracial couples usually consist of an Uncle/Aunt Tom, white-washed ass negro and a white girl/man, or a super urban, black-minded white boy/girl and a urban, black-minded black boy/girl. Both are rare because people who are in touch, in love, and connected to their people and culture have little interest in dating outside of their race. Let's keep it G, the weak minded who chase after these white girls/boys were just looking for an excuse to stop dating in their race anyway, and that person who beat them or cheated gave it to them. If you truly love your people, your race, you will stay in the game until you find a decent one. Weak.

2. Both people have to have a lack of connection with their race/culture to the point where both are only black/white/asian/hispanic in skin tone and that's it. They are so far removed from their culture that neither would have a problem accodomating one another's personalities and views because they are indoctrinated on being something general like "American" or "Human" rather than Black or Asian. Decultured Americans =

fukk all that. Give me a sista who can look me in the eyes and understand exactly where I'm coming from when I speak from a black perspective and vice versa. No hate on any other races though. I have plenty of friends from many different religions, colors, and backgrounds. I just don't fukk with them on the level that I fukk with my own people due to a lack of common ground.

And fukk Scandal.

that shyt is even dumber than the op. it's the dumbest shyt i read in a while. i would call you a racist, but i believe that racism is a tool of oppression, so minorities can never be labeled as racist. still, try switching around the words white and black in your post and see what it looks like. you'd sound like some old white racist giving us the whole separete but equal speech. that whole deculturized and love your own kind shyt is what people say before they start genozides.

if you have never been in a mixed relationship, how do you know what it takes to make it work? most woman and man are fundamentally different in lots of areas, does that mean i have to become homosexual because i can't talk to my girl about sports, movies or rap music and am not interested in the stupid tv shows she watches? there is no dumbing down or selling out involved, it's the same thing any other relationship needs, you have to be willing to understand where your partner is coming from and accept him or her for who he is.

date whoever suits your bill, but spare us that whole difference speech that was invented to justify discrimination and exploitation.

 

[SouthernBelle]

Going for that platinum thread I see.

I just thought the post was interesting